Is it possible to lust after your spouse?

[dallasapple]

Who picks what is excessive and who picks what is normal for a human being?

The person you "expect" to have consentual sex with..I can not DECIDE for my husband that having sex with me 4 times a day is NOT "excesive" FOR HIM if he tells me it IS too much for him and vice versa..Im a human being ..but I dont fit in a "box" where whats NOT excessive for someone else means its NOT excessive FOR me..

Dallas

 

[Avniel]

The person you "expect" to have consentual sex with..I can not DECIDE for my husband that having sex with me 4 times a day is NOT "excesive" FOR HIM if he tells me it IS too much for him and vice versa..Im a human being ..but I dont fit in a "box" where whats NOT excessive for someone else means its NOT excessive FOR me..

Dallas

So if once a week is excessive to a spouse then what?

 

[hijklmnop]

So if once a week is excessive to a spouse then what?

Enjoy it when it happens and don't dwell on it. Sex less than once a week is not the end of the world. Yay! You're having sex almost 50 times a year! That's great! There are lots of other lovely ways to enjoy your time on this earth too....

 

[dallasapple]

So if once a week is excessive to a spouse then what?

I guess I dont understand exactly what you mean by "then what"?I personally woudnt consider having the DESIRE to have to have sex once a week obsissive or excessive..but still I dont know what you mean by "then what'?I cetainly wouldnt say then its the time to obsess/dwell on it either..but thats just me..so I cant really answer your question of "then what".

Dallas

 

[Tannic]

The Greek word translated 'lust' is a word that means 'desire', but throughout the New Testament it is used for inappropriate desires.

Paul wrote in Romans 7,
"for I had not known lust, except the law had said 'Thou shalt not covet'."

It is my belief that coveting involves desiring things that are not your own. The commandment, which says "Thou shalt not covet" gives some examples. One is "thy neighbor's wife, or anything that thy neighbor hath."

The neighbor 'has' his wife. I Corinthians 7 says "let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband."

Therefore, I do not see sexual desire for one's spouse to be lust, since we have 'rights' to one another. As Paul puts it, the husband and wife have 'power' over one another's bodies.

I don't think lusting for your spouse is wrong but I do believe there is a limit to it. At any given time no one should be forcing themselves on their spouse and forcing them completely against their will about sex in particular but I do believe you can lust after your spouse but not just for 'lusting.'