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It's a thing one is born with and has no control over. I used to wish I was attractive. But these days, I wouldn't want unwanted attention just based on my looks.True. I dont have that thought, and cant get it. So im stuck.
Its not possible to be missfortune in meeting the wrong people all the time for a very long time. Its clear that the problem is me, not others.You simply had the misfortune of meeting people who has their concept of beauty twisted entirely the other way around!
I've seen your picture, you're not ugly, above average, and that is my very honest opinion, no sugar coating! Although I do find many of the alien species in Star Trek attractive.
You should be thankful those people who thinks your ugly did not become your friends because they'd be horrible friends, nothing more than an empty shell that would crumble even in the slightest wind.
Don't think it's the norm, you're probably just getting through the "bad luck" phase of your life. I have for many years and still. I have lost hope many times. I don't think it's because I'm ugly but simply because the devil must hate me so much more than other people because I stumbled upon the dreaded truth.
I have putting in a giganic effort for 16 years nonstop, i realised its not gonna work and gave up. God wants me to live socially isolated my whole life. He made it so nobody can like me. He wants me for himself.The bigger the stumbling block the greater the effort. If you’re wrestling against difficult things you need to increase your warfare. Which means more prayer, fasting, time in the word, fellowship, and positive helps. You can’t afford to slack when the odds are great. You turn up the heat and storm heaven until it breaks.
Thoughts are the devil’s domain. That’s where he starts. Feelings follow then people and circumstances. We’re our greatest adversary. He disarms us from within and without until we crumble. The negatives you repeat are manna for him. He wants you to say it and believe it too.
The spiritual realm is like a chessboard and you’re the prize. The goal is to keep you from God. He uses the pain and disappointment to sow doubt and keeps feeding it until you give up. Once you do you’re his. That’s how he thinks.
Read The Screwtape Letters. It will enlighten you.
~bella
That's simply not correct.God wants me to live socially isolated my whole life
We're made in GODS Image.Problem is that im actually super ugly for real
Adam was the only human at that time. Nowdays there is vastly more. God have different plans for all of us.That's simply not correct.
GOD wouldn't have made EVE for Adam.
"And the Lord GOD said, It is not good that the man should be alone;I will make him an help meet for him."
why accept the lie the enemy continues to tell you?Adam was the only human at that time. Nowdays there is vastly more. God have different plans for all of us.
Im deformed, objective ugly. Thats a fact. Nobody has ever told me that im not ugly. In fact many have told me that im super ugly, most ugly guy they ever seen etc. Its not possible for anyone to think im not super ugly.Embrace what God has given you. Ugly to one can be beautiful to another!
Be positive my friends.
God bless you
Its God who tells me this. Ive been friendless for 16 years. Thats the proof right there that im not good enough to get a friend.why accept the lie the enemy continues to tell you?
That doesn't prove anything other than what you feel.Thats the proof right there that im not good enough to get a friend.
If i was good enough, i would not have been friendless for 16 years.That doesn't prove anything other than what you feel.
"The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?"
I have putting in a giganic effort for 16 years nonstop, i realised its not gonna work and gave up. God wants me to live socially isolated my whole life. He made it so nobody can like me. He wants me for himself.
I'm saying the gently, the enemy uses lies and put downs to make us isolate ourselves.If i was good enough, i would not have been friendless for 16 years.
Amen.I'm saying the gently, the enemy uses lies and put downs to make us isolate ourselves.
Yeah i have given up on finding friends and a wife.Then admit you’ve thrown in the towel. You’re making negative comments about yourself and know we’ll respond. So which is it? Are you looking for help or pity?
God doesn't want anyone to live socially isolated their entire life. That is not right for you to say. In doing so, you are actually ascribing a cruel nature to God. You should really rethink this mindset as it is very harmful. There are many times that Christians have found themselves in situations of isolation : not because God planned that for them, but because others shunned or persecuted them because of their commitment to God. God should not be viewed as some capricious being that decides to make you ugly and friendless to keep you "all for himself." Just think about how that sounds. A God that is cruel would not be just or worth serving. So, instead of being bratty in all these posts and ignoring and arguing with anyone who tries to encourage you, why don't you think about the obvious: the problem might be that you want this to be true and you continue this cycle of being friendless because you push others away. You have convinced yourself that it is true and you don't want to be told otherwise. By now, you would have lots of friends in this forum if you spent your time engaging with others in the other discussions instead of starting these pointless, negative threads. I would have stayed out of this thread altogether, but I think you should be reminded to speak more carefully about God. It is okay to vent sometimes or feel down, but it always sinful to blame God. It doesn't help you at all and it alienates the only one who can help you. Just a thoughtI have putting in a giganic effort for 16 years nonstop, i realised its not gonna work and gave up. God wants me to live socially isolated my whole life. He made it so nobody can like me. He wants me for himself.
Yes the devil does that, but my "problems" is not lies from the devil, its truth from God. I just have to accept being friendless and virgin my whole life. God made this way because he wants me for himself. Satan is trying to tempt me to want friends and wife. God told me this.I'm saying the gently, the enemy uses lies and put downs to make us isolate ourselves.
Even when we venture outside the enemy will sometimes use people to insult us so we go back and stay isolated. That is the strategy the enemy uses, and likewise myself too I did not believe myself worthy of friends for years and kept to myself fearing those negative comments, o I get where you're coming from.
To combat this you will need to start renewing your mind with the truth from scripture about how God sees you, and who you are in Christ. then when you venture out and the devil uses people to call you names you can recall to mind scriptures that will make you strong and those comments will just fall away.
I also have been called the ugliest thing he had ever seen by a relative. but this is not true.
may I recommend the Freedom in Christ course. I believe it would really be beneficial and healing.
I pray God visits you with His incredible Love and heals the hurt places.
may God bless you very much!!
Not sure if being friendless my whole life is the same thing as socially isolated?God doesn't want anyone to live socially isolated their entire life. That is not right for you to say. In doing so, you are actually ascribing a cruel nature to God. You should really rethink this mindset as it is very harmful. There are many times that Christians have found themselves in situations of isolation : not because God planned that for them, but because others shunned or persecuted them because of their commitment to God. God should not be viewed as some capricious being that decides to make you ugly and friendless to keep you "all for himself." Just think about how that sounds. A God that is cruel would not be just or worth serving. So, instead of being bratty in all these posts and ignoring and arguing with anyone who tries to encourage you, ( and gasp, blaming God) why don't you think about the obvious: the problem might be that you want this to be true and you continue this cycle of being friendless because you push others away. You have convinced yourself that it is true and you don't want to be told otherwise. By now, you would have lots of friends in this forum if you spent your time engaging with others in the other discussions instead of starting these pointless, negative threads. I would have stayed out of this thread altogether, but I think you should be reminded to speak more carefully about God. It is okay to vent sometimes or feel down, but it always sinful to blame God. It doesn't help you at all and it alienates the only one who can help you. Just a thought
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