Is it possible to be too ugly to get IRL friends?

[KJ91]

If someone is 1 of 10 on the look scale, and is horrible ugly with no chance to improve his looks, is it not possible then that people
will be ashamed to be viewed with this person? This person would drag down their social status. Its hard
being friend with someone who everytime they look at you they are almost puking because of how unattractive you are.

Many have told me that im so ugly that nobody is gonna want to have me as a friend IRL. Im so ugly people dont even view
me as a human, they view me as some alien species from Star Trek or something.

Im talking about IRl friends now, not internet friends.

I know, nobody is ugly in Gods eyes, and that is what is most important. Im talking about human beings now only. We are living in a shallow modern society.

 

[Lost Witness]

If someone is 1 of 10 on the look scale, and is horrible ugly with no chance to improve his looks, is it not possible then that people
will be ashamed to be viewed with this person? This person would drag down their social status. Its hard
being friend with someone who everytime they look at you they are almost puking because of how unattractive you are.

Many have told me that im so ugly that nobody is gonna want to have me as a friend IRL. Im so ugly people dont even view
me as a human, they view me as some alien species from Star Trek or something.

Im talking about IRl friends now, not internet friends.

I know, nobody is ugly in Gods eyes, and that is what is most important. Im talking about human beings now only. We are living in a shallow modern society.

all people are beautiful, For we are all the work of GODS hands and nothing he's made isn't beautiful. Our 'personalities' born out of disobedience and sinfulness are what's 'ugly'

 

[Jonaitis]

If someone is 1 of 10 on the look scale, and is horrible ugly with no chance to improve his looks, is it not possible then that people
will be ashamed to be viewed with this person? This person would drag down their social status. Its hard
being friend with someone who everytime they look at you they are almost puking because of how unattractive you are.

Many have told me that im so ugly that nobody is gonna want to have me as a friend IRL. Im so ugly people dont even view
me as a human, they view me as some alien species from Star Trek or something.

Im talking about IRl friends now, not internet friends.

I know, nobody is ugly in Gods eyes, and that is what is most important. Im talking about human beings now only. We are living in a shallow modern society.

I am one of those people. Always have been. I am a really odd person on top of that. I get it from my father. I live a pretty lonely life, that's why I have joined Christian forums since I was a teenager.

We do live in a shallow society.

 

[Ceallaigh]

Some people despite being very unattractive have a certain charm, charisma, whatever that makes them appealing to others.

 

[LoveDivine]

If someone is 1 of 10 on the look scale, and is horrible ugly with no chance to improve his looks, is it not possible then that people
will be ashamed to be viewed with this person? This person would drag down their social status. Its hard
being friend with someone who everytime they look at you they are almost puking because of how unattractive you are.

Many have told me that im so ugly that nobody is gonna want to have me as a friend IRL. Im so ugly people dont even view
me as a human, they view me as some alien species from Star Trek or something.

Im talking about IRl friends now, not internet friends.

I know, nobody is ugly in Gods eyes, and that is what is most important. Im talking about human beings now only. We are living in a shallow modern society.

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[bèlla]

If you spend all your time dwelling on your imperfections and talking about them to everyone around you they’ll grow tired eventually. They don’t want to hear that constantly.

If you’re struggling to move beyond them you need to work with a therapist. Your friends can’t fix that and you may be sabotaging your connections unknowingly.

~bella

 

[bèlla]

KJ91,

You spend a lot of time focusing on what’s wrong with you in your posts. Whether its virginity, appearance or mental aptitude. I can’t help but wonder if you do the same elsewhere.

It’s difficult to build healthy connections (platonic or otherwise) when we don’t feel good about ourselves. We attract what we are. You’re more likely to draw someone equally challenged than a person who isn’t.

You won’t break the cycle until you heal.

I shared something on that topic yesterday. You may want to listen. God bless.

~bella

 

[DragonFox91]

I could never get a girl to like me. I just don't have it.

 

[Lost Witness]

I could never get a girl to like me. I just don't have it.

Women control the 'dating game' (it's also a carnal game, best not to play it)

 

[DragonFox91]

Women control the 'dating game' (it's also a carnal game, best not to play it)

 

[Saucy]

I've never really attracted a girl, but I've always had a ton of friends and people who care about me.

 

[Lost Witness]

I've never really attracted a girl, but I've always had a ton of friends and people who care about me.

from my experiences we tend to overlook those who are interested in us because we're 'just friends'

 

[Saucy]

from my experiences we tend to overlook those who are interested in us because we're 'just friends'

It's possible girls are attracted to me, but I was oblivious to it. I don't think I'm ugly or anything. But I'm not drawing the line between friends and attractiveness. I know many dudes much uglier than me who married beautiful women. I don't get sad over that or anything, but maybe they are more confident in themselves, which was attractive.

I'm not saying women don't use looks as a barometer, but they are more willing to look past physical attractiveness if some men have other great qualities. Looks aren't everything, especially when it's just friendship.

 

[Lost Witness]

It's possible girls are attracted to me, but I was oblivious to it. I don't think I'm ugly or anything. But I'm not drawing the line between friends and attractiveness. I know many dudes much uglier than me who married beautiful women. I don't get sad over that or anything, but maybe they are more confident in themselves, which was attractive.

I'm not saying women don't use looks as a barometer, but they are more willing to look past physical attractiveness if some men have other great qualities. Looks aren't everything, especially when it's just friendship.

most of the female friends I've had in real life sadly, i ended up dating. I'm not an "attractive" guy as I've been told by more people than i can possibly count.
I also know my personality isn't any good, nor am i the brightest bulb in the basket.
All my experiences with dating comes from when i was living a most unclean, rebellious way.
None of my relationships in life have been blessed.
I find no worth in living as I've lived.
As it led me to rebel against the LORD
which has put me in a place where i know from a biblical standpoint, that I'm truly a Fool.
All I can offer is advice nobody wise would ever consider.

 

[angelsaroundme]

It sounds like you have body dysmorphia. By that I mean your view of your appearance does not fit reality but rather a very low self image. I don't know how available or costly therapy is in Sweden but it could help.

Body dysmorphic disorder - Symptoms and causes

www.mayoclinic.org

A lot of people get called ugly. Sometimes it's because the person has bad acne that day or something else that can be worked on. Sometimes it has no basis at all. The person just wants to drag someone else down.

 

[timewerx]

If someone is 1 of 10 on the look scale, and is horrible ugly with no chance to improve his looks, is it not possible then that people
will be ashamed to be viewed with this person? This person would drag down their social status. Its hard
being friend with someone who everytime they look at you they are almost puking because of how unattractive you are.

Many have told me that im so ugly that nobody is gonna want to have me as a friend IRL. Im so ugly people dont even view
me as a human, they view me as some alien species from Star Trek or something.

Im talking about IRl friends now, not internet friends.

I know, nobody is ugly in Gods eyes, and that is what is most important. Im talking about human beings now only. We are living in a shallow modern society.

You simply had the misfortune of meeting people who has their concept of beauty twisted entirely the other way around!

I've seen your picture, you're not ugly, above average, and that is my very honest opinion, no sugar coating! Although I do find many of the alien species in Star Trek attractive.

You should be thankful those people who thinks your ugly did not become your friends because they'd be horrible friends, nothing more than an empty shell that would crumble even in the slightest wind.

Don't think it's the norm, you're probably just getting through the "bad luck" phase of your life. I have for many years and still. I have lost hope many times. I don't think it's because I'm ugly but simply because the devil must hate me so much more than other people because I stumbled upon the dreaded truth.

 

[KJ91]

It sounds like you have body dysmorphia. By that I mean your view of your appearance does not fit reality but rather a very low self image. I don't know how available or costly therapy is in Sweden but it could help.

Body dysmorphic disorder - Symptoms and causes

www.mayoclinic.org

A lot of people get called ugly. Sometimes it's because the person has bad acne that day or something else that can be worked on. Sometimes it has no basis at all. The person just wants to drag someone else down.

I know about BDD. Problem is that im actually super ugly for real. Im already in therapy, for years. It does not help becuse therapists or meds do not change the way i look.

 

[KJ91]

KJ91,

You spend a lot of time focusing on what’s wrong with you in your posts. Whether its virginity, appearance or mental aptitude. I can’t help but wonder if you do the same elsewhere.

It’s difficult to build healthy connections (platonic or otherwise) when we don’t feel good about ourselves. We attract what we are. You’re more likely to draw someone equally challenged than a person who isn’t.

You won’t break the cycle until you heal.

I shared something on that topic yesterday. You may want to listen. God bless.

~bella

No, i dont. Im only doing it anymously on internet sometimes when i feel down.

 

[KJ91]

Some people despite being very unattractive have a certain charm, charisma, whatever that makes them appealing to others.

True. I dont have that thought, and cant get it. So im stuck.

 

[bèlla]

No, i dont. Im only doing it anymously on internet sometimes when i feel down.

The bigger the stumbling block the greater the effort. If you’re wrestling against difficult things you need to increase your warfare. Which means more prayer, fasting, time in the word, fellowship, and positive helps. You can’t afford to slack when the odds are great. You turn up the heat and storm heaven until it breaks.

Thoughts are the devil’s domain. That’s where he starts. Feelings follow then people and circumstances. We’re our greatest adversary. He disarms us from within and without until we crumble. The negatives you repeat are manna for him. He wants you to say it and believe it too.

The spiritual realm is like a chessboard and you’re the prize. The goal is to keep you from God. He uses the pain and disappointment to sow doubt and keeps feeding it until you give up. Once you do you’re his. That’s how he thinks.

Read The Screwtape Letters. It will enlighten you.

~bella