ok, im just curious, is it ok to date/marry someone that you are related too by family's marrying together? like, a someone that you are related too by your mothers mothers brothers daughters brothers daughter? haha, if htat makes any sense at all. and i dont even know if thats correct, but, ya. its complitcated.
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I do believe there are legal issues around blood relations depending on how close they are.
I have heard of some first cousins marrying but think that is illegal in some places.
And in this crazy world of combined families I think there is more a moral issue to not marry your step brother or sister even though not illegal necessarily.
I have heard of some first cousins marrying but think that is illegal in some places.
And in this crazy world of combined families I think there is more a moral issue to not marry your step brother or sister even though not illegal necessarily.
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not step sister, some sorta cousin somewher down the line, but i dont htink were related genetically...
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Raanan
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Yes, it's fine. The issue is with genetics. It's illegal to marry blood (genetic) relatives up to 4th cousins (might be more then that). I know that because my sister married my uncle's brother who was no relation to us.
It works like this.
My mom's sister married my uncle. My uncle's brother, met my sister, one thing led to another, and now they're married and expecting their first child. It's a bit weird to get your head around but you get used to it.
It works like this.
My mom's sister married my uncle. My uncle's brother, met my sister, one thing led to another, and now they're married and expecting their first child. It's a bit weird to get your head around but you get used to it.
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If I read the original post correctly, this is like four generations once or twiced removed as they call it.......I think.
What it looks like is your granduncles son's daughter since you did say your mother's brother's daughter's brother or something like that. That would make three generations and in most places that would be pretty much okay. It's between first and second generation cousins I think most places frown upon.
What it looks like is your granduncles son's daughter since you did say your mother's brother's daughter's brother or something like that. That would make three generations and in most places that would be pretty much okay. It's between first and second generation cousins I think most places frown upon.
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I wouldn't see anything wrong with it from a legal or moral standpoint, but depending on your family, it might be weird, if your families are at all close. My father married his aunt's husband's neice before he married my mom (they divorced first - he's not a bigamist), and they weren't at all related, but from what I hear, it was weird, and now they're divorced, it's really weird.
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In my family, once you're married into the family, you're sort of - kind of - related. (You should hear my Mom when she tries to explain how someone's related to me.) 
Let me give you an example:
My granduncle's (whom I call my grandpa) wife's family is now related to me by marriage, even though there is no blood relation. Thus, my grandaunts(grandma's) brothers and sisters I call uncle and auntie. And their children are my cousins. No blood relation whatsoever. So eventually, everything gets real confusing, especially when doing the Family Tree.
Let me give you an example:
My granduncle's (whom I call my grandpa) wife's family is now related to me by marriage, even though there is no blood relation. Thus, my grandaunts(grandma's) brothers and sisters I call uncle and auntie. And their children are my cousins. No blood relation whatsoever. So eventually, everything gets real confusing, especially when doing the Family Tree.
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I don't quite understand the question, but if you're just related because your mother or someone in your family tree married a person (not related) with a child--then, I think it's all right (but I'm still debating about this topic), but if somehow you're related by blood--I don't think that's a good idea. One thing that doesn't make it all right is the fact that you might start a genetic problem that was originally recessive in your family to be passed on w/in your family, as an example the Jewish people--they have the Jakobson's disease-- b/c they tend to inter-marry--or maybe it's Amish---oi, it's one of them. I don't know if this helps.
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its ok, i just found out it is a blood relation, so w/e. the whole thing arose from me not knowing we were related in even the least when we met... but its all good.
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Sascha Fitzpatrick
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I dated my stepbrother for 2 months (BEFORE he was my stepbrother, but AFTER our parents got engaged)- I fell hard, so it was REALLY bad when we broke up (but it's all good now)...
Apart from the emotional issues that might arise if you were to break up - I think dating someone you're related to by marriage is A-OK!
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Apart from the emotional issues that might arise if you were to break up - I think dating someone you're related to by marriage is A-OK!
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So would that be a family outing or a double date? That could get real complicated real quick.Sascha Fitzpatrick said:
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charligirl
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26 States allow the marriage of first cousins - it is also totally legal in the UKcaitlincares said:
No European country prohibits marriage between first cousins. It is also legal throughout Canada and Mexico to marry your cousin. The USA is the only western country with cousin marriage restrictions.
Children of non-related couples have a 2-3% risk of birth defects, as opposed to first cousins having a 4-6% risk. Genetic counseling is available for those couples that may be at a special risk for birth defects (e.g. You have a defect that runs in your family) In plain terms first cousins have at a 94 percent + chance of having healthy children. The National Society of Genetic Counselors estimated the increased risk for first cousins is between 1.7 to 2.8 percent, or about the same a any woman over 40 years of age. Second cousins have little, if any increased chance of having children with birth defects, per the book "Clinical Genetics Handbook"
http://www.cousincouples.com/index.shtml?./pages/facts.htm
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okay, now if I understand the question right, you're talking about a third cousin, right?
I heard somewhere a while ago that in Canada the only cousins you can legally marry would be your third cousin and down from there(fourth, etc..)
this is only hearsay though, I can't be certain of what the laws really are.
I heard somewhere a while ago that in Canada the only cousins you can legally marry would be your third cousin and down from there(fourth, etc..)
this is only hearsay though, I can't be certain of what the laws really are.
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