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Is It A Sin to touch?

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revrobor

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Apologetic said:
ok... first, yes, the Bible speaks of touching yourself, but under another name. Remember Onan from Genesis 38,9-10?

9And Onan knew that the seed should not be his; and it came to pass, when he went in unto his brother's wife, that he spilled it on the ground, lest that he should give seed to his brother.
And the thing which he did displeased the LORD: wherefore he slew him also.

In many other languages than English, f.ex. Norwegian, the word for touching yourself is "onani", direct off the name Onan and the connection is clear.

However, it is a different situation, and is not completely in relation to what we call touching yourself today.

Remember, the Word of God doesn't "just" say no impure thoughts, but that lust toward other people than your spouse is sin. Now... how can you touch without fantasizing? To me that seems pretty impossible.

Another thing is - when you fill your life with these kind of things, eventually it will fill your mind and you'll have trouble with it. Trust me. I know.

Another question is - what to do when tempted? Call on Jesus! Tell Him what's going on in your head. Remember that He died for your sins on the cross. Remember, the law is never the power to overcome temptation. Only the gospel can motivate you to do what God wants.

Good grief!

I'm getting so tired of people using the Onan story to justify a Biblical prohibition of masturbation. Read that story again. Onan was told to impregnate his brother's wife. They were having sexual intercourse and he withdrew before [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] and spilled his seed on the ground. He was punished for his disobedience NOT masturbation. Get you facts straight before you quote a Scripture!

As far as fantasizing is concerned you can't speak for every man on the planet. It is possible to touch without fantacizing or lusting. Again, get your facts straight.

I'm not encouraging masturbation but attempting to discourage the twisting of Scripture and the presentation of twisted "facts".
 
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As far as fantasizing is concerned you can't speak for every man on the planet. It is possible to touch without fantacizing or lusting. Again, get your facts straight.

I'm not encouraging masturbation but attempting to discourage the twisting of Scripture and the presentation of twisted "facts".


I totally agree with you on both accounts (above and the Onan story!!)
 
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revrobor said:
I'm not encouraging masturbation but attempting to discourage the twisting of Scripture and the presentation of twisted "facts".

Be careful of your accusations, revrobor. I certainly didn't mean to twist anything, and certainly not Scripture. I am truly and deeply sorry for any misinformation I may have put forth, but I would NEVER twist Scripture. Twisting Scripture is a deliberate action. I was speaking in my lack of knowledge and I deeply apologize for that. I should've checked it out first and I think you are right about Onan and God's reason to reject him. :o

Be careful before you accuse anyone of twisting Scripture. It's a very serious thing to do so (primarily twisting Scripture, secondarily accusing people of doing so on the basis of one post), because the exact action of twisting requires a deliberate mind wanting to do so to make them look wise or closer to God than others among other reasons. Could it be that you have misunderstood the person, or he/she was speaking this way because of lack of knowledge? is the question you need to ask them. If everybody should be as rash about these things as you have been here, I guess every newly born again is twisting Scripture, according to your logic? :scratch:

Although I don't need to defend myself concerning this matter, for God knows my heart, I should perhaps tell you of my engagements in fighting false teachings and practices in the church today. Generally, I think it was unfair of you to jump to such a conclusion about me.

Now, if I was to "get even" with you on this, I would accuse you of steering the conversation into getting me defensive so I lose track of the subject and my arguments in favor of my statement. (Which is everything but being relevant and showing good form in a discussion.) But I don't think that was your intent. I think you saw the misinterpretation of Scripture, which I was guilty of - not knowing what Onan's story was really about - and I ask everybody's forgiveness for that, and you reacted to it, though you were rash, too harsh and ignorant of my heart and intent in your response.

Well, back to the subject. It's the thing with impure thoughts. Somebody says you can mesterbate without having impure thoughts. Maybe you can do this 1/20 times, but what of the other 19? And what things do you think would occupy your mind? The lust for masterbating always comes from lusting for someone or a certain part of someone. Lusting for someone who is not your spouse is a sin, so why should we make up excuses to keep masterbating? I think it's a "pet sin" to many, and it was to me a long time as well, but my conscience became captive to these verses:

Matt 5,27-29:
27 Ye have heard that it was said, Thou shalt not commit adultery:

28 but I say unto you, that every one that looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

29 And if thy right eye causeth thee to stumble, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not thy whole body be cast into hell.
 
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Somebody says you can mesterbate without having impure thoughts. Maybe you can do this 1/20 times, but what of the other 19? And what things do you think would occupy your mind? The lust for masterbating always comes from lusting for someone or a certain part of someone.

where does this 1/20 come from?

I agree ... if you are lusting for someone (etc) then you have obviously gone too far!
but the point we are making is it is not too difficult to do the act without lusting!

I don't really want to go into any more detail here!
.... if for you its a "1/20 thing" then I agree you should not do it!
 
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I know that masturbation is a sin, I have been convicted. Not only this but today while reading through Matthew I came across this (the most direct part is missed earlier)

Matthew 5:30 If your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away! It is better to lose one of your members than have your whole body go to hell.

Why would He say "right hand"? Isn't it obvious enough, espeically after He spoke of lust and adultery?

I was in meditative prayer when the Holy Spirit convicted me, I was quiet and listening. My thoughts resisted a lot though, because it is hard to see how I could avoid that and it is a sin and I hate sin. I never look at porn the only way that starts me is gradual things... satan sneaking up on me. It's hot at night so I take off more and more clothes and eventually I get stimulated and fall into sin. But I know the only way to prevent falling into that sin is with Jesus' help. I have to rebuke satan whenever I get sexual desire or any impure thoughts, if I don't than it gets harder and harder to resist. I know this is a big struggle for a lot of people. We need to know that it is wrong and we can only stay away from it with God's help.

I know that I am not alone. It was very encouraging when some Scripture came to mind. Like when Paul feels helpless to sin sometimes. We must know that when we have a habitual sin we open ourselves up more for oppression by deceiving spirits. Anything that can bring you away from God must be avoided! Please people, do not try to reason if sexual stimulation is a sin or not. Because in your own mind you will find a justification because we are naturally so biased towards it and can't see how we can avoid it. It won't always be a struggle once you start letting Jesus fight the battle for you :)
 
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all things through Christ said:
I know that masturbation is a sin, I have been convicted. Not only this but today while reading through Matthew I came across this (the most direct part is missed earlier)

Matthew 5:30 If your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away! It is better to lose one of your members than have your whole body go to hell.

Why would He say "right hand"? Isn't it obvious enough, espeically after He spoke of lust and adultery?

I was in meditative prayer when the Holy Spirit convicted me, I was quiet and listening. My thoughts resisted a lot though, because it is hard to see how I could avoid that and it is a sin and I hate sin. I never look at porn the only way that starts me is gradual things... satan sneaking up on me. It's hot at night so I take off more and more clothes and eventually I get stimulated and fall into sin. But I know the only way to prevent falling into that sin is with Jesus' help. I have to rebuke satan whenever I get sexual desire or any impure thoughts, if I don't than it gets harder and harder to resist. I know this is a big struggle for a lot of people. We need to know that it is wrong and we can only stay away from it with God's help.

I know that I am not alone. It was very encouraging when some Scripture came to mind. Like when Paul feels helpless to sin sometimes. We must know that when we have a habitual sin we open ourselves up more for oppression by deceiving spirits. Anything that can bring you away from God must be avoided! Please people, do not try to reason if sexual stimulation is a sin or not. Because in your own mind you will find a justification because we are naturally so biased towards it and can't see how we can avoid it. It won't always be a struggle once you start letting Jesus fight the battle for you :)

That's a stretch! What if the person is LEFT handed? :D

God may have convicted you that it is wrong for you but there is absolutely no Scripture addressing the issue. To twist the Scripture as you just have prooves just how far some will go to try to give Biblical support to their particular position.
 
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When one thinks about it, one can participate in sexual orgies without sinning as long as they do not allow sexual thoughts to enter their mind as they are participating in them.
It's great that we live in a culture where one's thoughts and actions are not connected.
 
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here is my stance...ok touching yourself is a sin..and to be honest..i have done it without thinking of anybody..just for the pleasure(I am not lying)..but it does not make it right..it is a sin..think of it this way..God made the body..He made the penis..for urinating and for sex..He did not make it for the man to use his hand to stimulate himself..it isnt made for that..



God bless
 
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I agree that the thoughts that go along with masturbation lead to lust and are sinful. I also think that your conscience tells you what is right for you. I think though that you shouldn't try to stop and persecute yourself for having trouble. You should ask God for help. Ask Him to guide you and show you the way so that any sins that you may think of committing become detestable to you. He never expected you to do this without him. That's why He wants to be a part of our lives. He wants us to lean on HIM.

Also some good books "Every Man's Battle, Every Woman's Battle, Every Heart Restored." I had to read "Every Heart Restored," because of pornography betrayal in my own marraige. This series of books deals with sexual sin from a Christian perspective and will probably help anyone struggling with or being victimised or betrayed by many types of sexual sin.
 
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Masturbation is a sin.
1Corinthians6:13
".....the body is not to be used for sexual immorality, but to serve the Lord; and the Lord provides for the body"
19"Don't you know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and who was given to you by God?You do not belong to yourselves but to God;
20 he bought you for a price.So use your bodies for God's glory"
in plain words, you shouldn't abuse your self sexually because it is a sanctuary of the Holy Spirit and you defile it when you use it for your selfish pleasures.
 
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Feel free to think masturbation is sinful, but I think it's more sinful to be so caught up in what people do alone, and judging them for it. Now that's what I call giving in to fleshly desires...

Y'all talk about how we're not supposed to live according to the flesh, yet you judge the flesh of others, using your own flesh, instead of seeking what's inside, or better yet, up in heaven. You're looking at people's crotch instead of their hearts.
It looks to me like those who are so very against masturbation are the people most enslaved to it - they're captives of a sin they don't even commit themselves.
 
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holo said:
Feel free to think masturbation is sinful, but I think it's more sinful to be so caught up in what people do alone, and judging them for it. Now that's what I call giving in to fleshly desires...

Y'all talk about how we're not supposed to live according to the flesh, yet you judge the flesh of others, using your own flesh, instead of seeking what's inside, or better yet, up in heaven. You're looking at people's crotch instead of their hearts.
It looks to me like those who are so very against masturbation are the people most enslaved to it - they're captives of a sin they don't even commit themselves.

And you're judging us for believing that masturbation is a sin. :)

I'm still trying to figure out where it says in the Bible that God doesn't care what we do in the privacy of our own bedroom and our own thoughts (in fact, perhaps I'm wrong, but I thought even thoughts could be sinful, even if they do not necessarily end up being actions [i.e. wishing somebody and his entire family brutally murdered]).

I'm not saying I'm free of sin, but I do think it's more prudent to be sinful yet at least make some effort to acknowledge the sin and try to overcome than it is to not only sin, but embrace it.
 
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holo said:
It is also a fleshly desire to label anything and everything as either "sinful" or "accepted".

Who's doing that? There are definitely grey areas of life (i.e. Starbucks), but isn't the Bible quite clear on lust (I tend to think Matt 5 is the standard which we should strive to fulfill).
 
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kunfuzdchic said:
in plain words, you shouldn't abuse your self sexually because it is a sanctuary of the Holy Spirit and you defile it when you use it for your selfish pleasures.

Why is masturbation considered 'abuse' of self? Why is pleasure selfish?
 
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