It seems like the choices we make determine what kind of person we are. Is marrying a woman who isn't a virgin a bad idea?
Gabe,
I would say you're putting too much emphasis on your virginity.
Perhaps this perspective will help:
When I was in my early 20s in college and a new Christian, I wanted to date and marry a
"...godly, Christian virgin woman...."
Of course, I gave-up that "requirement" (it was more of a preference) as I got older and now realize a woman can be the first two without being the third.
Yes, "Christian" women (and men) have sex before marriage and also end up with many regrets.
Plus, many women, like the one I married and some I dated, though they weren't virgins, had only 1-2 partners, like a former fiance she had sex with before they got engaged (in my wife's case).
Or, she thought the guy loved her so gave it up to later learn he was a jerk.
My "preference" was also invalid as I wasn't a virgin.
Lost mine in HS @17-18.
We both felt a lot of guilt and is a big regret of mine.
However, what I wanted, and
thought God would provide me, was a virgin girl. But that was a wrong motive and expectation.
And truly, I didn't focus on that. Just wanted a godly woman.
Men and women are human and make mistakes.
Please also understand you're human. Even "dedicated" Christians fall to the trap of sin, sexual or not.