I've always prayed for God's will in my life....and right now i don't believe im in God's will...i can feel Him convicting me.....I don't date guys that aren't christians...for the simple fact that im not supposed to be unevenly yoked...well one of my very good friends and i have become more than friends and he isnt a christian but hes been raised in church so he understands what i mean when i tell him i can't go out with someone who is not a christian....i know i shouldn't be with him but it just feels nice to have someone....i feel horrible wheni pray b/c i know im hurting Jesus and i hate that....and i just feel like maybe God isn't listening to me when i pray and ya know i don't blame him if he doesn't b/c i wouldn't listen to me.....do u think he still listens to me??
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Is God still listening??
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Kelly
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Colebeth.
First of all welcome to CF. You should really post this in one of the lower forums, for this question I might recommend the Struggles forum, or perhaps Couples or maybe even the Women's forum.
News and Current events is our "Mos Eisley" and not a great place for answers to these questions.
First of all welcome to CF. You should really post this in one of the lower forums, for this question I might recommend the Struggles forum, or perhaps Couples or maybe even the Women's forum.
News and Current events is our "Mos Eisley" and not a great place for answers to these questions.
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Spicy McHaggis
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I don't know that it's a rechid hive of scum and villainry, but yeah, much better posting this somewheres in the "Life Stages" section.Kelly said:
Hope it helps, and may the Force be with you
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God is always listening. if you just wanyt to be friends with this guy go ahead. Just keep your feelings for him under control.
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hey, i dont see any reason this can't go in the singles forum loneliness, and wanting someone to share our time with is a very singles focused emotion.
i have to agree that god is always listening, and always teaching us things.
don't ever feel like you're hurting jesus by praying to him dear - he knows your heart before you start to pray. he doesnt ever expect us to be perfect - he didn't design us that way. jesus had to die to give us a way to be perfect - all we can do is try to follow him the best we can.
myself, i dont think there is anything necessarily wrong with dating non-christians, though i do prefer the idea of a virtuous christian girl to the alternative. the fact is that the lord does use christians to show others joy - we are to be in the world, not of it. dating non-christians is a-ok in my book as long as i dont find my convictions changing. marrying a non-christian is quite different, for me at least... that's where i start to be concerned about being unequaly yoked.
loneliness, and wanting someone to share our time with is a very singles focused emotion.i have to agree that god is always listening, and always teaching us things.
don't ever feel like you're hurting jesus by praying to him dear - he knows your heart before you start to pray. he doesnt ever expect us to be perfect - he didn't design us that way. jesus had to die to give us a way to be perfect - all we can do is try to follow him the best we can.
myself, i dont think there is anything necessarily wrong with dating non-christians, though i do prefer the idea of a virtuous christian girl to the alternative. the fact is that the lord does use christians to show others joy - we are to be in the world, not of it. dating non-christians is a-ok in my book as long as i dont find my convictions changing. marrying a non-christian is quite different, for me at least... that's where i start to be concerned about being unequaly yoked.
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Hi coLebeth!
Welcome to CF! I hope you will enjoy your time of fellowship here!
I do think that God still hears your prayers. What I do think may be happening is that you are separating yourself from God because you are doing something that you feel is not right or perhaps not the best choice for your life. You have set the standard for yourself of not dating someone who is not a Christian. And the person you are with now, you feel is not. It is easy to get involved in something that feels good and satisfies something that we feel like we are missing and we feel like we need in our lives. But sometimes that leads to us compromising what we feel like we shouldn't just so that we can satisfy our needs or desires.
I would encourage you to be honest with God. Tell him how you feel. Tell Him you feel distant from Him, that you don't want to be and tell Him why you think that may be happening. Then ask Him to show you if that is the reason. Lay it all out before Him. He wants your honesty! Ask Him to guard your heart. This is so important, a lesson I am learning myself! If this person is someone you should remain only friends with, ask God to give you the strength and courage to do just that and ask Him to close the doors on a relationship that doesn't need to proceed any further. Don't compromise your beliefs just to drive away the feelings of lonliness. All that will lead to is regret down the line. Been there, done that. It may be that through you this young man will come to a deeper relationship with Christ. But, I think that it is a good idea to deal with that on a friendship level then on a romantic level. I have done some thinking about this lately. Romantic relationships are hard enough on their own. To add this complication to one just makes it harder, as your opening post can attest to. You are feeling pulled between doing what you feel God would want you to do, and doing what you want to do. That only gets harder as the person who isn't a Christian pulls in a different direction than God does. He says he understands now why you don't want to date someone who isn't a Christian, but will he if those feelings between you to get deeper and stronger?
When we became Christians, our relationship with Christ takes precedence over every other relationship in our lives, including romantic ones. My opinion is when we start compromising that relationship (ours with Christ) in order to gain any other one, we will run into problems. If however, we keep the relationship with Christ as top priority, all others will fall into place.
Welcome to CF! I hope you will enjoy your time of fellowship here!
I do think that God still hears your prayers. What I do think may be happening is that you are separating yourself from God because you are doing something that you feel is not right or perhaps not the best choice for your life. You have set the standard for yourself of not dating someone who is not a Christian. And the person you are with now, you feel is not. It is easy to get involved in something that feels good and satisfies something that we feel like we are missing and we feel like we need in our lives. But sometimes that leads to us compromising what we feel like we shouldn't just so that we can satisfy our needs or desires.
I would encourage you to be honest with God. Tell him how you feel. Tell Him you feel distant from Him, that you don't want to be and tell Him why you think that may be happening. Then ask Him to show you if that is the reason. Lay it all out before Him. He wants your honesty! Ask Him to guard your heart. This is so important, a lesson I am learning myself! If this person is someone you should remain only friends with, ask God to give you the strength and courage to do just that and ask Him to close the doors on a relationship that doesn't need to proceed any further. Don't compromise your beliefs just to drive away the feelings of lonliness. All that will lead to is regret down the line. Been there, done that. It may be that through you this young man will come to a deeper relationship with Christ. But, I think that it is a good idea to deal with that on a friendship level then on a romantic level. I have done some thinking about this lately. Romantic relationships are hard enough on their own. To add this complication to one just makes it harder, as your opening post can attest to. You are feeling pulled between doing what you feel God would want you to do, and doing what you want to do. That only gets harder as the person who isn't a Christian pulls in a different direction than God does. He says he understands now why you don't want to date someone who isn't a Christian, but will he if those feelings between you to get deeper and stronger?
When we became Christians, our relationship with Christ takes precedence over every other relationship in our lives, including romantic ones. My opinion is when we start compromising that relationship (ours with Christ) in order to gain any other one, we will run into problems. If however, we keep the relationship with Christ as top priority, all others will fall into place.
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I thought what wvmtnkid said was good advice.
God never never stops listening to you. God is ALWAYS with you. Sometimes you won't feel his presence though, but this is one of those trials that will help you get stronger. Its easier to live a life of faith when you can feel God there, but can you live a life of faith when you can't feel God any more?
But that's what faith is... knowing God. And by knowing Him, you know He's there and He never stops loving you.
You should cry out to God continually though... always talk to Him. David was a man after God's own heart, but if you read Psalms, you can see where David cried out in misery and despair. Yet how great was David?
Continually seek God. In this way, you will be a good and faithful servant.
God never never stops listening to you. God is ALWAYS with you. Sometimes you won't feel his presence though, but this is one of those trials that will help you get stronger. Its easier to live a life of faith when you can feel God there, but can you live a life of faith when you can't feel God any more?
But that's what faith is... knowing God. And by knowing Him, you know He's there and He never stops loving you.
You should cry out to God continually though... always talk to Him. David was a man after God's own heart, but if you read Psalms, you can see where David cried out in misery and despair. Yet how great was David?
Continually seek God. In this way, you will be a good and faithful servant.
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wvmtnkid said:
I agree completely.
Also, I think that "it feels good" is the worst reason ever to date someone. Any relationship must be built on much more than that. And any relationship that does not have Christ at its centre is doomed to shallowness and futility.
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