Spend some time in other nations where no one has even heard of your language, and then come tell me whether tongues is "necessary".

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All the spiritual gifts turn out to be incredible useful and encouraging for the life of a church, and many churches, when used correctly. An argument on what is "necessary" doesn't make sense to me anyway - who am I to decide what is necessary or not for the growth of God's church? It's not my church, it's His.
The gifts are "grace" gifts (charis). God decided to give gifts to make the work He gave work better. That's his decision, obviously.
As for the argument around the apostles needing to lay hands on people for the gift, that would mean that Paul had to have laid hands on everyone in Corinth who had the gift, implying that any new people who came in didn't have any gifts because Paul was not there. That certainly doesn't seem to be the case. Rather, it appears a lot of new people were misusing the gift and Paul had to teach them. Why did he have to teach them? Why is it that the Corinthian church could misuse the gifts and yet those gifts are still labelled by cessationists as genuine, but a modern day misuse of gifts is a sign of the gifts not being genuine? I'm afraid this is a contradiction in the cessationist argument that is never answered satisfactorily.
Secondly, your quotation of Romans disproves your point. You don't have any evidence that an apostle planted that church and laid hands on people and gave then the gift of prophecy. You've simply stared that obviously it must have been some sort of apostle - a case of eisegesis.
Thirdly, it appears that all 120 that were in the upper room in Acts 2 got the gift of tongues. Now, were all these 120 apostles? If so, who else was an apostle that we don't know about? And why then could there not be apostles today?
To be frank, the problem I find with most cessationist churches (not all, but most) is they are incredibly homogenous, they don't know how to deal with people of different races, and they lack a great deal in evangelicalistic zeal. If you only ever stick to your neighbourhood and class you're not going to see the "necessity" of the gifts. Get out a bit more and the need for them becomes patently obvious.