Not so. It means one side loves their idol, and the other loves God. It's either or. There are only two positions. Works or grace.
I take Paul very literally. As a result, I agree with the Calvinists that Arminianism tends to water down the force of his statements. I agree with Calvinists, therefore:
(1) That regeneration is monergistic.
(2) That God predestined a specific, designated set of individuals (a foreknown and limited number of individuals) termed 'the elect'.
The PROBLEM is that Calvin
assumed he was seeing the whole picture (oh the fallibility of exegesis!). He should have REALLY taken to heart Paul's words that God's ways are 'past finding out' (Rom 11).
Calvin MUST have been overlooking SOMETHING (I'd tell you what it is but I don't think you'd listen), because Paul, in some places, spoke as though ANYONE could be saved. For example he wrote:
"Though I am free and belong to no one, I have made myself a slave to everyone, to win as many as possible. 20 To the Jews I became like a Jew, to win the Jews. To those under the law I became like one under the law (though I myself am not under the law), so as to win those under the law. 21 To those not having the law I became like one not having the law (though I am not free from God’s law but am under Christ’s law), so as to win those not having the law. 22 To the weak I became weak, to win the weak. I have become all things to all people so that by all possible means I might save some" (1Cor 9).
He even seemed to express a note of contingency/uncertainty regarding the salvation of the elect:
"Therefore I endure everything for the sake of the elect, that they too
may obtain the salvation that is in Christ Jesus, with eternal glory" (2 Tim 2:10).
Do you hear the concern in Paul's voice? The anguish? I do. To paraphrase what Paul just said, "I work EXTRA HARD to make sure that the elect obtain salvation."
If by any chance your Calvinism stifles intercession for the lost - if you assume that you can have no effect on the number of people who actually get saved - I suggest you start interceding. Otherwise I PROMISE you that, on judgment day, you'll feel a lot of remorse and regret for having ASSUMED what Calvin had no right to assume.