Is being single, and able to handle it, a blessing?

[johansen]

It may also explain the protection (I haven't described it, yet. I am protected by God at all times. I am warned in advance, told of things, granted protection and justice. It's complicated, and lots to write on the subject...)

I was also protected in strange ways for a long time(20 to 25 years). As i have been maturing that protection is being removed.

I have to drive the speed limit now because i no longer have premonitions of where all the cops are at. I have never been given a speeding ticket. Just two warnings, both in 2010.

I have to wear safety glasses when cutting or grinding steel. I didn't use to, the sparks would never hit my eyeballs. But one day i heard the words "i am not with you" when i was cutting some steel (to be honest i should not have been doing it that way) and since then i have actually had 4.5" angle grider cut off blades get jammed and torn off in the cut. Never had that happen before. And no i dont use the guard.

I have to religiously remove every nail from boards when demoing buildings so i or someone else doesnt accidentally step on one. Etc, etc.

However, to some extent i enjoy the added responsibility.

What im not looking forwards to: is the legal aspect of things. I should get an attorney on retainer, a financial manager, wills written up, retirement funds managed properly..

Back in 2016 i distinctly heard what i suspected was a guardian angel, it said "i will leave you soon" while it brought to my mind several instances where it had protected me either supernaturally or by giving me knowledge to avoid danger.

My immediate reaction was not "oh no what did i do" but: "oh good, im all grown up now".

 

[johansen]

Let's just say I'm a Scorpio and I knew others born within the same month and one one within 7 days of the same month as I did and they're not aging in reverse.

Scorpios have a tendence to become introverts and I was for most of my life. The self-imposed isolation could be a factor but I've turned extrovert in the last few years. Tired of the isolation perhaps but it did not change my strange aging situation.

The other scorpios I knew are like anybody else, having lots of friends and spending lots of time with friends.

Is this a joke or do you actually believe this nonsense?
Its like palm reading. My jewish friend says its real but he doesnt believe anyone on the planet actually knows how to read them. Im like.. dude a demon offered to teach me and i told it to go away.

One of the things i do feel a bit guilty for: Back in highschool in 2005 i found a hacked version on limewire or the pirate bay of a numerology software package.

I printed out all 54? Pages of text in it, and there is a very small chance i may still have it. Anyhow, back then i had concern for a girl and she gave her full name and birth date so we started reading her chart.. it was accurate enough she started screaming, hands over her ears, ran out of the room.

 

[timewerx]

Is this a joke or do you actually believe this nonsense?
Its like palm reading. My jewish friend says its real but he doesnt believe anyone on the planet actually knows how to read them. Im like.. dude a demon offered to teach me and i told it to go away.

One of the things i do feel a bit guilty for: Back in highschool in 2005 i found a hacked version on limewire or the pirate bay of a numerology software package.

I printed out all 54? Pages of text in it, and there is a very small chance i may still have it. Anyhow, back then i had concern for a girl and she gave her full name and birth date so we started reading her chart.. it was accurate enough she started screaming, hands over her ears, ran out of the room.

It's simply an observation for me. An interesting pattern and nothing more. I won't be choosing my friends based on astrological compatibility.

 

[prudent_commenter]

I was also protected in strange ways for a long time(20 to 25 years). As i have been maturing that protection is being removed.

I have to drive the speed limit now because i no longer have premonitions of where all the cops are at. I have never been given a speeding ticket. Just two warnings, both in 2010.

I have to wear safety glasses when cutting or grinding steel. I didn't use to, the sparks would never hit my eyeballs. But one day i heard the words "i am not with you" when i was cutting some steel (to be honest i should not have been doing it that way) and since then i have actually had 4.5" angle grider cut off blades get jammed and torn off in the cut. Never had that happen before. And no i dont use the guard.

I have to religiously remove every nail from boards when demoing buildings so i or someone else doesnt accidentally step on one. Etc, etc.

However, to some extent i enjoy the added responsibility.

What im not looking forwards to: is the legal aspect of things. I should get an attorney on retainer, a financial manager, wills written up, retirement funds managed properly..

Back in 2016 i distinctly heard what i suspected was a guardian angel, it said "i will leave you soon" while it brought to my mind several instances where it had protected me either supernaturally or by giving me knowledge to avoid danger.

My immediate reaction was not "oh no what did i do" but: "oh good, im all grown up now".

That was an interesting read. I believe it is true. But I think this maturity is something that we do. Your actions determine whether you are ready for maturity or not. And, they determine whether or not you need to be mature. What happens if you live your life in a manner where maturity is not required? Remain a child, with child-like innocence for the rest of your life? I wonder if this would preserve it.

I've received voices in my head when justice has been done to me. It was said "It is done" when justice has been served to my oppressor(s).

Truthfully, I don't want it to go away. I need it, and rely on it.

 

[johansen]

That was an interesting read. I believe it is true. But I think this maturity is something that we do. Your actions determine whether you are ready for maturity or not. And, they determine whether or not you need to be mature. What happens if you live your life in a manner where maturity is not required? Remain a child, with child-like innocence for the rest of your life? I wonder if this would preserve it.

personally i don't believe God intended me to remain in a child like mental state, but that is what happened between age 8 and age 30 and a lot of harm came of it.

if it works for you, i will not be offended.

 

[prudent_commenter]

personally i don't believe God intended me to remain in a child like mental state, but that is what happened between age 8 and age 30 and a lot of harm came of it.

if it works for you, i will not be offended.

The reason I ask is because I have not changed.

I observed a lot of people change, and not for the better. The curios thing is that they change, but they have no idea they have changed. They don't evaluate themselves, and they don't have anything to compare with. In their minds, they change slightly, when in fact it is greatly.

The thing is that, over the years I have not changed. Our earthly life requires fighting, and lots of it. Yet for some, everything is given without fighting. This is similar to a child with his parents. The parents just take care of everything, and the child simply receives. I was and I am allowed to live as a child. Though I'm not, obviously. But this also preserved the innocence. Never having to deal with the world, keeps innocence. And I also think that while you remain a virgin, you remain a child. There are written works that go into detail with this, and apparently, the step between childhood and maturity is virginity.

Is it possible that God would want for some people to remain children?

 

[Aaron112]

Is it possible that God would want for some people to remain children?

TOTALLY!

 

[johansen]

Is it possible that God would want for some people to remain children?

sure, anything is possible.

 

[prudent_commenter]

I've known people that lost their virginity very late in life, and said that their entire value system changed afterwards. They were no longer interested in noble things, but rather things of the world. One in particular was study - knowledge. It dropped significantly after the deed was done. I can't at this time explain it, why and how.. but it is. There are different set of priorities of the world, and not of the world.

I believe that women bind you to this world. (With women being already of the world). And once you do it, there's no turning back from it. I know this because God gave me this piece of knowledge.

 

[Michie]

Misogynist nonsense.

 

[johansen]

Misogynist nonsense.

Nope!

I pondered for years what it means in revelation when it refers to the 144K who have not defiled themselves with women.. I understood what it meant after getting married.

Women and children are a significant spiritual and physical liability you have to be willing and ready to accept.

For what its worth, I have never gotten hate mail on reddit except in one specific case. a man was asking what the ramifications are of a relationship with a woman who practices witchcraft. I explained to him, that such women will actively seek out a christian to ensnare because he is still required to love and pray for his wife, and so she will effectively "use him" for his spiritual protection/benifit.

The woman in question, found his reddit account and found my comment and needless to say she wasn't happy about it and insisted that her spiritual practices do not affect him.

I've known people that lost their virginity very late in life, and said that their entire value system changed afterwards. They were no longer interested in noble things, but rather things of the world. One in particular was study - knowledge. It dropped significantly after the deed was done. I can't at this time explain it, why and how.. but it is. There are different set of priorities of the world, and not of the world.

I believe that women bind you to this world. (With women being already of the world). And once you do it, there's no turning back from it. I know this because God gave me this piece of knowledge.

So everyone is different, but what we do know is that hardly 5% of the population will ever regret an abortion. and what that tells me is, that's the upper limit for percentage of Christians in society.

My former girlfriend from 2017 was in a state of spiritual distraughtness over her sins of 4 prior relationships. For whatever reason i was warned not to make any commitment to her and do not expose her nakedness. this went beyond simply carnal relations, i was not to "pry into" her past sins, so i didn't.

 

[prudent_commenter]

Nope!

I pondered for years what it means in revelation when it refers to the 144K who have not defiled themselves with women.. I understood what it meant after getting married.

I think so as well.

Women and children are a significant spiritual and physical liability you have to be willing and ready to accept.

For what its worth, I have never gotten hate mail on reddit except in one specific case. a man was asking what the ramifications are of a relationship with a woman who practices witchcraft. I explained to him, that such women will actively seek out a christian to ensnare because he is still required to love and pray for his wife, and so she will effectively "use him" for his spiritual protection/benifit.

Yes but that's against the bible. You can't marry a woman that is a non-believer. When Paul said those words they were well-thought. You don't know if you (the believer) will change her (the non-believer). But the other way is more likely.

Besides, when you marry, sins of both partners become shared. What she does from that vow and forward, you also share. Her sin is now your sin, and vice-versa.

The woman in question, found his reddit account and found my comment and needless to say she wasn't happy about it and insisted that her spiritual practices do not affect him.

People like to live in their own world. Thus taking from the bible what suits their lifestyle.

So everyone is different, but what we do know is that hardly 5% of the population will ever regret an abortion. and what that tells me is, that's the upper limit for percentage of Christians in society.

Wholeheartedly, I agree.

My former girlfriend from 2017 was in a state of spiritual distraughtness over her sins of 4 prior relationships. For whatever reason i was warned not to make any commitment to her and do not expose her nakedness. this went beyond simply carnal relations, i was not to "pry into" her past sins, so i didn't.

It wasn't for you.

I get these warnings as well for all things that aren't for me.

 

[christiansoccerplayer]

I've been pondering this for a lot of time. It's curious even to me.

I've never had a relationship with anyone. This is because I've never felt the need to be with someone. Loneliness has no effect on me. And I've never had uncontrollable desires for sexual intercourse. The desire does exist but it is fully controlled. When I say NO, it's NO - that sort of thing. (The same applies to every other lust, but it's beyond the scope of this post). Since sexual lust has no effect, and since loneliness is cancelled out, this was possible.

The curious thing loneliness is that, instead of having an effect, it's actually more than that: I never feel lonely, even when completely isolated. This has been from the very beginning. It's not something new, it's not due to advancement of age, and what else may be.

Another thing would be that, whenever I had the opportunity to fornicate, I experienced weird sensations. Bad feelings, of guilt, of grief, of sadness... anything but what the actual sensation should be. And, because of this, I've remained pure for all this time. The opportunities were not set-up by me, but more societal inclination. But the intent was clear, and it has kept me away from it. Similarly, a woman can never seduce me. No matter what she does, it doesn't work. The body listens to the mind, and mind processes the situation as-is. And until the full-picture is seen, nothing is done.

Something similar is happening with people too. There are some signs that happen when trying to maintain a friendship relationship with someone that will drag me down. I feel as if something is weighing me down. A burden, something unclean - I don't know how to explain it.

As I've noticed in the world today, men are incapable of living without women. It may be just my bias, but I rarely see men that can - without committing sin - be without women. Even those that claim to be so, there's still something there.
I believe it is God's influence when one that is in full control of sexual desire, and not be affected by loneliness.

What do you make of this?

I'm 47 and a guy and have never been in a relationship, and have been on just two dates. I used to care about the fact I've never had a partner... now I just don't care. I still desire a relationship that could lead to marriage but I refuse to make it more important than my walk with Christ. So to answer the title of your thread, being single and able to handle it is definitely a blessing

 

[bèlla]

Anything taken to excess can become a snare. The bible says marriage is a good and desiring a spouse isn’t bad. But making it your identity and building your conversation around its absence is unhealthy. As with most things, we’re more than meets the eye. Singleness is becoming the latest obsession for some and a source for misery and discontentment. That’s not what God intended nor our fixation on someday either. We’re meant to live in the moment and value the time we have. Tomorrow may wield something different.

Nevertheless, it isn’t a competition either. Bearing up is a skill and some excel at it more than others. If you pick a scab it’s going to bleed and that’s how I view this subject. Letting it be doesn’t minimize your desire for more but it keeps it in check and that’s important.

~bella

 

[prudent_commenter]

Anything taken to excess can become a snare. The bible says marriage is a good and desiring a spouse isn’t bad. But making it your identity and building your conversation around its absence is unhealthy. As with most things, we’re more than meets the eye. Singleness is becoming the latest obsession for some and a source for misery and discontentment. That’s not what God intended nor our fixation on someday either.

Yes, it's a "grass is always greener" sort of thing. You always want what you do not have. But.. what if some people are like this since birth? No one to copy this from, no one to teach this, yet they are so. If it comes naturally - what is it?

Copying others usually results in this. You try to emulate another that does it naturally, and you wind up bitter and sad.

We’re meant to live in the moment and value the time we have. Tomorrow may wield something different.

But if you live the moment without knowledge of the Word, you will live in sin.

Nevertheless, it isn’t a competition either. Bearing up is a skill and some excel at it more than others. If you pick a scab it’s going to bleed and that’s how I view this subject. Letting it be doesn’t minimize your desire for more but it keeps it in check and that’s important.

~bella

If you copy others, yes. But what if it comes naturally?

This whole thing of "how beautiful is singless" started with the elites agenda to stop procreating. So, one of the arguments was to stop forming roots, and just be a leaf in the wind. I have to hand it to them: it actually worked. This along side others, made it possible: the two sexes hate each other.

 

[prudent_commenter]

I'm 47 and a guy and have never been in a relationship, and have been on just two dates. I used to care about the fact I've never had a partner... now I just don't care. I still desire a relationship that could lead to marriage but I refuse to make it more important than my walk with Christ. So to answer the title of your thread, being single and able to handle it is definitely a blessing

Yes, but you wanted it. With age the desire mellowed. In my case, I never wanted it. And this was long before the internet started to push the idea of being single. I didn't want it since I can remember. It's definitely not something influenced. If it were, I would've wanted it.

 

[bèlla]

Yes, it's a "grass is always greener" sort of thing. You always want what you do not have. But.. what if some people are like this since birth? No one to copy this from, no one to teach this, yet they are so. If it comes naturally - what is it?

This is a protestant fixation. No one elevated marriage to this degree within the church. You’ve created the notion of singleness and made it an identity. Your marital state doesn’t define you. That’s the problem.

This whole thing of "how beautiful is singless" started with the elites agenda to stop procreating. So, one of the arguments was to stop forming roots, and just be a leaf in the wind. I have to hand it to them: it actually worked. This along side others, made it possible: the two sexes hate each other.

The elites will do as they please but we’re responsible for the things we accept. We can choose to do otherwise. And I don’t obsess about them either. We shouldn’t be ignorant of the devil’s works. I use the information I acquire to aid with prayer, decisions, etc. It isn’t an excuse for inaction or defeat. I don’t care what they think about marriage or procreation. The only thing I have to address is my response. What does the Lord desire of me in this area? Answer the question and move on.

~bella

 

[prudent_commenter]

This is a protestant fixation. No one elevated marriage to this degree within the church. You’ve created the notion of singleness and made it an identity. Your marital state doesn’t define you. That’s the problem.

A fixation? Have you even read the first post? I said I was stopped from fornicating, among others. This useless society tried to push down my throat their corruption only to discover that it didn't work. I have many other examples as well but I do not think you are going like them, seeing as you ignored this one.

The elites will do as they please but we’re responsible for the things we accept. We can choose to do otherwise. And I don’t obsess about them either.

I think this is some kind of trigger response here. And is not relevant to the conversation.

Obsessing would be if I constantly think about it. How am I thinking about it? I never dated, I never fornicated. Which means I don't lust, and I'm not lonely. You think I would have lasted 40 years If I "obsessed" about it?

We shouldn’t be ignorant of the devil’s works.

I'm not. I am advocate of soberness and vigilance. Proof of which is my life. Lived in this manner without breaking a sweat.

I use the information I acquire to aid with prayer, decisions, etc. It isn’t an excuse for inaction or defeat. I don’t care what they think about marriage or procreation. The only thing I have to address is my response. What does the Lord desire of me in this area? Answer the question and move on.

~bella

How it was thought is this: "We can't brainwash everyone. So, those that refuse to change, will have further resistance from the brainwashed population". Meaning that, it will harder to withstand. Virginity is the best example for this. You tell anyone you are, and the most of them will say things like "life is short, live it on your terms". You hear this every day, eventually the mind will believe. But those very few that are bombarded everyday with this and do not give in, those are truly the ones that have knowledge of God.

 

[bèlla]

A fixation? Have you even read the first post? I said I was stopped from fornicating, among others. This useless society tried to push down my throat their corruption only to discover that it didn't work. I have many other examples as well but I do not think you are going like them, seeing as you ignored this one.

Have you read my post in context? It wasn’t addressed to you. I said the topic of singleness is a protestant fixation and it is. More importantly, if that isn’t so with you that’s good.

Being single and able to handle it isn’t remarkable anymore than not being susceptible to addictions. We all have different strengths. How can use yours for the kingdom? How can you come alongside others who struggle where you excel?

I’ve been abstinent significantly longer than you but it isn’t a topic of discussion beyond my interactions with prospects. What matters more is what I’ve done in light of it. Like mentoring and counseling women, helping them prepare for marriage, serving in the church, starting a business and building an online platform for my vocation and so on.

Faith without works is dead. What have you done beyond resistance? Who have you served or led?

~bella

 

[prudent_commenter]

Have you read my post in context? It wasn’t addressed to you. I said the topic of singleness is a protestant fixation and it is. More importantly, if that isn’t so with you that’s good.

I agreed with you on this. The destruction of the family unit is what they wanted all along. And I addressed this issue in my earlier posts when I said corruption comes in different forms for men and women. A man cannot be corrupted by "freedom", but women on the other hand... very much so. A person's worth lies in what he chooses to do with his freedom. And unfortunately, a large majority of people cannot handle freedom.

Being single and able to handle it isn’t remarkable anymore than not being susceptible to addictions. We all have different strengths. How can use yours for the kingdom? How can you come alongside others who struggle where you excel?

I don't know. God gave a lot of things that most don't have. But He never tells what He wants with them. It's curious because He always directs me into what NOT to do, and always keeps me safe, but so far nothing as to what to do. It would appear His only response to me is wait. I do not believe that God would make such people just to grow old and do nothing. The protection around me is really strong however.

I’ve been abstinent significantly longer than you but it isn’t a topic of discussion beyond my interactions with prospects. What matters more is what I’ve done in light of it. Like mentoring and counseling women, helping them prepare for marriage, serving in the church, starting a business and building an online platform for my vocation and so on.

It's no so much one abstinence but many. The grade in which things are executed in of sainthood. And it doesn't make sense to me at this time.

The strengths and abilities that God gave me are not used for anything at this point. The way I'm think is, He doesn't what does He want. And I do not want to use them improperly. It more, much more than what is on the surface.

Faith without works is dead. What have you done beyond resistance? Who have you served or led?

~bella

Not partaking in the world is works. You show that you understand the word of God by not succumbing to the vile of the world.