Is being single, and able to handle it, a blessing?

[timewerx]

Understand that you posted this thread in the advice forum.

It doesn't look like the OP is looking for advice. If I have to be blunt, I think the OP is gloating over others who can't resist the "temptation" of marriage and have consistently shown prejudice and discrimination against women.

If anything, I think this thread could be violating some rules in the forum concerning sexist remarks.

 

[Michie]

It doesn't look like the OP is looking for advice. If I have to be blunt, I think the OP is gloating over others who can't resist the "temptation" of marriage and have consistently shown prejudice and discrimination against women.

If anything, I think this thread could be violating some rules in the forum concerning sexist remarks.

Yes. I agree. The witness is highly questionable.

 

[Muhan]

You said you love separating yourself from sinners. Pharisees also did this and this behavior strongly caught the attention of Jesus.

But you think it doesn't have anything to do with you?

That looks like "double standard" to me. It's not okay if others or the Pharisees do it. But it's okay if you do it.

I do not live by or adhere to your understanding or expectations.
Think and believe as you like. What is it to me?

 

[timewerx]

I do not live by or adhere to your understanding or expectations.
Think and believe as you like. What is it to me?

I'm giving examples from the Bible. They're not my own personalized understanding.

Jesus did not avoid sinners and neither His disciples. So far you haven't told us why you chose to do the opposite and chose to do what the Pharisees do instead. I'm genuinely curious why you think avoiding sinners is so wonderful. Any verses to support your view?

 

[Muhan]

I'm genuinely curious why you think avoiding sinners is so wonderful.

To know the wisdom and knowledge I know and to understand what I understand
you have to experience it, firsthand. It cannot be gained by reading it out of a book
or being told of it. And I am not Jesus.

 

[Muhan]

Any verses to support your view?

Here is something written in a book that I recommend.

Proverbs 3:7
Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the LORD, and depart from evil.

Departing from sinners is departing from evil is it not?

I love holiness.
Holiness and sin do not mix.
They do not agree.
They are not compatible.
They are not friends.
And their objectives are the exact opposite.

 

[Muhan]

I'm giving examples from the Bible. They're not my own personalized understanding.

Jesus did not avoid sinners

These things spake Jesus, and departed, and did hide himself from them.

 

[prudent_commenter]

Nothing to be sorry for. The op posted in the advice forum.

The main post, yes. Not the replies.

 

[Muhan]

The main post, yes. Not the replies.

You are right to not get married unless it is right for you.
I agree with you all the way on it.
Getting married to the wrong woman
is the kiss of death.

 

[prudent_commenter]

No reason to assume. It is the advice forum. As much as the op loves to discuss himself it is the advice forum. So it should be understood that he will get advice whether he likes it or not. Otherwise he could have easily posted it in GT or some other forum if he didn’t want advice.

I didn't discuss myself. It was led this way because people don't like it and keep trying to find flaws.

There were posted legitimate questions, and people diverted the discussion.

 

[prudent_commenter]

It doesn't look like the OP is looking for advice. If I have to be blunt, I think the OP is gloating over others who can't resist the "temptation" of marriage and have consistently shown prejudice and discrimination against women.

If anything, I think this thread could be violating some rules in the forum concerning sexist remarks.

If you were to bother to read the first post, you would've understood what I am really looking for, which is the why. I was looking for people that shared the same, and could explain it.

Your replies on this thread were intended to cause discord. Not one reply was given by heart.

 

[timewerx]

These things spake Jesus, and departed, and did hide himself from them.

Jesus is speaking against the Pharisees in those verses if you continue reading from verse 39 onwards.

The Pharisees who regarded themselves as righteous and distanced themselves from sinners.

Proverbs 3:7
Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the LORD, and depart from evil.

Departing from sinners is departing from evil is it not?

Jesus did not depart from sinners. Even Peter lied against our Lord 3x but Jesus did not abandon Peter and even gave him another chance.

To know the wisdom and knowledge I know and to understand what I understand
you have to experience it, firsthand. It cannot be gained by reading it out of a book
or being told of it. And I am not Jesus.

Are you trying to say you're vulnerable getting influenced by sinners because you're not Jesus?

In that case, you could be better off separating yourself from sinners. Just don't grow too proud of it and don't "rub it in people's faces". Not everyone have the choice of avoiding evil people. Some are married to one or it could be a parent, worse, it could be their children.

 

[Muhan]

Are you trying to say you're vulnerable getting influenced by sinners because you're not Jesus?

No, I am saying that you should not be allowed to give anyone any advice, and the reason being
is because most everything you have said to me has been incorrect
and without any merit.

 

[timewerx]

No, I am saying that you should not be allowed to give anyone any advice, and the reason being
is because most everything you have said to me has been incorrect
and without any merit.

In the advice section of the forum against my posts that consistently gave Biblical examples.

You also seem to value experience far more than the Bible. You said this in one of your post. I can understand that. I did have many years of experience living with sinners who are not relatives and in the same house due to work travels A sinner also committed crime against me, one of the worst kind. Some of them tried to turn me into a worldly person. Yet none of their sins got a hold of me. I'm still sober, never smoked, never fornicated, and still lived an austere and simple life.

I've been working from home since Covid and only living with my elderly mom taking care of her at the same time. Many years living with sinners and many years living and working without other people.

It doesn't feel like being isolated from sinners is an advantage. The Holy Spirit did tell me to join casual outdoor events that is not religious in nature like sports. It became my desire as well.

I suppose the "light" that is inside us must be seen. What use is a light if it is to be hidden. Miracles have happened and the group I joined who seemed like junkies is involved in various humanitarian work in the city. Who would have thought? Definitely don't judge people by mere appearances only and I definitely would not have known if I have not joined their group and did things with them!

 

[Muhan]

In the advice section of the forum against my posts that consistently gave Biblical examples.

You also seem to value experience far more than the Bible. You said this in one of your post. I can understand that. I did have many years of experience living with sinners who are not relatives and in the same house due to work travels A sinner also committed crime against me, one of the worst kind. Some of them tried to turn me into a worldly person. Yet none of their sins got a hold of me. I'm still sober, never smoked, never fornicated, and still lived an austere and simple life.

I've been working from home since Covid and only living with my elderly mom taking care of her at the same time. Many years living with sinners and many years living and working without other people.

It doesn't feel like being isolated from sinners is an advantage. The Holy Spirit did tell me to join casual outdoor events that is not religious in nature like sports. It became my desire as well.

I suppose the "light" that is inside us must be seen. What use is a light if it is to be hidden. Miracles have happened and the group I joined who seemed like junkies is involved in various humanitarian work in the city. Who would have thought? Definitely don't judge people by mere appearances only and I definitely would not have known if I have not joined their group and did things with them!

I do not believe you even know God.

 

[Lukaris]

Is being single, and able to handle it, a blessing?​

Referring just to the general idea of the thread, I would think it can be a blessing. I am single & solitary socially I am blessed to have a few resources to share with others ( I work general warehouse labor). I can at least with alms giving ( basic charity) & prayer ( Matthew 6:1-13) for basic needs and also for those who evangelize ( Matthew 9:36-38). I believe what St. Paul tells us in 2 Corinthians 9:6-15 is a holy framework for us to understand in doing this. Even if we are solitary, we are not disconnected and have a role to fill ( Titus 3:1-8).

 

[Muhan]

It is really very simple
whether you are married or single,
young or old and all else,

If God is not with you
then you are cursed.
If God is with you
then you are blessed.

It is all about God.
All else is dependent upon Him.

God is the blessing.

 

[Michie]

I think people that discuss singleness so much are more bothered by it than they realize as it is usually the topic of every discussion. Those that don’t do that simply follow it as a vocation. It’s good to discern and see where God leads. People tend to romanticize things they are not experiencing at the moment. People usually know when they think they are called to a vocation in life and discern from there. It takes commitment either way. It’s all useful and needed as we follow the Lord. We are called to different things.

 

[Muhan]

I think people that discuss singleness so much are more bothered by it than they realize as it is usually the topic of every discussion. Those that don’t do that simply follow it as a vocation. It’s good to discern and see where God leads. People tend to romanticize things they are not experiencing at the moment. People usually know when they think they are called to a vocation in life and discern from there. It takes commitment either way. It’s all useful and needed as we follow the Lord. We are called to different things.

Them that will obey me, I say to them, DO NOT NO MATTER WHAT, lean to your own understanding.
Forsake it, avoid it at all costs. It will deceive you. It will lie to you.
It will cause you much torment and cruelty in life.
It will cause you to miss out or lose
the good and great things of God.

Run from it like it is the plague of death.

 

[johansen]

I've been pondering this for a lot of time. It's curious even to me.

I've never had a relationship with anyone. This is because I've never felt the need to be with someone. Loneliness has no effect on me. And I've never had uncontrollable desires for sexual intercourse. The desire does exist but it is fully controlled. When I say NO, it's NO - that sort of thing. (The same applies to every other lust, but it's beyond the scope of this post). Since sexual lust has no effect, and since loneliness is cancelled out, this was possible.

The curious thing loneliness is that, instead of having an effect, it's actually more than that: I never feel lonely, even when completely isolated. This has been from the very beginning. It's not something new, it's not due to advancement of age, and what else may be.

Another thing would be that, whenever I had the opportunity to fornicate, I experienced weird sensations. Bad feelings, of guilt, of grief, of sadness... anything but what the actual sensation should be. And, because of this, I've remained pure for all this time. The opportunities were not set-up by me, but more societal inclination. But the intent was clear, and it has kept me away from it. Similarly, a woman can never seduce me. No matter what she does, it doesn't work. The body listens to the mind, and mind processes the situation as-is. And until the full-picture is seen, nothing is done.

Something similar is happening with people too. There are some signs that happen when trying to maintain a friendship relationship with someone that will drag me down. I feel as if something is weighing me down. A burden, something unclean - I don't know how to explain it.

As I've noticed in the world today, men are incapable of living without women. It may be just my bias, but I rarely see men that can - without committing sin - be without women. Even those that claim to be so, there's still something there.
I believe it is God's influence when one that is in full control of sexual desire, and not be affected by loneliness.

What do you make of this?

I was similar for 18 years from age 6 to age 24.

With the exception being i did pmo a lot. However, in real life i was mildly afraid of women so i never even spoke to them, never had a girlfriend, seeing girls interested in me triggered inappropriate behavior so i suppressed it.

Till age 24. Started asking God what to do. Started talking to strangers, because i authentically cared about them. God healed some of my childhood trauma behind my back, and now suddenly i could be tempted in ways i never was before. 2 months later I met a woman who told me she knew me as a child. I figured she lied. Uh.. 7 years later was 2019 and i realize im full blown DID.

Turns out i was having sex when i was 6 and was left traumatized by it...

What i thought was Holy Spirit led conviction of sin when i watched porn as far back as 1999 dialup.., was a trauma response, not conviction.