Is being single, and able to handle it, a blessing?

[Veni]

Revelation 14:4-5
These are those who did not defile themselves with women, for they remained virgins. They follow the Lamb wherever he goes. They were purchased from among mankind and offered as firstfruits to God and the Lamb. No lie was found in their mouths; they are blameless.

 

[Barzel]

I've been pondering this for a lot of time. It's curious even to me.

I've never had a relationship with anyone. This is because I've never felt the need to be with someone. Loneliness has no effect on me. And I've never had uncontrollable desires for sexual intercourse. The desire does exist but it is fully controlled. When I say NO, it's NO - that sort of thing. (The same applies to every other lust, but it's beyond the scope of this post). Since sexual lust has no effect, and since loneliness is cancelled out, this was possible.

The curious thing loneliness is that, instead of having an effect, it's actually more than that: I never feel lonely, even when completely isolated. This has been from the very beginning. It's not something new, it's not due to advancement of age, and what else may be.

What you're describing could be beneficial, yes, so it could be considered a blessing.

Another thing would be that, whenever I had the opportunity to fornicate, I experienced weird sensations. Bad feelings, of guilt, of grief, of sadness... anything but what the actual sensation should be. And, because of this, I've remained pure for all this time. The opportunities were not set-up by me, but more societal inclination. But the intent was clear, and it has kept me away from it. Similarly, a woman can never seduce me. No matter what she does, it doesn't work. The body listens to the mind, and mind processes the situation as-is. And until the full-picture is seen, nothing is done.

Something similar is happening with people too. There are some signs that happen when trying to maintain a friendship relationship with someone that will drag me down. I feel as if something is weighing me down. A burden, something unclean - I don't know how to explain it.

As I've noticed in the world today, men are incapable of living without women. It may be just my bias, but I rarely see men that can - without committing sin - be without women. Even those that claim to be so, there's still something there.
I believe it is God's influence when one that is in full control of sexual desire, and not be affected by loneliness.

What do you make of this?

What you're describing here could easily be a double-edged sword. I'm not declaring definitively that it is, only suggesting that it could be. The reason I say that is because those reactions--guilt, grief, etc.--in relation to specific situations could be the result of some sort of trauma. They are, in my case. I was abused, so a lot of my reactions to things are skewed.

You can be disinclined to sin, to hang out with people you can see will drag you down, etc. without feeling any particular guilt or grief. Perhaps you have those feelings for perfectly healthy reasons, but if you have any trauma in your past, it may be worth considering that your emotional responses might need some adjustment.

Please take that with a grain of salt; I'm not a medical professional of any stripe, and can only offer insights based on my own experience as someone diagnosed with PTSD due to abuse.

 

[prudent_commenter]

What you're describing here could easily be a double-edged sword. I'm not declaring definitively that it is, only suggesting that it could be. The reason I say that is because those reactions--guilt, grief, etc.--in relation to specific situations could be the result of some sort of trauma. They are, in my case. I was abused, so a lot of my reactions to things are skewed.

Nothing bad ever happened to me. I have no traumas.

You can be disinclined to sin, to hang out with people you can see will drag you down, etc. without feeling any particular guilt or grief. Perhaps you have those feelings for perfectly healthy reasons, but if you have any trauma in your past, it may be worth considering that your emotional responses might need some adjustment.

I have these sensations on all bad things. Whether they are situations, people, places. I never know the truth what is happening, but I know something is there, if if people lie about it.

Whenever I am not meant to do something, I get these "messages". It can be a vision, a dream, a feeling. It's how it is for me. Either what I am not meant to do, or what is evil. The two seemed to be connected, somehow.

And this distinction between good and evil is off the charts for me. Even when I don't know which is which, I know.

 

[RileyG]

Yes, it is a blessing for you right now b/c it's what God's called you to right now. He has made everyone different & placed everyone in a different situation. This is to glorify him & help sanctify the saved

As a single person, I believe it’s what God wants of me.