Is being single a blessing?

[historyismypassion]

What do you think?

 

[Stabat Mater dolorosa]

What do you think?

No it's a cross, but sometimes said cross is heavier than other times.
I guess it's pretty close to a blessing occasionally, you know when it's at it's lightest, but then again there are those other times when I'm sad and lonely.

I'm called to a life in celibacy so this is a cross I'll have to get used to.

 

[ImAllLikeOkWaitWat]

I would say it is what you make it. If you let it get you down then a burden, if you look at the bright side of being single and all the things you can do while single that you can't while taking care of a family, then its definitely a blessing.

 

[Bluerose31]

What do you think?

I think that some people are content being single and some are not. Singleness is not for everyone. Some people feel called to be single and some are called to be married. I felt called to be single.

 

[ImAllLikeOkWaitWat]

I also want to say, I wonder how many people who are celibate or never want to get married have ever been in love. I say that because before falling in love recently, I was in the never get married never be with anyone camp. But if you never knew what true love felt like then I can see how you may not care too much about it. However if you know what its like then you probably will seek that.

 

[Grandpa2390]

It depends on who you are. If you are a Paul, or any other person who was blessed with gift of singleness, then it is a blessing. But if the extra freedom and extra energy it affords you is not spent on reaching the lost and serving God because all you can do is dwell on how lonely you are, and how much you want to be with person x, then it is a "curse."

 

[historyismypassion]

I am mixed in my thoughts. A part of me wants to get married and the other wants to remain single.

 

[ChristianFromKazakhstan]

What do you think?

Depends on what God is intending for your life. It can be a blessing, it can be a disaster. It's up to what your soul, physiology, mental composition, purpose in life, and God's calling for you.

It's very individual.

Each person has to figure this out for themselves. Like so many other questions of high importance. There is no and can't be a "one size fits all" answer. No. Too easy. Doesn't work that way.

 

[alsughasoughaiuyfygh]

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[ChristianFromKazakhstan]

For me, it's not much of a choice. Every time I read about Aspie-Neurotypical relationships, it usually describes how abusive/psychopathic/neglectful/disappointing/difficult the Aspie is. I had one relationship in my life and I would qualify as this since I had no freakin idea how to keep a girlfriend happy. It was pure trial and error for me in a way most of you cannot even fathom. It also didn't help that my ex would constantly hit/slap/punch me, lie to me, and get all dramatic every time I accidentally said the wrong thing.

Like I've said several times recently, God is fully aware that not everyone is going to get married because of how unfair life is so he has a special reward planned for those who miss out.

I have a celibate Aspie friend, who's exactly like that. Not that he didn't try to be in a relationship, but it turned out a total disaster each time. Just really hard or next to impossible to find a workable match to that kind of personality. He's the best, kindest person ever, though. And extremely talented in several fields. He hates loneliness, but understands it's the only way for him so far. He's the best Christian I've ever met in my life so far

 

[( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)]

Is it whatever you make out of it.

 

[ImAllLikeOkWaitWat]

I've heard of some aspie success stories as well so I'd assume it is possible.

 

[alsughasoughaiuyfygh]

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[ChristianFromKazakhstan]

Asperger's is one of the loneliest disabilities you can have. It hurts me even more when people tell me that I just need to try harder to succeed because they only look at the successful Aspies like Bill Gates.

The American Dream is all but a dream. Life just simply isn't fair. The Bible has stated numerous times about how things will be reversed on the other side because of how unfair life is and how we have responded to life's inequality.

I apologize to everyone on this forum for sounding like a broken record but this is the reality I have to face everyday all because of luck of the draw in the genetic lottery. For many people with Asperger's, life itself is a giant party you were never invited to. Thankfully, things like Luke 14:13-23, and the Marriage Supper of the Lamb come to mind. God will eventually compensate on the other side.

Yes, "all must be merry and happy-go-lucky" in this world is a lie. Jesus never promised it. You're right, we live in the hope of heaven. I don't have a congenital syndrome, have no issues to blend in and take part in the "party of life", but can assure you, I'm dumb-founded by the unfairness of life no less than you. Different starting points, but same challenges, in essence, to all of us. Similar fights, though they might look so different on the outside. I miss out on so many things, too. Though someone may see me and think differently. It's true though.

Only hope is the other life in heaven. All wrongs will be righted. And this life is a chance for salvation and spiritual growth.

 

[SnowyMacie]

It depends on who you are and what you make of it.

 

[Sketcher]

There are trade-offs to being single and being married. When you marry somebody, you trade certain aspects of your life in for a spouse, and all of the benefits and responsibilities of having that spouse. If you highly value your freedom, your alone time, and your privacy, then having more of that is a definite blessing that comes with singleness.

 

[Saucy]

I think it is what it needs to be at that time. There were a lot of struggles I endured in my 20s when I really wish i had a relationship, but looking back, glad I didn't. It's one of those "thank God for unanswered prayers" moments. Now that I'm in a healthier place, I feel ready, but I know I won't be completely ready until God says I am. He is readying me for the right woman!

 

[stuart lawrence]

What do you think?

Absolutely! No nagging

 

[stuart lawrence]

It depends on who you are. If you are a Paul, or any other person who was blessed with gift of singleness, then it is a blessing. But if the extra freedom and extra energy it affords you is not spent on reaching the lost and serving God because all you can do is dwell on how lonely you are, and how much you want to be with person x, then it is a "curse."

How right you are.

 

[Aleksandros]

I feel called to singleness and frankly - I am just trying to rush towards growing closer to Christ enough to offset the negative effects (not many, if any, yet) through love for Him and other graces. That's the only way, imo.

If you can develop enough closeness to the Lord, I think you can offset the negative effects of it.

May I ask how you guys found out you're called to it?