- Sep 6, 2004
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Good day, I haven't posted here in awhile due to some unfriendly comments in another subforum, but I've heard good things about this particular area (Christian Advice) and thought I would give this place a try.
If you look at my age (28), you're going to be completely surprised when I tell you that I have not had one boyfriend in my life. I've gone out with guys out of loneliness but I never could get attracted to them. I haven't even been attracted to anyone since I was 18 (so like 10 years ago!). So like, when I was a teenager I used to have crushes, but when I got older I don't know what the heck happened.
Now I have this long time friend who I think has a crush on me. (By the way, if something goes wrong, I have 8 years of friendship to lose with this person so take this into consideration in your advice.) Compared to the other Christian guys who have had crushes on me, this guy shows a lot more respect for me and treats me a lot better. Lots of girls have said he is a good guy. Not to mention we have a close friendship. But am I attracted to him? Not at all. I can't explain why either. If I were to make a rational decision, I would say he likely would be a good husband, but for some odd reason I just don't have that attraction for him. By the way, I am not superficial at all. When I used to get attracted to men (yes, even though I was only 18), I would have to like that person's personality and that would lead to being attracted to his outside even though normally I wouldn't find that type to be good looking.
Have you experienced this before where you think everything about someone makes him a good mate, but for some odd reason, you don't have that feeling of attraction towards that person? If so, please share what you decided to do in the end. Would you just make a rational decision to go for it, or would you just follow your feelings? FYI, I have been praying about it for so long but I feel that I should be speaking to some mature experienced people who can give me Godly advice.
If you look at my age (28), you're going to be completely surprised when I tell you that I have not had one boyfriend in my life. I've gone out with guys out of loneliness but I never could get attracted to them. I haven't even been attracted to anyone since I was 18 (so like 10 years ago!). So like, when I was a teenager I used to have crushes, but when I got older I don't know what the heck happened.
Now I have this long time friend who I think has a crush on me. (By the way, if something goes wrong, I have 8 years of friendship to lose with this person so take this into consideration in your advice.) Compared to the other Christian guys who have had crushes on me, this guy shows a lot more respect for me and treats me a lot better. Lots of girls have said he is a good guy. Not to mention we have a close friendship. But am I attracted to him? Not at all. I can't explain why either. If I were to make a rational decision, I would say he likely would be a good husband, but for some odd reason I just don't have that attraction for him. By the way, I am not superficial at all. When I used to get attracted to men (yes, even though I was only 18), I would have to like that person's personality and that would lead to being attracted to his outside even though normally I wouldn't find that type to be good looking.
Have you experienced this before where you think everything about someone makes him a good mate, but for some odd reason, you don't have that feeling of attraction towards that person? If so, please share what you decided to do in the end. Would you just make a rational decision to go for it, or would you just follow your feelings? FYI, I have been praying about it for so long but I feel that I should be speaking to some mature experienced people who can give me Godly advice.
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