Introvert/ Introversion Awareness

[star in the sky]

Well growing in God what I meant was growing in self confidence.

 

[star in the sky]

Will I ask that? Yes I will ask that...(lil self talk lol) Any introverts that are Artists in here? When talking about artists I mean the broad spectrum of the word artist like graphic design , pencil drawing, painting, photoshop

 

[Bill Shadowcat]

^ lol I can draw, but most 5 year olds can draw better than me.

Introvert all the way here. Aspergian as well.

 

[star in the sky]

Nice to meet you Bill. Introvert all the way here too.

 

[star in the sky]

Neat you can draw - its the fact that you 'like' drawing which counts.

 

[star in the sky]

I havent met a Aspergian in years , personally met I mean to say. Probably because I dont live in a large country such as the U.S.A, I should met more people though, probably because I'm an introvert!

 

[Peripatetic]

Fellow introverts! I'm a lifelong INFJ and proud of it

I was identified as INTJ when I took that test a few years ago, but didn't remember what it meant. I have to admit... after looking it up, the descriptions were pretty accurate in describing me. Since I'm "Likely to over-analyze everything", it just means I'll spend too much time reading this stuff.

I thought this myth and your response were interesting:

Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts. This one I don't really agree with (or the author just didn't state it well). I love being out in public, but not constantly. The length of time is really irrelevant, I enjoy spending the whole day in the city sometimes, I love the energy and the busyness of it. But I wouldn't want to live there day in and day out. So I don't rush in, get bored quickly, and want to rush home again; that's not accurate (at least not for me).

I 100% agree about being outside and around people. I work in the city and also like the energy and bustle. However, I don't really want to engage with the people around me (especially small talk). I like the anonymity of those situations. I think that's what differentiates us introverts. We may like to be a face in the crowd, but put us in a dinner party where we're expected to mingle with acquaintances, and it's utterly exhausting.

I just found this thread now... it's great to hear from fellow introverts!

 

[star in the sky]

Its great to hear from you to peripatetic - its great to hear from other introverts because then you dont feel like youre the only one - that there are others and many others that think and feel the same way you do and the end result ? You feel like yourself and know its ok to be an introvert/ INFJ that we are normal and accepted by God we dont have to change, perform or become extroverted.

 

[star in the sky]

I find at a dinner party if I know the people really well not just people I've met for the first time ALL that natter all that chat utterly exhausting so yip know how you feel

 

[janny108]

I find it hard to be friends with someone who is very extroverted and talks all the time!! I called her a few times and it's talk talk talk about herself and what she is doing. Now I know her husband passed, but I have to almost fight to get a few words in. I know extroverts have to "think out loud" whereas we think about things first. Frustrating

 

[janny108]

do you get the impression from extroverts that they like to hear themselves talk sometimes? Like they want YOU to call them because they are so BUSY? This is what bugs me about this.

 

[Peripatetic]

I find it hard to be friends with someone who is very extroverted and talks all the time!! I called her a few times and it's talk talk talk about herself and what she is doing. Now I know her husband passed, but I have to almost fight to get a few words in. I know extroverts have to "think out loud" whereas we think about things first. Frustrating

My wife (also an Introvert) makes a game out of it by not telling some people anything about herself unless they ask. She knows people that don't know a single thing about her because all conversation is about them. Yet they seem to be completely unaware of the imbalance.

 

[star in the sky]

My wife (also an Introvert) makes a game out of it by not telling some people anything about herself unless they ask. She knows people that don't know a single thing about her because all conversation is about them. Yet they seem to be completely unaware of the imbalance.

Good point there needs to be that balance. For me and I know its a problem for introverts generally dont always share or talk about themselves in social settings when they really should I find sometimes in meeting new people its like the expression : 'whats matter cat got your tongue' is related to show how I act in those situations its like I kinda stall verbally because of this massive fear people wont like what I have to say or theyll make fun of that and yet other times Imm as cool as a cucumber around people I know and can share about my life.

 

[star in the sky]

Some times all I can blurt out is hi and it really annoys me but Im thankful I can learn and as a Christian see that I'm wrong and not conversing when I should is selfish. You might say something and it all turns south or might have a really good time conversing you may end up laughing so much you fall off your chair once conversation has ended.

 

[star in the sky]

The key is to dont get use to not talking when you should, try your best to improve and dont feel self pity and tell yourself ' I know I should talk right now to these people but Im afraid and im comfortable in doing what I want Ill just be awkward'. Its like I have to snap out of it - meaning of times when I 'should' talk not saying I have to be like a talkative extrovert- its real interesting what you learn about people and learning things - its just intially getting over that and talking .

 

[scraparcs]

Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.

I'm an aloof nerd because I'm easily misunderstood and not at all easily understood. When any social interaction is likely to get me branded as simply weird, it gets me to shy away from social interaction. Hence, the aloof nerd bit.

Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.

Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.

I have a job where I'm frequently trying to do three or four things at once in a chaotic environment, and when it gets to be too much, I tend to forget things like the name of that writing implement, you know, the long one that has ink on the end. There's a card reader at work that we often jokingly call "that (curse word) thing" because it was so chaotic one day I kept trying to remember what it was called and finally just cursed it out of frustration!

 

[Franny50]

I am probably more introverted as I often start conversations with strangers in public,but I am also a good listener and know when to keep quiet.I try to draw people out and give them a chance to discuss themselves first.

 

[star in the sky]

do you get the impression from extroverts that they like to hear themselves talk sometimes? Like they want YOU to call them because they are so BUSY? This is what bugs me about this.

LOL they do I think like to hear themselves talk. They're confidently optimistic

#Usually the ones to wear 'I'M AWESOME dont you know it?' t-shirts#

I dont want to tease them or at belittle them though but their funny like that.

 

[scraparcs]

I have to say, I'm getting pretty good at talking about myself without saying anything at all.

 

[janny108]

LOL they do I think like to hear themselves talk. They're confidently optimistic

#Usually the ones to wear 'I'M AWESOME dont you know it?' t-shirts#

I dont want to tease them or at belittle them though but their funny like that.

I agree!