Introvert/ Introversion Awareness

[Sonata17]

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[Sonata17]

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[Thunder Peel]

I can certainly relate to that! For me, it usually goes something like this: have conversation, analyze conversation, cringe at some weak response by me, and finally... come up with the perfect, clever response when it's too late.

I think a lot of introverts, myself included, fall into that trap at some point. I'm notorious for over-analyzing conversations and assuming the worst in most cases.

 

[SyntheticPaper]

Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.
… I am actually very talkative, but only when placed with the right person / people and when in the right situation. otherwise, no, I don’t really enjoy talking beyond what actually needs to be said.

Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.
… Not really shy in the way that a little kid is shy. I’m not afraid of people, or afraid of dealing with people. I just find it pointless and boring most of the time, and there is almost always something else I would rather be doing.

Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.
… This one annoys me. I am INTJ, which is often considered a “rude” personality type. No, I am not “rude”, unless I want to be. I am not an idiot, I know how to treat people in order to get what I want and need from them. If you go around being rude to people you are going to get on their bad side. This is going to make dealing with everyone from teachers to police officers to bank tellers, etc. into a long and torturous ordeal. Do you really want to stand around in a store wasting your time with idiots? Or would you rather simply smile at them and say “It’s fine” when they mess up, and then be on your way? I know which I prefer.

Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.
… I like some people quite a lot. I dislike some people quite a lot. I am completely indifferent to everyone else.

Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
… I have no problem going out in public as long as there is (what I consider) a good reason for it.

Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.
… I enjoy being with a very select, few people. However, I also have absolutely no problem being completely alone as well

Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.
… Everyone is “weird” now. That word has lost most of its real meaning. In fact, most of the people who go around proclaiming their “weirdness” are attention seeking extroverts.

Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.
… Everyone is also a “nerd” now. Being a “nerd” is the new version of cool now. Bleh.

Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.
… I actually am one of the most relaxed and fun people you will ever meet. This is not just me saying so, but something that several other people have said. However if you are not someone I like then go away and stop irritating me, so I can relax and have fun.

Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
… Wait, no. You have this backwards. It’s the extroverts who need the fixing.

Oh, and to answer the question about how I feel when an obvious extrovert claims to be introverted? I just roll my eyes a bit, shake my head a little and say: “Of course you are” and then mutter: “social butterfly”.

 

[star in the sky]

HI guys,
Heres another link tell me what you think: Introverts Do It Passionately and Creatively: How It’s Possible to Love Solitude and Be Popular | space2live

- I haven't read most of it so Im not saying I agree 100%

 

[star in the sky]

Oh and my favourite book on temperaments (which is what extroversion and introversion are) is Personality Plus by Florence Littauer- Great book do recommend

 

[janny108]

Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.
… I am actually very talkative, but only when placed with the right person / people and when in the right situation. otherwise, no, I don’t really enjoy talking beyond what actually needs to be said.

Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.
… Not really shy in the way that a little kid is shy. I’m not afraid of people, or afraid of dealing with people. I just find it pointless and boring most of the time, and there is almost always something else I would rather be doing.

Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.
… This one annoys me. I am INTJ, which is often considered a “rude” personality type. No, I am not “rude”, unless I want to be. I am not an idiot, I know how to treat people in order to get what I want and need from them. If you go around being rude to people you are going to get on their bad side. This is going to make dealing with everyone from teachers to police officers to bank tellers, etc. into a long and torturous ordeal. Do you really want to stand around in a store wasting your time with idiots? Or would you rather simply smile at them and say “It’s fine” when they mess up, and then be on your way? I know which I prefer.

Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.
… I like some people quite a lot. I dislike some people quite a lot. I am completely indifferent to everyone else.

Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
… I have no problem going out in public as long as there is (what I consider) a good reason for it.

Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.
… I enjoy being with a very select, few people. However, I also have absolutely no problem being completely alone as well

Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.
… Everyone is “weird” now. That word has lost most of its real meaning. In fact, most of the people who go around proclaiming their “weirdness” are attention seeking extroverts.

Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.
… Everyone is also a “nerd” now. Being a “nerd” is the new version of cool now. Bleh.

Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.
… I actually am one of the most relaxed and fun people you will ever meet. This is not just me saying so, but something that several other people have said. However if you are not someone I like then go away and stop irritating me, so I can relax and have fun.

Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
… Wait, no. You have this backwards. It’s the extroverts who need the fixing.

Oh, and to answer the question about how I feel when an obvious extrovert claims to be introverted? I just roll my eyes a bit, shake my head a little and say: “Of course you are” and then mutter: “social butterfly”.

I can talk with at least one person a lot because we feel comfortable together. I'm not one who has to be in the middle of everything. That's exhausting to me.

 

[janny108]

It's the xtrverts that need fixing. LOL It could be they wear more "masks" than us. With me, it's you get what you see.

 

[bhsmte]

Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.
… I am actually very talkative, but only when placed with the right person / people and when in the right situation. otherwise, no, I don’t really enjoy talking beyond what actually needs to be said.

Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.
… Not really shy in the way that a little kid is shy. I’m not afraid of people, or afraid of dealing with people. I just find it pointless and boring most of the time, and there is almost always something else I would rather be doing.

Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.
… This one annoys me. I am INTJ, which is often considered a “rude” personality type. No, I am not “rude”, unless I want to be. I am not an idiot, I know how to treat people in order to get what I want and need from them. If you go around being rude to people you are going to get on their bad side. This is going to make dealing with everyone from teachers to police officers to bank tellers, etc. into a long and torturous ordeal. Do you really want to stand around in a store wasting your time with idiots? Or would you rather simply smile at them and say “It’s fine” when they mess up, and then be on your way? I know which I prefer.

Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.
… I like some people quite a lot. I dislike some people quite a lot. I am completely indifferent to everyone else.

Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
… I have no problem going out in public as long as there is (what I consider) a good reason for it.

Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.
… I enjoy being with a very select, few people. However, I also have absolutely no problem being completely alone as well

Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.
… Everyone is “weird” now. That word has lost most of its real meaning. In fact, most of the people who go around proclaiming their “weirdness” are attention seeking extroverts.

Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.
… Everyone is also a “nerd” now. Being a “nerd” is the new version of cool now. Bleh.

Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.
… I actually am one of the most relaxed and fun people you will ever meet. This is not just me saying so, but something that several other people have said. However if you are not someone I like then go away and stop irritating me, so I can relax and have fun.

Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
… Wait, no. You have this backwards. It’s the extroverts who need the fixing.

Oh, and to answer the question about how I feel when an obvious extrovert claims to be introverted? I just roll my eyes a bit, shake my head a little and say: “Of course you are” and then mutter: “social butterfly”.

I would consider myself an introvert and would agree with pretty much all of the above. Introverts are really mis defined by many.

There can be many complex psychological differences between introverts and extroverts, but one that I think is common place would be this:

Extroverts typically have more narcissist qualities to them. Not saying off the charts narcissist (although some do) but they have more of a psychological need to be the center of attention, to be accepted.

Introverts typically are turned off by small talk or when they are around people just filling the air with discussion for the sake of it. But, when you get many introverts going on a topic (usually one with depth), they will have no problem driving the conversation.

 

[janny108]

I think of the folks who always seem to have photos of themselves on FB

 

[peckaboo]

Can I come lurk in this thread? I'm an extrovert (and fully aware of the flaws that accompany that - I'm not going to be offended by anything said here!) but my husband is an introvert, and I love, love, love him for it.
There are so many strengths that introverts bring to relationships, or to the workplace, or to the church, which extroverts sadly tend to overlook. You generally think before you speak so are less likely to accidentally say something hurtful. You're better at staying focussed in a conversation, so when you say something it's relevant. Also, when you say something it tends to be worth listening to because you've spent some time processing it, which extroverts rarely do. We just blurt out whatever inane thoughts come into our heads (and yes, they're often about ourselves).
I hate when my husband comes home from the office dejected because he's been told again that he's "too quiet" or needs to "contribute more to the social life of the office", as though his introversion is some kind of defect. (When in actual fact, it's a strength.) It's just lazy thinking and a reluctance to change the status quo that makes people embrace extroversion as some kind of ideal.
Anyway, I don't have any articles to link to, but I read two really great books recently that some of you guys might be interested in - 'Introverts in the Church' by Adam McHugh (written by an introvert about how the church is geared towards extroverts, to its own detriment) and 'Quiet - the power of introverts in a world that can't stop talking' by Susan Cain.
Sorry for my verbosity! :/

 

[star in the sky]

@peekaboo ofcourse you can hang here its for everyone and you obviously show understanding on the subject.

 

[star in the sky]

Interesting to hear about your husband.

 

[Galadriel]

Hi there!
Can I join? I am totally an introvert, but am not shy anymore. I used to have a hard time in school socializing, and was quite shy as a kid. I work in retail which can be really trying on some days. Especially if I am not in the mood it can be tough to make "chatty small talk" with hundreds of customers in a day (ie: How are you? Did you find everything? Can I help you?). I have learned how to function quite well though!

Still some days I really wish I had a job like I dunno working in a lab or something less immersed in people!

I make up for my insanely social job though by pretty much just hanging with my husband (also on the introverted side) outside of work. The idea of having to "go do things" with other people just seems really cruel when I finally have gotten some "me" time outside of work. So I spend my off time chillin' reading and being on here. Ok sometimes I visit family too, but its not very often. I don't have any close friends outside of work (other than DH) which some might find really odd, but the idea of having to then go and be all social after work is just too much for me! If I had a more solitary job it would be easier to socialize outside work too.

 

[star in the sky]

Hi there!
Can I join? I am totally an introvert, but am not shy anymore. I used to have a hard time in school socializing, and was quite shy as a kid. I work in retail which can be really trying on some days. Especially if I am not in the mood it can be tough to make "chatty small talk" with hundreds of customers in a day (ie: How are you? Did you find everything? Can I help you?). I have learned how to function quite well though!

Still some days I really wish I had a job like I dunno working in a lab or something less immersed in people!

I make up for my insanely social job though by pretty much just hanging with my husband (also on the introverted side) outside of work. The idea of having to "go do things" with other people just seems really cruel when I finally have gotten some "me" time outside of work. So I spend my off time chillin' reading and being on here. Ok sometimes I visit family too, but its not very often. I don't have any close friends outside of work (other than DH) which some might find really odd, but the idea of having to then go and be all social after work is just too much for me! If I had a more solitary job it would be easier to socialize outside work too.

To encourage youre in the job God wants so its good youre sticking at it even though it seems like your around people and have to talk alot. "Can I join?" ofcourse! no one is excluded. Yeh I hardly have any friends although my circumstance is different I dont feel comfortable with that and am trusting in God for more friends at church- I know he wants this. With that being said though I moved a while a go to a new city.

 

[star in the sky]

Can I come lurk in this thread? I'm an extrovert (and fully aware of the flaws that accompany that - I'm not going to be offended by anything said here!) but my husband is an introvert, and I love, love, love him for it.
There are so many strengths that introverts bring to relationships, or to the workplace, or to the church, which extroverts sadly tend to overlook. You generally think before you speak so are less likely to accidentally say something hurtful. You're better at staying focussed in a conversation, so when you say something it's relevant. Also, when you say something it tends to be worth listening to because you've spent some time processing it, which extroverts rarely do. We just blurt out whatever inane thoughts come into our heads (and yes, they're often about ourselves).
I hate when my husband comes home from the office dejected because he's been told again that he's "too quiet" or needs to "contribute more to the social life of the office", as though his introversion is some kind of defect. (When in actual fact, it's a strength.) It's just lazy thinking and a reluctance to change the status quo that makes people embrace extroversion as some kind of ideal.
Anyway, I don't have any articles to link to, but I read two really great books recently that some of you guys might be interested in - 'Introverts in the Church' by Adam McHugh (written by an introvert about how the church is geared towards extroverts, to its own detriment) and 'Quiet - the power of introverts in a world that can't stop talking' by Susan Cain.
Sorry for my verbosity! :/

peckaboo theres a book : Personality Plus by Florence littauer have a read .

 

[star in the sky]

I find it extremely difficult not be annoyed at the classic 'Im an introvert when Im not' or 'Im a extrovert when Im not' due to feeling misunderstood was the reason why I started this thread. I had another incident with an extrovert saying they were introverted .Clearly they are not. Ok so just to note I am aware people have more than one temperament-I like to use the word temperament. They can major in extroversion and have at least one other temperant which may be an introvert temperant as a minor temperant so they have two temperaments but are known for their extroversion. Im cool with that. My siblings are an example of that one we would say is extroverted but he also in a little introverted he can be quiet at times and is more sensitive but hes known more for his extrovert qualities. While the other is has clearly all extrovert temperaments you know and if you told him'youre an introvert arent you?' He would laugh and so would I everyone knows he's extroverted- clearly. I do find it very difficult when it comes to people like the last brother whom they are clearly extroverted every
yone knows they are extroverted yet they keep bringing up how they are known for introversion when clearly like the last brother I mentioned they are very extroverted without a shadow of a doubt . They are known for taking up front positions and known for being talkative. Ok so I understand 'sensitive' could fall into both categories of both extrovert and introvert . Ill make it clear I myself I have once said out of needed to know who I was and wanting afirmation that I was an extrovert when Im clearly not and I ve srn that Im not and have accepted that Im an introvert and thats awesome so Im not picking on extroverts as I have done that at leat once having a need in my life. Ijust had to accept who I was.It srms to be over and over known introverts say theyr extroverts and known extroverts who say they are introverts have a nardne even attention seeking but I dont know just seems that way.e

 

[star in the sky]

Typos I know - Ill correct them when on the computer. Nardne = need lol And just to make clear this post was not to put down extroverts. 90% of my friends are extroverts theyre fun to be with.

 

[star in the sky]

love your verbosity! No need to apologise I love the colourful expressions of extroverts- makes life fun.

 

[star in the sky]

* Nobody needs to apologise for being' verbosity- like' or having little to say its ok you are who you are dont apologise!