Hi Redheadedstepchild,
Welcome to the Unequally-Yoked forum!
I can relate to your desire to find a church that will be good for all your family members. I was in a similar situation 10 years ago: dw didn't want to go, but I wanted to go for the sake of our daughter. I chose a church based on what was good for our daughter, and it turned out to be good for me as well. Nine years later when my wife decided to start attending with us, we found another church that she would accept.
I am asking him to have input on our choice of church because I want him to be comfortable once he is ready. This is causing us some conflict.
May I recommend you stop asking him for his input on this matter? It sounds like he has made his decision that he wants nothing to do with the choice, and he may feel further pressure from you to be badgering. You can respect his choice of not wanting to be involved in the decision, and then make your decision alone based on prayer. If he decides to join you in the future, I hope you will be willing to change churches if the one you have been attending isn't acceptable to him.
I know you would like to avoid the hassle of possibly changing churches in the future. But in my opinion the more important issue is attending a church that is good for you and your daughter now, and then being willing to go where it is good for your husband later on. There may not be one church that fits both needs. There may be a specific church for you and your daughter now, and then one that will meet your family's needs better at some point in the future.
If I had been willing to change churches sooner, perhaps my wife would have been willing to attend church with us sooner. Yet the 9 years at the other church were precious and have shaped my daughter's view of church and have helped shape her views of God. I'm so glad we attended there.
Anyway, I'm glad you are seeking a place to take your daughter. I just feel your husband has made his wishes clear, that he doesn't want to have input on this choice, and any further attempts by you to get his input will only add unnecessary conflict.
Red I sugest you find a church you are comfortable with If he doesn't want to go it doesn't matter where you go you will ownly draw him in if he seee you getting something he wants from it. If you choose one he might like and you don't you will fall away and he can say I told you so. Anyway that's my oppinion I tried to do the pick a church for her thing and it was the wrong place for me. I found a church that suits me and one of these years she may attend with me or if she gets serious we could look for one that suits her better.
I don't feel a need to go somewhere based only on him liking it. You are right, I need to feel led to be there as well.
