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Hello, I hope everyone is well.
I am 41, and am under the care of Mental Health team, I had a breakdown 4 months ago due to dealing with very stressful life events. I had come out of relationship of domestic abuse (sexual abuse as well). I have been in abusive relationships to one degree or another since I was 5. (I was raped in my early 20's by a Christian friend.
I have been trying to gain some understand about myself. I have been concerned for quite some time that I may have BPD. I fit into all the sypmtoms, which I can sum up, in just overwhelming unstable emotions, wave after wave....distressing.....up and down.....I have difficulty handling the emotions which leads me to have self harm thoughts and suicidal thoughts.
I am a Christian and this seriously effects my faith, I can not trust God, I am angry, I feel intense worthlessness and no amount of prayer, bible passages...teaching makes me believe any different, I feel un lovable, I do not trust men full stop and the Holy Trinity is 3 men, I don't wish for them to come close, I believe I am all these horrible things because of my experiences, since childhood. (I struggled with suicidal thoughts since adolescence, I feel utterly wretched. I used to believe God had a purpose for my life....but it has been relentless....then I feel guilty because people do experience worse....although being sexually abused bu my husband was not good. I feel angry...because I wonder why did God plan for me to experience all this....most of my life I have been dealing with way more than I have the ability to bear...and I feel this is proved in my inabilitiy to deal with these awful overwhelming emotions.
I spoke to my Mental Health Nurse and I asked her if it was possible that I do have BPD and she confirmed that is probably the case.....I have been referred for indepth therapy and I am hoping no one will make a big deal about a diagnosis as this could have massive implication for me...but not really change who I am...or what I do. She said I am on all the right treatment etc.....and so there is nothing more to do....the therapy should help, and she says to my credit I must have some abilitiy to deal with things....
I struggle as...a lot of my feelings and thought patterns are anti- what it says in the Bible.....I get over -wrought working out all the thigs I am doing wrong....and I will usually come by a Christian who tells me...it is my sin that is the reason I am ill...or it's a demon....or I haven't truly forgiven someone....that is all the reasons God will not answer my prayers.....there isn't on eare aof my life that is ok.....in my relationships with other people....I have analysed my actions and I have sought advice and been reassured that I did all I could to maintain the relationship....(my sister doesn't speak to me, this seems to be because she loks into my life and see perfect when hers isn't - although this couldn't be further from the truth)....and a friend that fell out with me...because I said no to her....we were planned to have a joint party together and I had to change my mind about it, and she decided to cut me out of her life.
I don't have Christian friends, I can't get in the clique in my church- but I feel that is because they can tell I have mental health problems and they don't want to be involved. I am usually the one crying during the service because of how unworthy I feel or because I feel briefly God's love.....
I'm sorry - I have written a lot....Thank you very much for everyone for listening.....xx
I am 41, and am under the care of Mental Health team, I had a breakdown 4 months ago due to dealing with very stressful life events. I had come out of relationship of domestic abuse (sexual abuse as well). I have been in abusive relationships to one degree or another since I was 5. (I was raped in my early 20's by a Christian friend.
I have been trying to gain some understand about myself. I have been concerned for quite some time that I may have BPD. I fit into all the sypmtoms, which I can sum up, in just overwhelming unstable emotions, wave after wave....distressing.....up and down.....I have difficulty handling the emotions which leads me to have self harm thoughts and suicidal thoughts.
I am a Christian and this seriously effects my faith, I can not trust God, I am angry, I feel intense worthlessness and no amount of prayer, bible passages...teaching makes me believe any different, I feel un lovable, I do not trust men full stop and the Holy Trinity is 3 men, I don't wish for them to come close, I believe I am all these horrible things because of my experiences, since childhood. (I struggled with suicidal thoughts since adolescence, I feel utterly wretched. I used to believe God had a purpose for my life....but it has been relentless....then I feel guilty because people do experience worse....although being sexually abused bu my husband was not good. I feel angry...because I wonder why did God plan for me to experience all this....most of my life I have been dealing with way more than I have the ability to bear...and I feel this is proved in my inabilitiy to deal with these awful overwhelming emotions.
I spoke to my Mental Health Nurse and I asked her if it was possible that I do have BPD and she confirmed that is probably the case.....I have been referred for indepth therapy and I am hoping no one will make a big deal about a diagnosis as this could have massive implication for me...but not really change who I am...or what I do. She said I am on all the right treatment etc.....and so there is nothing more to do....the therapy should help, and she says to my credit I must have some abilitiy to deal with things....
I struggle as...a lot of my feelings and thought patterns are anti- what it says in the Bible.....I get over -wrought working out all the thigs I am doing wrong....and I will usually come by a Christian who tells me...it is my sin that is the reason I am ill...or it's a demon....or I haven't truly forgiven someone....that is all the reasons God will not answer my prayers.....there isn't on eare aof my life that is ok.....in my relationships with other people....I have analysed my actions and I have sought advice and been reassured that I did all I could to maintain the relationship....(my sister doesn't speak to me, this seems to be because she loks into my life and see perfect when hers isn't - although this couldn't be further from the truth)....and a friend that fell out with me...because I said no to her....we were planned to have a joint party together and I had to change my mind about it, and she decided to cut me out of her life.
I don't have Christian friends, I can't get in the clique in my church- but I feel that is because they can tell I have mental health problems and they don't want to be involved. I am usually the one crying during the service because of how unworthy I feel or because I feel briefly God's love.....
I'm sorry - I have written a lot....Thank you very much for everyone for listening.....xx
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