Incontinence

[lavenderbees]

It really gets me down. I feel like such a failure. She is almost 10 but we cannot train her bowel. She goes three times a day sometimes and she has a bad habit of sticking her hands in her trousers. If she was not polished after the last nappy change she has to have a bath. It really gets me down.

 

[lavenderbees]

I've been through all the other stages.

Shock
Denial
Self-blame
Guilt

Now we are just left with:
"Who is going to deal with this in the future?"
"What about when she gets her periods?"

 

[RooMama]

Oh dear, that must be so difficult to deal with.

 

[Mayzoo]

What are her medical conditions, if I may ask? My sweetie is day trained, but not night trained. She has medical issues that made potty training a real challenge, despite her intelligence. She was actually not able to pull up or down her pants until she was 4.5 yrs old due to balance issues. And, she has cysts in her spine that cause inaccurate neurological data to be sent to her brain--she just was not aware when she needed to urinate/or have a bowel movement.

Then, add that her meds complicated the neurological data perceived by her brain, and it made for a most complicated process. So it is also possible that meds may play a part if she takes any.

And, my sweetie has SID, which makes playing in poop appealing for two reasons--one she does not like it in her pants, and two she just thinks it feels interesting .

 

[lavenderbees]

She is autistic. (Was in her own little world until a year ago. She did not understand us, so how could we train her to use the toilet?) I am dreading the day she starts wanting to play with her poo. I've heard of some male autistic people enjoying that activity. So I just hope she won't develop that interest too.

Things have improved a bit. We have managed to train her water-works. We are now working on her bowel.

 

[thebigguy]

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[Mayzoo]

Just posting again to remove the blot that was placed here then removed----but I still see that name as the last poster, and it bugs me. So now I am the last poster!!

Melancholia any updates??

 

[RedTulipMom]

Mel,
you are NOT a failure! You are a great mommy and are doing the best you can. Your daughter has reasons she cant go on the potty and it isnt YOUR fault. It is part of her medical condition. please dont blame yourself. Just keep loving her and take care of her the best you can with God's help. HUGS.