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Seventh Fisher of Men has an issue with what I had written here. So, I have checked and tried to make things better clear.
Jesus does want us to love one another . . . while also loving any and all other people >
"if you love those who love you, what reward have you?" (in Matthew 5:46)
But ones want to seek pleasure. They can use the people who give them the pleasure they treasure. So, their love can be, really, only their feelings for their pleasure which they use people to get. So, I think any of us needs to keep praying about why we are with people. None of us is not perfect; any of us, then, in my opinion, can need to do better so we are not using anyone only or mainly for pleasure.
Because humans can tend to only use others for pleasure, it is possible that one's sexual preference has nothing to do with real intimacy and love. But ones can in reality be seeking how they prefer to get their own gratification. You can read medical material which defines preference in terms not of who people are attracted to and deeply love, but how they prefer to get themselves gratified.
And, therefore, sexual preference might not really have anything to do with reproduction, and therefore nothing to do with sex with the meaning which involves reproduction. Ones can just be using who and what they hope to use for what they want. And how much of a hope is this?
But God is about having "godly offspring" > Malachi 2:15.
And in order to have godly offspring for God, we need to be our children's example of how to be and how to relate in God's love. And our example can reproduce, so our children become examples, too.
So, I would say you need to share with mature Christian example people, including senior couples who have spent decades finding out how to love. These will be ones who know they are still getting God's correction and maturing for how to be with God and how to relate in His love. And so, they will tell you how they still are getting God's effective correction . . . still, I offer, right now. Because we children of God keep getting more and more, better and better with our Heavenly Father.
And we help each other, by sharing with one another how our Heavenly Father is correcting us. Because this is so beneficial . . . how God is able in us to change us into the likeness of Jesus and how Jesus has us loving. For examples, in my case >
Love does not have us only using anyone. So, I need to keep seeking God for how He knows I need correction not to just use anyone.
I need to not be conceited, picking and choosing who looks important enough for my attention.
I need to not be looking down on anyone, but see how I myself need real correction.
And God's real correction is not only how I might try to get myself to change, but trust the LORD for how only He is able in me to make me His way in His love.
Hebrews 12:4-14 shares about how God succeeds in correcting us.
What also helps me is >
"He can have compassion on those who are ignorant and going astray, since he himself is also subject to weakness." (Hebrews 5:2)
I need to have hope, then, for any person, with compassion, not only criticism. Love "hopes all things" (in 1 Corinthians 13:7).
So, I would start with prayer, yes, and with people like this. Then see who appreciates you so much that she wants to meet and share with these people who are so good for you.
And because she appreciates how really loving you are, she will even moreso appreciate those who are more real than you and who have been helping you.
So, if you two are mainly isolating in dating > you can find really maturing Christian people and share with them who are helping you get more real with God and loving, then see how much she wants to be sharing with you and your love family people who would be glad to meet her and share with her. And do things more as family and not only or mainly with each other.