Hi, im new to all this so this may not come out as i mean it to, but here goes

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I noticed in an older post that
alonesoldier said that he did not know of any verse that supported his view that children if they die young go to be with Christ, (sorry if i am misinterpreting your words). I believe this view is scriptural, and this is why;
If we take John Wesleys definition of what it is to commit a sin (i will work on the assumption that you agree with it), "a voluntary transgretion of a known law of God," that is to say that God holds only those sins against you that you commit voluntarily and are aware of. The question then becomes, can a child know that what he does is wrong? Scripture seems to say that he doesn`t up untill a certain age;
Isaiah 7 vs 16
"But before the child knows to reject the wrong and choose the right."
or
Romans 7 vs 9
"Once i was alive apart from the law, but when the commandment came sin sprang to life and i died."
Obviously you must look at these in there context, but i believe they support the view that a child is covered by Gods grace till "the child knows to reject the wrong and chose the right"
I think that is consistant with a God of Love, Mercy but also Justice and Holiness, as we know "God wills that all be saved."
Anyway i hope that that helps, and it wasn`t so bad typing all that, still it may come out all over the place, but i hope not.
The other thing i wanted to say is that (im sure its the same for the rest of you), when reading Wesley so many scriptures begin to make sense

, he really was a man who "lost his life" for the Lord (in the spiritual sense) and therefore was greatly used by God.