I'd like to stop sinning but I don't know how.

[Shadows]

I don't know what to do anymore. No matter how hard I try I just can't stop being gay. I know it's wrong, and I know the Bible says I'll be going to Hell but I can't help it! Last week end I ended up ar a gay orgy. It's like ever since I turned 18 all these new experiences have opened up and I sin more and more all the time. I must have slept with 5 guys in one night. I cry myself to sleep every night now and I think I can even feel God pulling away from me. I don't want to lose his Holy Spirit, it's the only thing holding me together! Please, please, please help me if you have any advice. I have no where else to turn.

 

[Soft Rains]

I don't know what to do anymore. No matter how hard I try I just can't stop being gay. I know it's wrong, and I know the Bible says I'll be going to Hell but I can't help it! Last week end I ended up ar a gay orgy. It's like ever since I turned 18 all these new experiences have opened up and I sin more and more all the time. I must have slept with 5 guys in one night. I cry myself to sleep every night now and I think I can even feel God pulling away from me. I don't want to lose his Holy Spirit, it's the only thing holding me together! Please, please, please help me if you have any advice. I have no where else to turn.

Although I am not gay, I understand how you feel. Male sexuality is like this itch, this compulsion that never goes away, but needs to be scratched, and scratched, and scratched.

As a hetero man, I'm glad to know that very soon I will be in a socially-endorsed relationship where I will be able to scratch, and scratch and scratch, getting relief from the nagging sexual obsessions. I will be able to do this without the risk of disease, perforated organs, social stigma, existential anxiety, fear of hell, self-loathing. I will scratch and scratch all night and walk into church the next morning hand in hand with my wife, and everybody will smile at us and nod, and all will be in place in my head.

You on the other hand... You are under a terrible disorder that will cause you a great deal of pain throughout your life, and all I gotta say is that God better make it up to you.

Get some counseling, go to a therapist, come "out of the closet" with your struggles -- with everyone you know. Talk to gay people about this issue, and find out how to minimize the pain and anxiety.

God loves you and, although no one on earth can truly understand you and your pain, there is one person who does.

 

[Mr.Cheese]

The Bible says that Jesus loves you.

The activities you mentioned aren't healthy for anybody straight or otherwise.

 

[AquariusWolf]

The Bible says that Jesus loves you.

The activities you mentioned aren't healthy for anybody straight or otherwise.

I agree with Mr. Cheese (funny name ) Although I different views about homosexuality than a lot of Christians, I agree that the above activities mentioned are not healthy. If you continue to engage in these activities, I pray that you practice safe sex and encourage you to seek counseling with someone you trust, as well as getting tested for HIV. I fear that I am preaching, but I have worked for numerous organizations that seek to help those affected by HIV/AIDS. It is a scary illness that I hope will one day vanish.

 

[Soft Rains]

The activities you mentioned aren't healthy for anybody straight or otherwise.

Although compulsive, prosmicuous sex is, indeed unhealthy, sex is healthy and safe for a man and his wife.

The repression of sexual desire is both inhumane and self-defeating. A morality based on repression and guilt is always on the verge of being subverted by rage and compulsion. You don't repress sexuality without paying a price. It's difficult to be a loving, embraving member of the world community if your sexuality is being stymied.

That's why, I say that God better make it up to the OP.

 

[Dark_Lite]

I don't know what to do anymore. No matter how hard I try I just can't stop being gay. I know it's wrong, and I know the Bible says I'll be going to Hell but I can't help it! Last week end I ended up ar a gay orgy. It's like ever since I turned 18 all these new experiences have opened up and I sin more and more all the time. I must have slept with 5 guys in one night. I cry myself to sleep every night now and I think I can even feel God pulling away from me. I don't want to lose his Holy Spirit, it's the only thing holding me together! Please, please, please help me if you have any advice. I have no where else to turn.

If you are to follow the belief that homosexuality is wrong, then abstain from homosexual acts.

It's not the orientation that matters, but rather what is done with that orientation...

 

[Shadows]

If you are to follow the belief that homosexuality is wrong, then abstain from homosexual acts.

It's not the orientation that matters, but rather what is done with that orientation...

It's easier said than done. It's like an addiction. You can't tell a heroine addict to just stop. Even if they want to it's incredibly hard. It's the same for me, I just love it too much and I can't break away. It's only after that I break down but during it's the greatest thing in the world.

 

[NothingButTheBlood]

It sounds to me like you don't really want to stop. If you did you would first off abstain from homosexual sex then two, see a therapist because you are obviously filling a need by engaging in dangerous sexual practices. If your question really is how do I stop all you can do is decide you want to and do it, alcoholics do that everyday. If your question is how can I do these things and not feel guilty no one can really help you on that.

 

[LoverofChrist]

I don't have all the answers, but I don't believe that you'll be going to hell because you're gay. I truly believe that gay persons are born that way and nothing can be done to turn you "straight". I do, however, believe that you need to abstain from unprotected, unsafe sexual behavior. You could end up hurting not only yourself, but also someone else in the long run.

Do you love Christ? Do you believe He is our Savior? Do you believe you will live with Him in paradise after you die? Do you believe He will come again? If you've said yes to all of these, then you will NOT burn in hell.

Love God, love your neighbor and love yourself!

 

[searle29678]

I don't know what to do anymore. No matter how hard I try I just can't stop being gay. I know it's wrong, and I know the Bible says I'll be going to Hell but I can't help it! Last week end I ended up ar a gay orgy. It's like ever since I turned 18 all these new experiences have opened up and I sin more and more all the time. I must have slept with 5 guys in one night. I cry myself to sleep every night now and I think I can even feel God pulling away from me. I don't want to lose his Holy Spirit, it's the only thing holding me together! Please, please, please help me if you have any advice. I have no where else to turn.

I put in bold things that struck me about your post. It is not for me to decide whether or not you will "burn in hell" because I can't determine whether you are truly saved.
However, if you believe that you are and you have a relationship with God you have to stop thinking in terms of what you can do. You can try as hard as you want to not be gay, an addict, a thief, or whatever other compulsive sin you have in your life. You have to stop when these complusions hit and pray right then and there. God will not pull away from you and He doesn't want you to hurt and continue to be pulled down by the guilt of your actions. You have only one place to turn--God! I used to do cocaine on a very regular basis and then I quit. Sure I have had times when I have given in to temptation, but only because I tried to rely on myself to resist. Any other time, I have stopped and asked God to give me the strength to remove myself from the situation...He has. When it is right there in your face and it looks tempting it is hard to say no, but I would rather be praising God the next day for helping me resist temptation than waking up in tears realizing that I failed again by trying to do it on my own. You are in my prayers.

 

[Bain_Adaneth]

Shadows,

How my love pores out for you........you are not only gay, but you disrespect your body by giving it away to many.... you are a person that God loves...but he hates these actions...if you hate them too...throw them away...tell them "No!!", and that you won't let it happen again....You know that YOU have this power to refuse treating your body this way.....a child of God has to keep his/her body clean for the Holy Spirit....you have to repent and ask Him for forgiveness.....it is easier to stop sinning when you remember that God knows everything that we do.....I'm sorry that you are going through this....I find that even we bad things are happening in my life, somehow God is able...He is able to make good things come out of bad things....You must know that Jesus Christ has died for our sins, and that it was such a prescious thing....think about your purpose in Life, and if you are doing the will of God, or if you are following your will.....PM me if you want...thanks for posting your thoughts.....May God bless you....

 

[double jay]

GOD loves you and if you truely want to make things better. He will aknowledge that. We all sin frome time to time but its what we do after the SIN is what matters. If you are truely sorry make it right with God than work towards a solutoin. through God all things are possible.

 

[Mr.Cheese]

Although compulsive, prosmicuous sex is, indeed unhealthy, sex is healthy and safe for a man and his wife.

The repression of sexual desire is both inhumane and self-defeating. A morality based on repression and guilt is always on the verge of being subverted by rage and compulsion. You don't repress sexuality without paying a price. It's difficult to be a loving, embraving member of the world community if your sexuality is being stymied.

That's why, I say that God better make it up to the OP.

I am all for healthy expression and understanding of sexuality. Really. I was not making any comment other than promiscuous sex is not healthy for anybody.

 

[Bain_Adaneth]

Soft rains,

Sex was not meant to turn out looking as bad as it does. This is because our society makes it a "joke." God created sex! It is supposed to be for those who loved eachother and were married. Those who gave an oath to love eachother.

 

[BillR]

Hey Shadows i just wanted to tell you Jesus loves you very much and so do we, so please find someone where your at to talk to like a pastor. All i know is hate the sin not the sinner and i do believe that if you accept Jesus as your personal savior your going to Heaven.

God bless you and take care my friend

 

[Nanee5]

Soft Rain,
Im not gonna say much, but that God does love you, and if you could stop sinning yourself, then Jesus died in vain! We can do nothing without him. May I suggest you go to www.dennisjernigan.com and read this mans testimony. Maybe it will help.

In Him,
Nanee5

 

[Novaknight1]

I don't know what to do anymore. No matter how hard I try I just can't stop being gay. I know it's wrong, and I know the Bible says I'll be going to Hell but I can't help it! Last week end I ended up ar a gay orgy. It's like ever since I turned 18 all these new experiences have opened up and I sin more and more all the time. I must have slept with 5 guys in one night. I cry myself to sleep every night now and I think I can even feel God pulling away from me. I don't want to lose his Holy Spirit, it's the only thing holding me together! Please, please, please help me if you have any advice. I have no where else to turn.

Good news ! Jesus DIED so you could be freed. Accept Him. Remember what Jesus did to the woman caught in the act of sexual immorality? He said, "Are there none who condemn you?". She said no. He said, "Then neither do I condemn you.". If you ask Jesus into your heart, you'll be forgiven.

 

[Adoniram]

Shadows-

I have known many gays and I understand the compulsion you have. One gay acquaintance used to tell me that if I "tried a man, I'd never go back to a woman."

The thing is, even Christians sin. Everyone has a sin nature. We're born with it. If it's not homosexuality, it's something else. Christians, however, have help from the Holy Spirit who lets them know when they are getting into a situation where they might be tempted to sin. Trials and testings are common to all but God promises us (1 Cor. 10:13) that we will not be tempted to the point that we cannot overcome, and also that with the temptation, he will show us the way out. Your situation is not unique and obviously it is weighing on your conscience. Could that be the Holy Spirit speaking to you?

The solution is simple, but not easy. If you really want to be free from what God calls an "abominable" lifestyle (Lev. 18:22), that lifestyle is exactly what you must change. First, stop hanging out with those with whom you are tempted and also in the places where you are tempted. If you remove yourself from the source of your temptation, it will become easier for you to overcome. Does that make sense? For example, if you wanted to stop drinking, you would first stop going to bars and hanging with your drinking buddies. You have to make a conscience and determined effort to do this. Now I know that means the possibility of abandoning some really close "friends," but if they are the ones who are encouraging you to continue in this lifestyle, are they really being a true friend?

Second, and you should be doing this at the same time, find a church to attend that does not condone that lifestyle (Possibly a Baptist or Calvary Chapel). Sadly, there are many churches that look at it as being a natural thing even though the God says it is not. (Rom. 1:27) Cultivate new friends from amongst their membership and get involved in social activities and Bible studies with them. As you get comfortable and closer to them you may find someone (or perhaps the pastor) in whom you can confide for support and counsel.

Third, and most importantly, if you have not accepted Jesus as your Savior, do so and ask for forgiveness and deliverance. If you have, get closer to him through prayer and Bible study. He and he alone has to power to deliver you from this situation. But you have to put him first and formost in your heart and mind every minute of the day. If you're thinking about him and what he has done for you, you won't have time to think about those other things.

As I said before, none of this will be easy. But it will come down to "what do you really want."

I pray that God will hear the cry of your heart and deliver you.

 

[beetlesmythe]

You just have to totally submit yourself to God. You have to want to live for Him and not for yourself. Seperate yourself from the world and trust in the Lord. Read your bible everyday and pray for strength. Prayer is the foundation of your relationship with Jesus. If you pray to Him with an open heart he will honor that and help you through your struggles. Keep His word in your heart. "Greater is He that is in you than he that is in the world." And always remember: THE DEVIL IS A LIAR!!!!" He will tell you anything and he will use people even people you love and trust to try to trick you and seperate you from God. If you give your life to God you will not be disappointed; He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek him. I will pray for you. -Rachel

 

[kelsey2008]

and all I gotta say is that God better make it up to you.

WHAT? God doesn't have to make anything up to anyone! Jesus Christ endured probably the most painful death EVER! We will never be able to repay God for the huge sacrifice he has given...much less have anything that he "needs to make up for".