i wish

[Dan the Man]

I had some to hang out with on valentines day.

 

[dayhiker]

Sorry you don't have a lady to hang with Dan.
My GF from Canada is flying in to be with me this weekend. We are going to a Ball on Sat.

 

[Dan the Man]

thanks. that is nice she is flying all that way. I hope you have a reaaly great time.

 

[Eagle Of Oz]

Its Valentines Day here (I'm in Australia), and I posted a status on fb saying...

"Just bracing mahself to be inundated with Valentines offers to come in.......any minute now...I'm sure the only reason I haven't got any yet is they're soooo bizzee writing poetry n all dat other stuff dat comes with Valentine's Day....aaany minute now..... "!

All jokes aside, I do understand how you feel. I know at times its tough being single. Most the time I try to focus on trusting Gods will for whoever I will meet one day, and spend the rest of my life with. In the meantime I know I need to keep my eyes fixed on Him, and wait for His timing.

 

[Eagle Of Oz]

Sorry you don't have a lady to hang with Dan.
My GF from Canada is flying in to be with me this weekend. We are going to a Ball on Sat.

That sounds great, DH! Hope you guys have a lufferly weekend!

 

[Dan the Man]

Its Valentines Day here (I'm in Australia), and I posted a status on fb saying...

"Just bracing mahself to be inundated with Valentines offers to come in.......any minute now...I'm sure the only reason I haven't got any yet is they're soooo bizzee writing poetry n all dat other stuff dat comes with Valentine's Day....aaany minute now..... "!

All jokes aside, I do understand how you feel. I know at times its tough being single. Most the time I try to focus on trusting Gods will for whoever I will meet one day, and spend the rest of my life with. In the meantime I know I need to keep my eyes fixed on Him, and wait for His timing.

it is cool that you have such a great sense of humor. I wish I could look at life that way. im sure with an attitude like that you will no doubt find someone special someday.

 

[Eagle Of Oz]

it is cool that you have such a great sense of humor. I wish I could look at life that way. im sure with an attitude like that you will no doubt find someone special someday.

Thanks, Dan.

Trust me, I dont always have the best attitude. Sometimes I cry myself to sleep, and some days I whine, complain and sook at being on my own. But, I have tried to do it my way, in my time before, and it just lead to more mess that I had to deal with, as well as the stuff I was already having to deal with from my past!

I dont wanna be taking my "baggage" from my past, into a relationship, so for the last few years, Ive been trying to focus on processing the baggage, and giving myself time to heal, and grow from the damage done in the past. Its been a lot of hard work, at times confronting, and very messy. But its so worth it.

Sounds like you've had a lot of stuff happen in your life, from the bits I've seen you share. Hope you dont mind me asking, have you gotten any counseling to help you to work thru that?

 

[dayhiker]

Where are you from Dan?

Am I right in guessing you ahve had a hard life and that is why you can't look at life with a sense of humor?

 

[Dan the Man]

Thanks, Dan.

Trust me, I dont always have the best attitude. Sometimes I cry myself to sleep, and some days I whine, complain and sook at being on my own. But, I have tried to do it my way, in my time before, and it just lead to more mess that I had to deal with, as well as the stuff I was already having to deal with from my past!

I dont wanna be taking my "baggage" from my past, into a relationship, so for the last few years, Ive been trying to focus on processing the baggage, and giving myself time to heal, and grow from the damage done in the past. Its been a lot of hard work, at times confronting, and very messy. But its so worth it.

Sounds like you've had a lot of stuff happen in your life, from the bits I've seen you share. Hope you dont mind me asking, have you gotten any counseling to help you to work thru that?

I know those feelings. and im just sorry others have to feel the same way. but you are smart for trying to deal with the baggage stuff first. that can cause a lot of problems. crying yourself to sleep is no fun. I rarely sleep anymore but I lay in my bed 24 hours a day and cry most of the time. im not a real man anymore anyway so im not afraid to admit it.

 

[Dan the Man]

Where are you from Dan?

Am I right in guessing you ahve had a hard life and that is why you can't look at life with a sense of humor?

I am just a really bad person dayhiker. I have done horrible things and satan is delivering the consequences of my actions now. I deserve what ive got coming.

 

[scraparcs]

Solitude on a day of romance isn't easy. I'm tempted to ask guy friend if we can sit around and watch sports. Better than being alone.

 

[Dan the Man]

Solitude on a day of romance isn't easy. I'm tempted to ask guy friend if we can sit around and watch sports. Better than being alone.

yes that is not a bad idea. I don't have even that here though. hope you can find someone to hang out with.

 

[exitstageright]

Solitude on a day of romance isn't easy. I'm tempted to ask guy friend if we can sit around and watch sports. Better than being alone.

I was thinking about that also. But, my friend lost his girlfriend to liver cancer on Valentines Day. My first wedding day was on Valentine's Day. It was my idea to get married on VD, so as not to forget my anniversary date. Well, the best laid plans of mice and men.

I had one lady friend die of cancer last December. I have another lady friend,a very sweet and fun lady, that has cancer. In the medical field, we call cancer "carcinoma ",which sounds so theorectical and impersonal.

I found out that some of my ex-co- workers at Stanford Medical Center ,after they retired, have died of cancer. They all were female, and they all worked in the chemistry lab. One lady ,M ,I have never seen her eating any junk food. Everyday for lunch,all that she ate was a big bowl of salad. After she retired ,she died of leukemia. Sometimes I ask myself, "What is the freaking point?" We all are going to die of something!!! My biggest fear in life is that someday ,I will find the love of my life, and cancer will take her away from me. Even my ex wife, after I divorced her, wound up getting cervical cancer. Am I cursed, or,when it comes to romantic relationships,or any other relationships with women, do I just have bad luck?

 

[Dan the Man]

I'm sorry to hear that bro. that's really sad. I don't think you're cursed. life just sucks and it isn't fair.

 

[blackribbon]

There are more people without sweethearts on Valentine's Day than actually have them. It is only a Hallmark holiday...don't let the hype fool you.

 

[Dan the Man]

regardless it is just a time to be constantly reminded you are alone.

 

[blackribbon]

regardless it is just a time to be constantly reminded you are alone.

Are you alone? or do you just not have a romantic interest? There is a difference.

I know way too many married people who don't even like their spouses or their spouses don't like them anymore so they don't have "valentine's" either.

If I were to buy a card, I would have to leave it on a grave....and I would do that except the grave is 1500 miles away.

Don't focus on what you don't have...focus on what you do. There is nothing special about today except that flowers and candy cost twice as much as they will in a week and the restaurants will be extremely crowded.

It is a "nothing" day with a lot of hype.

 

[Dan the Man]

Are you alone? or do you just not have a romantic interest? There is a difference.

I know way too many married people who don't even like their spouses or their spouses don't like them anymore so they don't have "valentine's" either.

If I were to buy a card, I would have to leave it on a grave....and I would do that except the grave is 1500 miles away.

Don't focus on what you don't have...focus on what you do. There is nothing special about today except that flowers and candy cost twice as much as they will in a week and the restaurants will be extremely crowded.

It is a "nothing" day with a lot of hype.

I am sorry to hear your spouse passed away. my condolences.
I am alone as in alone alone. there is nobody in my life now aside from one aunt and uncle who tolerate letting me stay at their house so I don't have to spend the rest of my life in a nursing home. I have alienated myself from all family and friends in my life (my own fault, not blaming anyone else) and I will never again have someone to love or love me. I get accused of feeling sorry for myself. ok maybe I feel sorry for myself, but mostly just sorry that I lived my life the way I did and got myself into this situation where I literally have nothing to live for. i shouldn't be alive. my brothers should. i don't care about valentines day but this is just the day more than any other day that you are reminded of being alone. that's all.

 

[blackribbon]

If you are feeling really low, then do something nice for someone else...even a stranger. If the holiday is about anything, it is about celebrating love...so go love someone even if it is without a romantic element.

 

[Dan the Man]

If you are feeling really low, then do something nice for someone else...even a stranger. If the holiday is about anything, it is about celebrating love...so go love someone even if it is without a romantic element.

i am bedridden so i cannot do anything like that.