I want to stay single forever

[trentlogain2]

I haven't posted there in months.

i think just barely a few have. if you don't mind, please PM or rep me the name of the URL. my name there is trentlogain (just in case you want to doublecheck)

 

[MehGuy]

Don't go to that forum. It's haunted by a scary ghost!

 

[aaronkt]

About the job, faith requires action, it won't fall from heaven

Not everyone wants to be married for whatever reason. It seems like you might be afraid of opening up and compromising, but who knows. Some people just prefer to be alone and that's ok as well. I know people who are older and single and they enjoy it.

After work I prefer quiet time alone.

 

[Sketcher]

Christianity doesn't. People in the church do.

 

[aaronkt]

I've asked God to take this worry and fear and dread I have towards getting married and he won't. Is it because he wants me to be married?

 

[Messy]

I've asked God to take this worry and fear and dread I have towards getting married and he won't. Is it because he wants me to be married?

No I think it's because you believe He wants you to get married and have trouble in the flesh or otherwise is displeased with you.
That's a wrong belief. Paul was not married and he could serve the Lord very well.
Here's what His Word says: (1 Cor. 7)
But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; 9 but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry.

Now concerning virgins: I have no commandment from the Lord; yet I give judgment as one whom the Lord in His mercy has made trustworthy. 26 I suppose therefore that this is good because of the present distress—that it is good for a man to remain as he is: 27 Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be loosed. Are you loosed from a wife? Do not seek a wife. 28 But even if you do marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. Nevertheless such will have trouble in the flesh, but I would spare you.

He who is unmarried cares for the things of the Lord—how he may please the Lord. 33 But he who is married cares about the things of the world—how he may please his wife.

So then he who gives her in marriage does well, but he who does not give her in marriage does better.

 

[Cearbhall]

By the way, are there any Christian women on here who don't want to get married or have kids? I have only met one my entire life.

I have several female Catholic friends who don't wish to marry or have children.

 

[Nanopants]

1 Corinthians 7:8, "To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single as I am. But if they cannot exercise self- control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion."

Maybe you're feeling pressured by society or other Christians, but I don't know of any Bible verse that states God wants us to get married. You don't HAVE to if you don't want to. I'm not sure if I agree with your reasons though. You'll have drama in your life as long as you are alive and talk to other people. Lol. Besides… Who says the person you might marry enjoys causing drama? Maybe she dislikes it as much as you do.

It's inferred.

And the LORD God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” -Gen 2:18

He who finds a wife finds a good thing,
And obtains favor from the LORD. -Pro 18:22

Whatever the "present distress" was that Paul was talking about, it must not have always been around, and might no longer be. Personally I suspect it was severe persecution. In that case, I would also recommend that people remain single because if your wife gets martyred you're going to have serious problems instead of being only concerned about pleasing God when it's your turn. Still, if anyone wants to be single I don't think that's a mandate to marry.

 

[Owlette]

It's inferred.

And the LORD God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” -Gen 2:18

He who finds a wife finds a good thing,
And obtains favor from the LORD. -Pro 18:22

Whatever the "present distress" was that Paul was talking about, it must not have always been around, and might no longer be. Personally I suspect it was severe persecution. In that case, I would also recommend that people remain single because if your wife gets martyred you're going to have serious problems instead of being only concerned about pleasing God when it's your turn. Still, if anyone wants to be single I don't think that's a mandate to marry.

Yeah, I forgot about the Proverbs verse…

God doesn't say marriage is a requirement though. But I do think that life is better if you're married. It's better to have someone to share your life with, and share your faith with.

 

[AmericanSamurai]

Did you kiss dating goodbye?

 

[OGM]

I suspect a lot of folks have kissed dating goodbye.

 

[trentlogain2]

forever is a long time. we'll have all eternity to be single in the presence of Jesus since The Bible says we will be like the angels and not be given to each other in marriage. while i'm here though, it's going to be nice sharing life with somebody.

 

[aaronkt]

Did you kiss dating goodbye?

Yes I did. Dating is too stressful. Another thing, I don't understand why the church thinks romantic relationships are more important than being able to hold down a job. I have difficulties holding down my job and as a result I am on disability. I work hard at a job.

 

[OGM]

At least you live in an era where marriage is not required neccesary.

 

[miss-a]

I'm in conflict. I want to stay single forever and be celibate forever. I feel God looks down on it because he won't be quiet about it.

Why does Christianity look down on being single? I personally do not want to be in a romantic relationship. Too much drama.

If I were to be married with kids, I wouldn't be able to hold down a job. Why is God more concerned about me getting married and having kids than anything else?

Yes, too much of the time Christian treat marriage as an idol. And that is sad. We should probably be praying for them and their limited thinking. But God does not look down on being single at all. He loves you just the way you are.

 

[MarkSB]

Marriage is one less source of drama I have to deal with. Honestly, if God were to give me a spouse, I don't know if I could handle it. If there is nothing you can do to gain favor with God, why would I want to bother with marriage? Marriage is not necessary for survival and it doesn't pay the bills.

By the way, are there any Christian women on here who don't want to get married or have kids? I have only met one my entire life.

Relationships don't neccessarily involve a high level of drama. There will always be some occasional conflict, but personally I don't consider that to be "drama". Drama IMO happens with gossip and when people start "hanging out their dirty laundry" to get attention, or because they don't know how else to deal with it, ect.

The normal and occasional confilict that comes with relationships can be good and it will probably make you grow as a person.