I want my brother to stop having these pointless parties

[forumposting39]

He is my younger brother and we along with 2 others,soon to be one other,share rent in a 4 br cottage.I am 39 and he is 26.We have a 21 year old woman that recently moved here and i was seeing her for a couple months before she moved in and then a little over a week after moving in with us she told me she only wanted to be friends from now on.

My brother became a born again christian right at the same time i did back in april of 1997.I was 1 month away from turning 27 at that time and he was 14-1/2 years of age.

He now has a bachelor's degree in sociology and he talks and talks and talks and loves throwing these parties where everyone gets drunk,stupid,and debaucherous.He gets all of these ways and we had a huge fight last night.Not physical.he started yelling away f bombing me over and over and over and had to be restrained by a couple of people.He went in a total rage.I didnt drink an ounce of anything except water while everyone else was getting all liquored up.

We had a long talk earlier today and i was talking to the one that i went out with for a couple of months who is just friends now but really,doesnt act like much of a friend at all.Just very selfish and self centered and decieving.I told her last night that she is corrupting my brother.They knew each other aways before i started going out with her and they had only been friends.They never went out like a couple or anything like that.

I have suspected that they have fooled around and i have talked to both of them about this and they both vehemently deny it yet they both get very debaucherous in nature when my brother throws these pointless parties which i dont have fun with at all anymore.I havent been drinking at all lately anymore and i dont miss it either and i try to tell my brother that he shouldnt be drinking,at least not hard liquor the way it takes hold of him and all and yet he insists that he isnt the type to have it take ahold of his life.

He tried to say and justify his stance by claiming i try to control him like a dad and think too critically of him.We talked and talked and then just stopped talking after awhile.At times it would start getting slightly heated and i'd have to really soothe out the way i put things.He claims i want him to be like me but the same goes for him.He wants me to be like him.He gets extremely stupified with these parties and it is so incredibly annoying.I love to workout alot and keep my body young,strong and healthy but my brother just wants to party,throw these pointless stupid parties,and justify the whole thing as,"well,i need to have fun in life,dont try to stop me from having fun"...he Really blew up though when he was yelling at me,dropping many f bombs,and saying you dont want me to have any fun"...I just stayed calm and composed and The girl i went with who has known my brother longer than me took his side of course because she was drunk and all and she got in my face saying the stupidest of things.

I just cant deal with drunks..I hate being kept up all night and then feeling horribly sleep deprived and miserable and broken down all the next day.
My brother doesnt act like a born again christian at all anymore.He gives people meds for a living and monitors them in a room.He has the sociology degree but he wants to party and carry on like he's 15 in all kinds of ways and especially if you confront him about it that it isnt good..He totally blows it out of proportion and freaks out.He acted demon possessed or on pcp when he bugged out on me last night.People had to restrain him and calm him down and everything.He of course regretted it and apologized the next day when we talked and seemed to pay attention to me being sprawled out on the floor balling my eyes out about all the financial turmoil we're experiencing.

I think that he really is being controlled by dark forces though and yet thinks he's all in control like he's impervious to alcohol abuse or something and that woman is not a good influence at all either.She has quite a corruptive nature to her.Very anti-christian'ish she is.She hates hearing anything about spirituality,religion or jesus.she just wants to get all debaucheratedly drunk and loose and teasy and go,"Yeah Man !...HeeHeeHeeHee !...Like some kind of corruptive poisenness spider lady witch.

What the Heck do i do ?!?! : (

 

[BlackSabb]

There is nothing you can "do". If he's living away from the family home, he is free to live any way he likes. And the more that you lecture and preach to him, the more resistant he will become to you. Until the point that he is completely indifferent to you. I know that sounds harsh, but it's the truth.

Firstly, you need to take care of yourself. I suggest moving out on your own if your brothers parties are causing you heartache and sleepless nights. And secondly, your brother knows fully well by Christian teachings that drunkeness, fornication, swearing, rage etc are wrong. It is not up to you to change him. It is up to God to intervene.

My advice? Be there for him no matter what. Pray for him that he returns back to God. And in the meantime, pray that God's sovereign hand is upon him so that he is protected in this current rebellious time. Trust in God, be his friend and brother, be hopeful that God will lead him back and protect him. And get your own life in order and move out.

How's that?

 

[BlessEwe]

I agree with Black Sab.

As hard as it is we can not change/control how others act. But! We can control/change how we react to it. I really don't blame you wanting to keep your brother out of harms way, but it is a hard truth that its a road that he and only God can go down. One excellent thing is he is a born-again, although he may not be acting like it right now. Trust is Christ, and continue to plant seeds. He is reacting perhaps to the guilt maybe of knowing what he is doing is wrong. I would suggest finding your own place if you can afford it, or if you can't move, set healthy boundaries for yourself.
Just a few ideas: Do a google search on setting healthy boundaries sit down and write a letter to your brother. Tell him that you love him, but you can not continue to watch what he is doing to himself. That you have deep concerns for him. If he oversteps the boundary be prepared to act on it, like him leaving or you leaving.
If he wants to party, there is 0 tolerance of drinking in your home after a certain hour. 0 tolerance of drinking driving. ( he is over stepping the boundary of not respecting that it is your home too).
Although you have no control of what he is putting into his body, you do have control of what you will have around you, or witness.
My own personal feeling is he is heading for trouble, so it may be a good idea for you to seek al-anon meetings.


God Bless

 

[forumposting39]

There is nothing you can "do". If he's living away from the family home, he is free to live any way he likes. And the more that you lecture and preach to him, the more resistant he will become to you. Until the point that he is completely indifferent to you. I know that sounds harsh, but it's the truth.

Firstly, you need to take care of yourself. I suggest moving out on your own if your brothers parties are causing you heartache and sleepless nights. And secondly, your brother knows fully well by Christian teachings that drunkeness, fornication, swearing, rage etc are wrong. It is not up to you to change him. It is up to God to intervene.

My advice? Be there for him no matter what. Pray for him that he returns back to God. And in the meantime, pray that God's sovereign hand is upon him so that he is protected in this current rebellious time. Trust in God, be his friend and brother, be hopeful that God will lead him back and protect him. And get your own life in order and move out.

How's that?

I really REALLY appreciate you're post !
I like how you seem to know how i feel by saying that the parties cause me heartache and misery which is totally and completely spot on !
Believe me,i want nothing more than to get out of here !
The thing is though,I only want to get out of here because of the reasons i described which is a fairly recent thing.

We moved here in early january of 2009.It was 3 of us originally.Me,my brother tom and amanda.Amanda is soon moving out to go live with her longtime boyfriend Adam.Adam is a good fella overall.He was in the Marines for 4 years.He was one of the people who restrained my brother when he went into the rage.

Well,yeah,everything was just fine for awhile for the most part until soon after Meghan moved in.She moved in on May 14th and then broke up with me in the early morning of May23rd.We started talking again on May 28th and i kind of tried to re-kindle things and she seemed to comply to a certain extent but i soon realized the reality of it all and that she is very decietfull and conniving in nature.Other negative things as well of course and at this point i am basically in a good riddance to her kind of mode now.

She doesnt even make a good friend anymore at all.
I just cant be friends with someone i cant even relate with in any meaningfull kind of way.Her and my brother are still the best of buddies though.They both insist to me that it is totally not on an intimate level but when they both get all drunk i really cant help but suspect things and another thing is that i want badly for both of them to settle down into a relationship with other people so that i am not annoyed by they're incredibly dorky conversations when they're sober and they're idiotic antics when they are drunk.

Alot of People in they're 20's act so ridiculous and annoying when drunk.
It seems to have gotten quite worse from when i was in my 20's back in the 90's...Anyway,i hate everything about strong drinks and how they alter people in every way..Not to justify drinking in general but i mean,things like a few beers or a couple glasses of wine is so incredibly different from getting anebriated from strong drinks and my brother denied of course that he was anebriated and insisted that he was only feeling really really good and free and liberated and having a good time,and not meaning to hurt anyone's feelings,and i think this is just his way of justifying himself in becomming a totally self centered drunken idiotic imbosol.

You are totally right though.From a technically accurate standpoint,I totally need to move out of here or somehow get Meghan to move out of here.She is a corruptive dark force in this household.I can just feel the negative energy spewing all over while she continues to reside here.
She is 21,so i guess that justifies alot on her behalf and enables me to at least very barely forgive her for her ways from an overall standpoint,but then again,i Really would be glad if she just found someone and moved far far away ! And i dont think i would desire to go out of my way to keep in contact with her either.I'm just being blatantly honest about that at this moment in time.

Me and my brother did discuss about that premise though.He asked me how i would feel if meghan moved out and i said i'd basically be glad and relieved and he of course said that he would still throw parties because having that kind of fun is SOOOOOO important to him. : /

I mean,dont get me wrong at all..I want my brother to be happy and all but why need to have fun by getting obliterated like he does ?
In my 20's it was all about a few beers on the weekends and some burgers on the grill and some badmitten or volleyball,not acting all stupified and so profoundly debaucherous.Not to sound self righteous or holier than thou but it was so Gone darn innocent compared to the way people act in these parties he loves to throw.

Anyway,a lil more about Meghan.She was previously living in the basement of her dad's home.She was saying to me all the time while we were dating of how abusive he was and how much she desired to get out of there.I felt very symphathetic of course and i did fall for her pretty darn hard pretty darn quickly.She was in a car accident back in november of 2006 and she was clinically dead for like 10 minutes and then brought back.Then,she was in a coma for a month and then had to be in a wheelchair for 6 months and had to re-learn to walk again.

I just couldnt help but fall for her the way i did and when she said that night for us to be friends only i was very emotionally hurt of course and didnt speak to her for the next 4 days but then i finally analyzed everything and started explaining to her that i dont mind anymore and i understand her points and that i want her to meet someone else and all but just not switch to my brother as being her boyfriend which i was suspecting as soon as she moved in on the 14th of may.She did the friends only thing around 2am on the 23rd of may,and then we talked again on the 28th and i just explained these things and she assured me that she had no interest in my brother in that kind of way and that they are only friends and thats the way its always been and also said that my brother has no interest in her in that way either but if anyone else was in my shoes they would be feeling quite suspicious as well,believe me !

So basically,the other night with the party.I was allready feeling distressed about the financial turmoil we're all in including my brother with his bachelors degree and cushy job which i applaud him for of course but nevertheless,he doesnt make much of a paycheck,and i work in a kitchen and my weeks vary from 1 day a week to 3 to 2 to 5 back to 2,etc.I am not on a set sceduale and it is just barely enough income to keep me barely afloat.And Meghan works at a grocery store and works maybe 3 days a week,sometimes only 2,and Amanda is moving out very soon like i stated earlier.

I really REALLY liked this place at first.It is a nice territory.We are out in the woods basically and there are really cool trails for mountain biking which is one of my physical activities i enjoy.I also lift weights regularly and have since my early 20's.In a certain definite kind of way,i would really prefer to stay here.Meghan's dad really wants her to move back and her mom wants her to move in with her.Her mom and dad live in seperate homes.

My brother claims that his long distance girlfriend is planning to move in here and i really hope that this happens.like i said,i want my brother to be happy with all of that kind of stuff but i just feel extremely irked at the way him and meghan become with these pointless parties that i cannot get into at all anymore.When i did at least try to party with all of them the other times,i would only drink a few beers and then go to sleep soon afterwards because i'd have to go to work the next day or i just simply didnt want to be all hung over the next day.I like to feel strong and healthy so that i can keep working out alot,which i basically do everyday.

Our rent situation is basically alot more affordable than other available places around so thats why i havent moved out yet.The job situation is horrendous in the overall sense as well so that greatly factors into the picture obviously as well of course.

One more thing i'll add is that during the early stages of this party,i did feel somewhat tempted to drink the strong drinks and drown my stresses and sorrows but the other part of my conscience convinced me very definatively and firmly that this would not be a good idea whatsoever and it would only compound everything for the worse,so i decided to be the completely sober one that night.No hard drinks,No Beer,..Nothing..Just water.

 

[UnitynLove]

Have you tried to pray for him and those whom he gets drunk with? Have you tried asking him why he is getting drunk in the first place? Have you asked him is he hurting in any way and could you help him solve that hurt in his life? Have you tried reaching out and getting helping him get help for his problem? Have you showed him that you really loved and cared about him lately? How merciful have you been towards him mistakes? Remember God did not call us to judge others, but to love them. Love him first, and try to reach out in love towards him and get him help. Maybe your there in that place because God wants to show himself strong by your showing mercy, love, forgiveness, and peace towards those that are unlovely? The heart of the law is love not judgment. Forgive him and his friends and the next time you confront him confront him in love and in peace, I guarantee he will react in a much faster and nicer way that will allow him to compromise. Do not bring judgment towards him, only one can judge and that is God. Show mercy and love. Love is what changes people.

 

[forumposting39]

He is having a really big party tonight and i do not plan to drink,just like with the last party on the 14th.This time though,i will play my drums.Not so much video games like the last party.Maybe a bit of the "Star Wars Battlefront" game though.I will play my bass guitar as well.I Really dont want this one guy rob to go on my drums though.He plays way too hard and that just isnt Cool.

Yesterday,i rode my mountain bike almost all day and then i did lots of ab crunches and then a bunch of arm curls.I've been into weightlifting and resistance training workouts on a consistent basis,or at least a relatively consistent basis since my very early 20's.I am 39 now.Birthday was May 18th.

I am extra determind to pack on more muscle mass and better quality muscularity than ever before.When i was doing the arm curls last night in my room,which has no door by the way(its a converted rec room),i had extra intensity and intestinal fortitude.Meghan,my former girlfriend was in the living room watching tv and chatting on her cellphone and she could definately hear me in there really working out bigtime !

Then,when my brother and his long distance girlfriend "Angela" came home last night and they were all in there watching movies,i played my bass guitar for awhile and then went to go to sleep and the tv was too loud so i went in and told my brother i'm going to sleep and he turned it down only a little bit and it was still way too loud and a song on the movie played, and then he turned it way down after that point, and i then went to sleep.

I am into working out,eating good,taking care of my body,getting my sleep,playing drums,mountain biking,martial arts,writing,internet posting,and being keen on spirituality.

My brother is into partying,blaring "type o'negative" and other evil and doomish music in his room,eating organic foods ? : / ,hippy philosophy ? : / ,talking talking and more talking,and his job is feeding pills to people(he works with people that have mental disorders)....(Schizophrenia,etc)

On that one night that he exploded on me emotionally and all,dropping f bombs right and left,punching the wall,freaking out,needing to be restrained,and saying "You dont want me having any fun","You want me to be like you","You need help" ??? : / ,He was the one wanting me to be like him,and he was the one being a perfect example of someone that needs help ! ; /

Just because he has a bachelors in sociology and has this very easy cushy job that is all about science and feeding people chemically devised pills,he has now become a drone/droid/clone of the medical masses as far as carear,and has become a drunken debaucherous fool to the core as well.He insists he isnt trying to hurt anyone with how he cozes up with all these different women,including the one that i had fallen for and was even doing this with her before we broke up.But he is being the very epitome of a drunken insecure fool who needs to do all of this debacherous type behavoir to somehow prove his manhood perhaps ?? : /

One of these days,he is going to seriously get beat up at a party by someone who isnt nearly as restrained with all of that as i am.Dont get me wrong,i still think about a few incidents and i feel so much like,'Gosh,i really had the right mind to lay em out or at least bodyslam em on the dining room table for that ! but nO,i restrain myself.I have self control.I know that i would get in severe trouble with the law,especially with what i'm physically capable of.Well,the thing is though,my brother allready knows this and he figures,hey,i can still do and say what i please.I can have fun being as stupid as i want because Rob wont do anything to me because he knows he would go to jail if he did.

Well,to that,like i allready said...One of these days he's going to run into the wrong crowd or the wrong person with all of this and he's going to get severely laid out,as in knocked out cold or worse.

So i guess with this party,i will likely be the only sober one.I will probably dance.Or,At least try to for awhile. If i'm just simply not feeling it though,for whatever reason,i will just keep playing my drums and videogames,and maybe talk to people that i actually can talk to or relate with.I cannot sleep through this party.It will not be possible.I have to stay up like i'm doing a 3rd shift job and not getting paid in the process.

 

[UnitynLove]

Realized Why God Wants Us To Forgive

What I found is that sometimes God puts us around difficult people because he wants to show his love, mercy, goodness, and forgiveness through us. Many do not know God, nor his love but you can be that vessel that God uses to show people and the world these things (Matthew 5:16). When you love, forgive, and show mercy you are showing God. Because God is love. Showing love to the unlovely people is what God especially wants us to do. "He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. 46If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Are not even the tax collectors doing that? 47And if you greet only your brothers, what are you doing more than others? Do not even pagans do that? 48Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect. (Matthew 5: 45-48). When you show love to the unlovely you are acting like children of God. (Matthew 5: 45) Love is not conditional it is unconditional in every way. If you do not believe that, then look at how much God has forgiven you and showed his unconditional love towards you all the times that you have messed up. God should have left you with all that you have done and you would deserve it. But God's love is unconditional and it does not change thus we should be perfect in love as our heavenly father is perfect in love. (Matthew 5:48)

Now, lets get to why God wants us to forgive those that have hurt us (unlovely). Anyone that is acting in a negative towards you is hurting on the inside. You can only give out what you have. If you are miserable you will give out misery, if you are happy you will give out happiness. "A good tree cannot produce bad fruit, and a rotten tree cannot produce good fruit." (Matthew 7:18). So with that said, those that hurt you are hurting inside and are in misery. You know now that there must be something seriously wrong in their lives for them to act the way that they are acting in the first place. We pray for those that hurt us because we know that they are suffering and in need of help. Their negative actions is their way of crying out for help. The enemy's plan is to use those that are miserable to get us offended so that we can be miserable ourselves. If you are in unforgiveness you will be miserable because what comes along with unforgiveness is depression, misery, hurt, and strife that will lead you down into a pit of destruction. Forgiveness is God's tool to stop the enemy from getting into your life and making you miserable.


Thus we forgive to #1. To keep the devil out of our lives. We are in Jesus (The son of God) and when we are in Jesus we are in God (God is love). So when we walk out of love (God) we walk out of God's protection for our lives. Mercy and forgiveness is God's tool to keep the enemy out of our lives and keeps his protection on us. When we walk in mercy, love, and forgiveness the enemy can not come near you because you are surrounded by God's protection (Love).

#2. We forgive to keep God from throwing us in prison and give us to the tortures. I used to wonder who were the tortures God would would give us too if we didn't forgive. And why would he do that in the first place? This can be seen in the story of the ungrateful servant in Matthew 18 23-35.

23Therefore is the kingdom of heaven likened unto a certain king, which would take account of his servants. 24And when he had begun to reckon, one was brought unto him, which owed him ten thousand talents. 25But forasmuch as he had not to pay, his lord commanded him to be sold, and his wife, and children, and all that he had, and payment to be made. 26The servant therefore fell down, and worshipped him, saying, Lord, have patience with me, and I will pay thee all. 27Then the lord of that servant was moved with compassion, and loosed him, and forgave him the debt. 28But the same servant went out, and found one of his fellowservants, which owed him an hundred pence: and he laid hands on him, and took him by the throat, saying, Pay me that thou owest.
29And his fellowservant fell down at his feet, and besought him, saying, Have patience with me, and I will pay thee all.
30And he would not: but went and cast him into prison, till he should pay the debt. 31So when his fellowservants saw what was done, they were very sorry, and came and told unto their lord all that was done. 32Then his lord, after that he had called him, said unto him, O thou wicked servant, I forgave thee all that debt, because thou desiredst me: 33Shouldest not thou also have had compassion on thy fellowservant, even as I had pity on thee? 34And his lord was wroth, and delivered him to the tormentors, till he should pay all that was due unto him. 35So likewise shall my heavenly Father do also unto you, if ye from your hearts forgive not every one his brother their trespasses.

The tortures God was talking about was the tortures of anger, bitterness, strife, hurt, pain, and negativity. So why would God give us to these tortures in the first place? Is unforgiveness that bad? YES IT IS!! This can be seen in Matthew 5:21-25

21"You have heard that it was said to the people long ago, 'Do not murder, and anyone who murders will be subject to judgment.' 22But I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother has already committed murder and will be subject to judgment.

If we do not forgive we have essentially committed murder in our hearts. Thus God will not let a murder go he has to throw them in prison because of his perfect justice. Would you let a murder go? I think not. You will throw them in jail and make them pay the last penny as Jesus said in Matthew 5:26. So in order to keep God from throwing us into prison and and giving us to the tortures of misery, sadness, depression, strife and negativity we forgive. Remember what God said in Matthew 18: 33 "Shouldest not thou also have had compassion on thy fellow servant, even as I had pity on thee?" do not be like the ungrateful servant. Forgive and be free from prison and the tortures

#3. We forgive to be like our perfect heavenly father. God is perfect love and perfect love is rooted in mercy, love and forgiveness. God has not only forgiven you of your debt but has not remember the situation where you or when you've sinned. And I repeat as God said in Matthew 18:33 "Shouldest not thou also have had compassion on thy fellow servant, even as I had pity on thee?" Forgive others of their debt and do not bring up the situation as God has done for you. Maybe the people who are unlovely have been molested growing up, maybe they have been hurt by a church member, maybe they have gone through a death of a close loved one, maybe they have experienced betrayal in their lives. Only God knows. The point is, do not look at what people do, but what they must be going through. Mercy is the heart of the law of Jesus. Listen to this

YouTube - Staying Free of Offenses Pt. 3

 

[UnitynLove]

HOW TO FORGIVE YOURSELF AND OTHERS.
Follow the instructions of Jesus. *Sometimes you not only have to forgive the person but also the situation where it happened. Not saying that the situation was right, but just to forgive the whole circumstance that caused you the pain.*

1. Depend on the holy spirit. "Father God I can not forgive this person or this situation without your help. Please help me holy spirit to forgive this person/situation.

2. Pray for them. Heavenly Father, I pray that you bless and guide this person. I pray that you increase them in every area of their lives and may they receive your favor and blessings everywhere they go. I pray for increased happiness and greatness for them. Father please help them in every and in any way ect...

3. Bless them. Father God, although they may have hurt me I know that they are a good person. I know that they are your child. They are righteous, good, and a great child of God. ect...

4. Do something good. Father God, put me in a position to do them right and good.

5. Release. Father, help me to release all anger, bitterness, pain, resentment, abuse, hurt and negativity that I may have towards this person. Help me to release any pay back, vengeance, and strife that I may have towards this person.

6. Forgive. Father God, help me to forgive this person. Help me to not think about it, talk about it, bring it up, reminisces on it and or go back on it but help me to drop it from my mind, heart, body, and soul.

7. Give them another chance. Father God, help me to keep the door of love and forgiveness in my heart open to them. Help me to give them another chance. Help me to not block them and lock them out, and lastly help to not formulate any memory or any memories of the offense or the offenses inside of my heart my soul my body and mind.

8. Give it to God. Lord, I give this offense to you. Help me to surrender it from my heart, soul, body and mind. I can not take care of this, but you promised that if I give it to you you will give me happiness, goodness, and blessings for the pain in my life. Help to to surrender it to you father from my mind body and soul. Help me to walk away from the offense in my mind body heart and soul. Thank you father, amen.

WHEN YOU ARE TEMPTED NOT TO FORGIVE REMEMBER

1. Matthew 18: 23-35
The story of the servant who was ungrateful. The king (God) forgave his servant for a $10,000,000 debt owed to him. But when that same servant saw one that owed him $20 he caught him by the throat and said to him, pay me all that you owe me! When the king heard this he was very upset and he threw the ungrateful servant into prison saying, AND SHOULD YOU NOT HAVE HAD PITY AND MERCY ON YOUR FELLOW SERVANT AS I HAD PITY ON YOU? Don't be like that ungrateful servant. When you are offended by someone, something, or some place always remember how much debt you owe God (some people owe God in the billions) and how he has not only forgiven, but wiped that debt clean and remembers it no more. Should you not do that for your fellow servants?

2. Matthew 18: 29
We see here that the servant could not pay. I repeat it again THE SERVANT COULD NOT PAY. When people offended you they cannot pay you back for the hurt they have caused you. Thus, do not look to others to meet your needs. Look to God to pay you back for what they, or it, may have done. God is the only one that can pay you back for the hurts that you have endured, so stop looking to people and the situations to pay you back for the hurt you have encountered. God will do that. In the mean time forgive them, the situation, and let it all go because you know that they can not pay you back. And why hold on to a debt that you know can not be paid anyway? To put it a simple way, you have workmans comp, if you get hurt on the job of doing God's will God will pay you back.

3. You are blocking your own happiness and blessings. Jesus said many many many times to forgive. The number one reason is so that the enemy would not get a hold on your life. God can only work through love, not hate. So if you are walking in love, mercy, and forgiveness the enemy can not touch you. As soon as you get out of the will of God, which is to love, that is when the enemy has a door open opportunity to come into your life. I heard a preacher once say, that the holy spirit, which is the spirit of love, must leave the earth first before the evil one comes. Isn't that a powerful saying. Love must leave first before the evil one can take control. So what does that say about our lives? Once love leaves that is when the enemy has a prime time opportunity to take over and destroy our lives. Forgive and walk in love to keep the enemy out of your life.

 

[forumposting39]

I redd the last 2 replies and i guess its always kinda hard for me to get into bible theologian mode but i redd as much as i could with all of that.nothing really new though.I redd all that years ago when i became a born again but just the same,thanks,and thanks especially for reading my posts !

I played my drums a ton last night ! also got on my bass guitar and thats basically what i did from around 10:30 pm till around 3 am.i then listened to soundscapes music on the tv and played it loud so they could all hear and get my point.i said very very little to anyone last night and obviously didnt drink or desire to drink one speck or drop of any alcoholic drink whatsoever.i only drank water and more water the whole entire night until i was finally able to lay my tired and weary head to sleep around 4 am.the party pretty much came to an end around that time or at least had dwindled down majorly by that time anyway.

Meghan fake laughs ALOT !! She wants to impress everyone and still seeks to get my goat as well but this is just going to be one futile attempt after the next for her if she doesnt soon realize just how over her i really actually am.She laughs very evilly and drunkenly. I kept my composure and remained under complete control though. i SO thank God for making me a drummer and blessing me with a drumset !
she was murmering all kinds of negative things about expecting drama and all this other nonsensical wishfull thinking absurdity but i completely proved them all wrong by not saying a single word of complaint the whole entire "nightshift without pay" type experience.

Today,i rode my mountain bike for 1 hour and 20 minutes.i rode on these newly discovered backroads and this was extra therapuetic.i recently changed my myspace name to "Robert Resurrected" because that describes me in a nutshell lately.I was emotionally crucified but then through the grace of allmighty God above,found my way back to emotional and inner stability,and greater inner strength and wisdom as well.