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now be patient and wait and stop being thirsty.
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Deal!
good!
now be patient and wait and stop being thirsty.
The ones I knew, it was common to date for maybe 12/18 months and then be engaged for maybe a year so 2 to 2.5 years between first date and marriage. They've all got at least 3 kids now, so I'd say that's evidence those couples didn't have any trouble with kissing and more once they got married.I am curious how long were these people dating/engaged before they got married. Did they go kissless for 1 or 2 years?
There are certain things that are exclusive to a romantic relationship that make it a romantic relationship, that without it is nothing more than a platonic relationship.
I fail to see how kissing is a requirement for it being a romantic relationship. Not even hugging or in speech, or even in intentions to prepare for marriage, they HAVE to kiss?
You know how many friends kiss just to make-out , even have sex, with no intention of being in a relationship? Should I just dub those relationships instead just because it meets some quota and discredit the ones that are actual bf/gf because they don’t?
Later in the thread I said I was fine with some sort of affection that proves it is a relationship, if not kissing. There just needs to be something that differeniates it from a regular friendship. Usually it's kissing and holding hands, romantic flirty talk etc. It just needs something so I don't feel I'm with a friend. Of course I'd avoid such a relationship and most men seem to oppose such a relationship here as well
I don't like that. And I don't respect a man who would shame a girl for that and expect an audience to stroke his ego for it.
Just because I or anyone else here wouldn't want their partner to abstain from kissing doesn't mean we are shaming her. We simply just wouldn't want to be with someone who wouldn't want to kiss. Theres a difference between shaming and simply agreeing with the op.
He claimed it as odd and that no one thinks like that. When I mentioned that people do, he asked for proof. Like in disbelief. I show proof and he claims that people lie. There s difference of just disagreement and shaming, which would involve criticism. He’s criticizing.
Idk throughout the thread, I don’t see any response from the OP that shows that he actually respect her for having the view, more of that she’s an oddball for having it.
Depends on what circles she moves in - in some churches, it's normal. Funny thing is, I hadn't heard about this for a while, and then just yesterday a (male) friend posted approvingly on FB about a couple that had their first kiss at their wedding, saying how great this was. And the guy whose wedding it was is saying how blessed he feels to have finally been able to find a girl who was happy to save the first kiss for marriage. So looks like it's not just girls who have this view!I accept that's what she wants, but I'm just saying she may have a hard time finding a man that'd be on board with that.
Depends on what circles she moves in - in some churches, it's normal. Funny thing is, I hadn't heard about this for a while, and then just yesterday a (male) friend posted approvingly on FB about a couple that had their first kiss at their wedding, saying how great this was. And the guy whose wedding it was is saying how blessed he feels to have finally been able to find a girl who was happy to save the first kiss for marriage. So looks like it's not just girls who have this view!
Most churches I know that advocate this, the couples tend to marry in their 20s or very early 30s.I'd be curious as to their ages. If they were in their teens, or maybe early 20s...I can see this happeing. 30s and 40s, not so much. How young did they marry?