I think it's time

[Faithfulandtrue]

I recently got engaged which is a huge blessing. Today was the first day back at church since then and I feel like the people I thought would be most excited for me send to me as dismissive. I've been waiting and praying for this for 31 years and it's finally come and i don't feel the same rejoicing other young couples got when it was their turn. I'm so hurt I'm not going back to my church anymore. This is the last straw. If you've seen my previous posts I've been considering leaving for some time. Please pray for my hurt and that i don't give up on finding a new church all together

 

[AlexB23]

I recently got engaged which is a huge blessing. Today was the first day back at church since then and I feel like the people I thought would be most excited for me send to me as dismissive. I've been waiting and praying for this for 31 years and it's finally come and i don't feel the same rejoicing other young couples got when it was their turn. I'm so hurt I'm not going back to my church anymore. This is the last straw. If you've seen my previous posts I've been considering leaving for some time. Please pray for my hurt and that i don't give up on finding a new church all together

Congrats on getting engaged. I pray that your church accepts you as a couple, or that you find a better church that is more communal.

 

[eleos1954]

I recently got engaged which is a huge blessing. Today was the first day back at church since then and I feel like the people I thought would be most excited for me send to me as dismissive. I've been waiting and praying for this for 31 years and it's finally come and i don't feel the same rejoicing other young couples got when it was their turn. I'm so hurt I'm not going back to my church anymore. This is the last straw. If you've seen my previous posts I've been considering leaving for some time. Please pray for my hurt and that i don't give up on finding a new church all together

What's their problem with it?

 

[Faithfulandtrue]

What's their problem with it?

I have no idea. I don't think it's a problem but more just they don't treat me like a member of their church. I can't explain it but i feel like an awkward wall has been put up and I'm not on the inside. My fiance lives out of state so they don't know him too well but he is an amazing guy. I've been feeling like this for the last couple years since covid. Like i try to engage in conversation and people act weird around me and i didn't do anything. I can't go to church every single Sunday because of my job but i try to come at least 1 Sunday every month if not all.

 

[Faithfulandtrue]

I've been going here for more than ten years except after covid when the lockdowns happened. No one contacted me then so i felt abandon and tried to join another church that also felt closed hearted. So i came back and now i feel unwelcome there too i don't get it

 

[linux.poet]

Dear Lord, I pray that You would guide this couple to a church where they can be loved as You love them. In Christ’s Name, Amen

 

[tturt]

Yes,, congrats to you both..

Unfortunately, some - not all - churches with the "everyone welcome' signs aren't - based on my observations. (We had reason to be in different churches). Some congregations seem to miss the opportunity to practice what's preached so to speak.

Sorry that this is happening. The more we're invested, the more it hurts. Our families (biological and spiritual) can absolutely break our hearts. But now you need to asks the Lord to heal your broken heart,, to help you forgive them and remove all bitterness and abandonment. Keep asking til you can speak of them without feeling like you do now. Asks until it's like "it" never happened .I know it seems unfair, extremely difficult,, etc. God knows we can not do this without His help. It may take awhile. (Matt 6, 11:28-30; Psa 34:218; John 13:34-35; I Thess 5:12-13).

Encourage you to asks your Father where to attend church. In fact, the two of you will need to make this important decision pretty soon.

 

[Faithfulandtrue]

Yes,, congrats to you both..

Unfortunately, some - not all - churches with the "everyone welcome' signs aren't - based on my observations. (We had reason to be in different churches). Some congregations seem to miss the opportunity to practice what's preached so to speak.

Sorry that this is happening. The more we're invested, the more it hurts. Our families (biological and spiritual) can absolutely break our hearts. But now you need to asks the Lord to heal your broken heart,, to help you forgive them and remove all bitterness and abandonment. Keep asking til you can speak of them without feeling like you do now. Asks until it's like "it" never happened .I know it seems unfair, extremely difficult,, etc. God knows we can not do this without His help. It may take awhile. (Matt 6, 11:28-30; Psa 34:218; John 13:34-35; I Thess 5:12-13).

Encourage you to asks your Father where to attend church. In fact, the two of you will need to make this important decision pretty soon.

Thank you for understanding. I will definitely look into a new church and ask God to help me forgive them. I hope my fiance and I can find a church together soon

 

[Faithfulandtrue]

Congrats on getting engaged. I pray that your church accepts you as a couple, or that you find a better church that is more communal.

Thank you ❤️

 

[Faithfulandtrue]

Dear Lord, I pray that You would guide this couple to a church where they can be loved as You love them. In Christ’s Name, Amen

Thank you ❤️

 

[eleos1954]

I have no idea. I don't think it's a problem but more just they don't treat me like a member of their church. I can't explain it but i feel like an awkward wall has been put up and I'm not on the inside. My fiance lives out of state so they don't know him too well but he is an amazing guy. I've been feeling like this for the last couple years since covid. Like i try to engage in conversation and people act weird around me and i didn't do anything. I can't go to church every single Sunday because of my job but i try to come at least 1 Sunday every month if not all.

well ... if you don't know ... then could be it's not because of your finance ... for some reason (unknown) you just don't feel comfortable there so guess best to find another church ... either that or just find a group that gets together and studies the bible. Church isn't for everybody ... I don't attend church but I study a lot. There is no perfect church ... because there are not perfect people. Just find one that is Christ centered.

 

[Richard T]

Congrats on being engaged. I am on the same path but as an older, never married male do not want much fuss at all. I would not read much into things. I'll assume this church is not the venue for your wedding? Anyway, I rejoice with you and pray God gives you not only a great guy but that you are touched by the Lord in a way that you know He is there for you. That he heals all your pain and unites you and your future husband to him and to a church were you can grow and serve with joy. God bless.

 

[AlexB23]

Thank you ❤️

You are welcome

 

[Faithfulandtrue]

Congrats on being engaged. I am on the same path but as an older, never married male do not want much fuss at all. I would not read much into things. I'll assume this church is not the venue for your wedding? Anyway, I rejoice with you and pray God gives you not only a great guy but that you are touched by the Lord in a way that you know He is there for you. That he heals all your pain and unites you and your future husband to him and to a church were you can grow and serve with joy. God bless.

Thank you so much. I agree this is not the venue for my wedding anymore and as one friend said,"im now gonna saved money on a couple plates". I'm feeling much better today. Just not going back

 

[Richard T]

Thank you so much. I agree this is not the venue for my wedding anymore and as one friend said,"im now gonna saved money on a couple plates". I'm feeling much better today. Just not going back

Perhaps this will turn out to be a blessing. My transition with God included giving lots of things up. I sure am glad I did. Anything you do to move forward with God will be rewarded. May God bless your path.

 

[RileyG]

May God continue to bless you and guide you

 

[Hazelelponi]

I have no idea. I don't think it's a problem but more just they don't treat me like a member of their church. I can't explain it but i feel like an awkward wall has been put up and I'm not on the inside. My fiance lives out of state so they don't know him too well but he is an amazing guy. I've been feeling like this for the last couple years since covid. Like i try to engage in conversation and people act weird around me and i didn't do anything. I can't go to church every single Sunday because of my job but i try to come at least 1 Sunday every month if not all.

Congratulations on your engagement.

You might not have enough attendance for them to feel like they know you.

And sometimes the more churchy people might think your not serious about your faith if your attendance is more sporadic.

Is there no Bible study night or something you could fit in more regularly?

It might help you make more friends in the future..

 

[LoricaLady]

I recently got engaged which is a huge blessing. Today was the first day back at church since then and I feel like the people I thought would be most excited for me send to me as dismissive. I've been waiting and praying for this for 31 years and it's finally come and i don't feel the same rejoicing other young couples got when it was their turn. I'm so hurt I'm not going back to my church anymore. This is the last straw. If you've seen my previous posts I've been considering leaving for some time. Please pray for my hurt and that i don't give up on finding a new church all together

I pray your union will be very happy. I’m sorry for the unpleasant experience you have had at church.

I have been on this forum for some years now and I think I should tell you that I have heard many people complaining about treatment they got at churches. Sometimes it is because they were being preached to with things that really aren’t true to the Bible. Sometimes they were being treated in cold and indifferent ways. Maybe sometimes even in abusive ways.

And so on. But the thing is, it makes the people themselves, who are receiving such treatment, feel guilty.

Of course, churches can be a great blessing. But for sure, not always. Another thing I have seen is that people have moved from church to church and still haven’t found a place where they really feel they should be.

Actually, nothing in the Bible tells us to go to church anyway. if you get blessed there, go for it. But if you don’t, you don’t have to feel like you’re sinning.

The apostles and the early church in general would go to the synagogues on the Sabbath or enjoy meeting in one another’s homes. They never heard of a church. (Though, I certainly wouldn’t go to a synagogue myself in these days.)

You can always have Bible study at home.

I pray you will be healed of your hurt and if there is some good fellowship out there, that you will find it. Not to be too cynical, though actually I am rather cynical, I personally do believe these are the last days and therefore maybe we shouldn’t expect to find an overflowing number of really devoted believers.

Sincere fellowship can definitely help you get closer to the Lord. But if you can’t find any, he will be sure to get close to you anyway as you draw close to him.

 

[William J]

I pray that God would direct you to a church where everyone is warm and loving.

 

[Diamond72]

Please pray for my hurt and that i don't give up on finding a new church all together

Lots of good churches, some are more friendly than others.