I think I regret

[CruciFixed]

maybe not, not really a person to judge mental state of someone who is a regular poster based on one moment

Good. Thank you.

 

[Davidnic]

How come I go through this like 3 times a year? Even before I was Catholic?

Well it could be you are introspective and have trouble forgiving yourself and you turn a very critical lens inward.

So if you had to sum up your problems...how would you do it?

 

[CruciFixed]

I suck at life.

My summary. Just being honest.

 

[Davidnic]

I suck at life.

My summary. Just being honest.

ok. General but you know that failing at things is not a sign of not being right in your faith or not being loved by God. We are often effected by the choices of others and need to react in less than perfect ways. And God brings good out of things. He allows failure and misuse of free will and from it brings goodness and turns all to His will. Without specifics I can not apply it to any situations but we all have times...some of us many many times where we drop the ball in life and things crash around our heads.

 

[CruciFixed]

Yep I understand that. I am applying it to what I wrote in the blog but it is down so I won't go into detail but basically....
even my dad ignores me now and I have failed at keeping his attention. I joined the Church so my dad doesn't give me much credit anymore. I might as well be a freak.

 

[Davidnic]

Yep I understand that. I am applying it to what I wrote in the blog but it is down so I won't go into detail but basically....
even my dad ignores me now and I have failed at keeping his attention. I joined the Church so my dad doesn't give me much credit anymore. I might as well be a freak.

Is there a lot of family alienation because of joining the Church? Or was the relationship with your dad always strained. What were the reactions of others when you joined?

 

[CruciFixed]

My inlaws don't like it are always argumentative because of it. My dad had some strain with me before but he's always pickin on me now. He doesn't like me anymore. He's a non-practicing Catholic. I used to be his princess and everything and when he started cheating on my mom i wasnt important anymore. then when he got remarried he cant talk to me unless he's not in the house. he told me before i was dead to him. but when i joined the church and tried to encourage my brother he said i was obssessed and other stuff it made me cry but i guess that's one problem because i did everything to impress him and none of it worked. I am a failure.

ETA:
I love God more than my dad though so it sucks to be him.

 

[Davidnic]

Failing to please someone unreasonable is not a failure on you.

 

[CruciFixed]

It used to not take much to please my dad. He'd always hug me no questions ask and get offended if I didn't lay by him and watch tv and always would come looking for me after work. Now I can hardly get an answer when I call or a phone call or anything.

But also I am having struggles with the faith and has nothing to do with my pops. I think the priest I go to for confession is mad at me. I don't understand all the language around here. I feel like " a dummy" out of touch and most of all don't always know what position to take on any given issue.

 

[Davidnic]

It used to not take much to please my dad. He'd always hug me no questions ask and get offended if I didn't lay by him and watch tv and always would come looking for me after work. Now I can hardly get an answer when I call or a phone call or anything.

But also I am having struggles with the faith and has nothing to do with my pops. I think the priest I go to for confession is mad at me. I don't understand all the language around here. I feel like " a dummy" out of touch and most of all don't always know what position to take on any given issue.

Don't feel dumb. Faith has nothing to do with intelligence. And it can be hard to decide what positions to take on things. These things are not easy. We all have our own gifts, you may need to just discern your own gifts and value them more.

 

[CruciFixed]

That was easy.

 

[Davidnic]

That was easy.

What was?

 

[CruciFixed]

I mean the whole thread summarized up in your post I Think.

 

[Davidnic]

I mean the whole thread summarized up in your post I Think.

Ahh...well it is true. We all have gifts. I know some people who gift is helping people find their gifts. I think we often don't get the gift we want but the ones we need for God's plan. God does not call the qualified, He qualifies the called for their part in His work.

 

[QuantaCura]

People who post on internet message boards about religion tend to be more into trying to be an armchair theologian than your average Catholic. But ultimately, adoring God, praying, receiving the Sacraments, and living a life of charity is what matters. Learning is great, but it's charity that is the most important. As the great real theologian St. Robert Bellarmine said: "Let prayer delight thee more than disputations, and the charity which buildeth up more than the knowledge which puffeth up."

I'm not sure where BA came up with his number of "three years" but I've never heard of that--at least not since the catechumenate of the primitive Church. Entrance into the Church is a starting off point, not an end point. No one should expect--or be expected---to enter already equal to St. Thomas Aquinas in learning and sanctity. Life is a process of continual growth and sanctification. There's going to be ups and downs too.

I think it's also good to avoid the spiritual problem known as "intellectual desolation" which is where one anguishes over certain questions that ultimately bear little on one's every day life of charity. St. Francis de Sales experienced this over the question of predestination. Ultimately he just put it in the hands of the Blessed Virgin and moved on.

As for a priest being mad at you, it could be a variety of things. I remember all the way through college that when a coach was a yeller, it was a good thing to have him angry with you. The guys he didn't get angry with when they screwed up were the guys he had given up on. In the past, I had a priest-confessor like that. He got frustrated with me because he knew I could do better and he really cared about me doing so. Maybe try and see your confessor's emotions through that lens? Often, when a person has an emotional response to another's actions, its because they actually care.

I hope that helps a little!

 

[Forrest GOP]

my conversion to the Catholic church. I think it was too soon that I did RCIA And too quickly I decided to be Catholic.

I feel some will soon use this against me later but I guess I just wanted to share how I'm feeling lately.

Why would you regret your conversion? Forget what others may say: Why would you personally regret it? (Apologies if this has been hashed over already.)

 

[Meepy]

Brikkz... thats pride. You just need to know the foundations of the Faith & follow them. You do not have to be a theologian at the ready. If you have a Catechism just go through it as you would any book. Chapter by chapter. There are lets of cradle catholics that know less than those in basic RCIA. You are rushing. It is a continual learning experience. We never know everything.

I wouldn't recommend the CCC for someone having trouble.

The compendium would be much better. It has most of the basic questions answered in a very solid way.

coming from a book nut...

 

[Forrest GOP]

I wouldn't recommend the CCC for someone having trouble.

The compendium would be much better. It has most of the basic questions answered in a very solid way.

coming from a book nut...

Better yet, I would recommend nice stories, as contained in these books:

Journeys Home by Rosalind Moss
Surprised by Truth by Patrick Madrid
Surprised By Truth 2 by Patrick Madrid

 

[WarriorAngel]

I am feeling sad because I am not smart enough to participate here. I feel illiterate when I read and like BA said I should have waited 3 years.

I was born and raised Catholic and it took me 'untold' years to grasp it all....[eta] - to rather grasp much of it.

I know there are a lot of smarter people than me... and why it took me 'untold' number of years to get [some] of it..well, God works in His time to provide us answers.... and only He knows our capacity and at what time we need to know things.

SO if you think you are bad, that makes me a moron of the highest level.

 

[WarriorAngel]

Ahh...well it is true. We all have gifts. I know some people who gift is helping people find their gifts. I think we often don't get the gift we want but the ones we need for God's plan. God does not call the qualified, He qualifies the called for their part in His work.