I REALLY need your oppionion.

[memoriesbymichelle]

Ah... Methinks we have encountered a male vs female communication style mishap.

The girls read it one way, the guys read it another...

Chances are, the girls have read it how she meant it, don't ya think?


Chris, don't let it get you down and don't overanalyze it. I think you should go ahead and take the initiative to ask her about it again... this time with a definite plan such as "So, would you like to have dinner at ______ on ____(day)____ at _____ o'clock?"

Ding Ding Ding! Best answer of the bunch! This is the only way to get the answer to your dilemma.
Also, if she says no, you could always ask her to honestly tell you why. Afterall remember she walked up to YOU first, and at least that means something positive. She didn't think you were gross or something.
If she says no, you could just ask her "Was it the way I asked you out that made you say no, or are you already involved with someone else?" I personally would do this every time I got turned down, just to grasp why I keep getting turned down, so I don't make the same mistakes over and over and over......
But don't get depressed over it. Just find out why and move on.

 

[deliciousBass]

DB, were you being sarcastic?

No, but I see how it could be seen that way. I can be quite sarcastic.

 

[atuck00]

No, but I see how it could be seen that way. I can be quite sarcastic.

Doesn't that require a sense of humor?

 

[atuck00]

Dang it... I feel bad already!

 

[BoarderDave]

I voted that it's a good sign....

...that you are putting yourself out there like that. Girls dig confidence. *checks poll results* Umm, MOST girls (the type I think you are trying after) like confidence and a guy that is comfortable enough to go out on a limb like that. Keep your spirits up man. If this one doesnt go for it, keep pluggin along. You'll find one.

 

[unkalledfor]

you know what works... if you get on one knee and ask her out... it's not too forward, but just enough.. and say things like "i love you" and "i've been watching you sleep, you look so peaceful"... then grab a handful of her hair and take a long whiff of it... "mmmm niiiiceeeeee"

60% of the time it works everytime

 

[BoarderDave]

you know what works... if you get on one knee and ask her out... it's not too forward, but just enough.. and say things like "i love you" and "i've been watching you sleep, you look so peaceful"... then grab a handful of her hair and take a long whiff of it... "mmmm niiiiceeeeee"

60% of the time it works everytime

haha Classic.

+1 rep for the Ron Burgundy line.

 

[CoachR64]

I voted very bad. If she was interested at all, she would not need to get back to you. Seems like she doesn't want to hurt your feelings by rejecting you.

I hate when girls do that. I'd rather be rejected with honesty then to be dragged along with the girl pretending I might have a chance.

Coach

 

[GQ Chris]

you know what works... if you get on one knee and ask her out... it's not too forward, but just enough.. and say things like "i love you" and "i've been watching you sleep, you look so peaceful"... then grab a handful of her hair and take a long whiff of it... "mmmm niiiiceeeeee"

60% of the time it works everytime

sheesh man... isn't it a little too early to propose, LOL

 

[Balugon]

I was thinking the girl was asking where u would want to take her as well. Maybe she was interested in doing the night where both people pay, and for just a casual getting to know each other thing going to a fine dining place would be too much. Something like a mom and pops restaurant or other low class place would probably hit better.

I also think saying she was cute, even though honest, was a bit over the top. I mean, we only think so many people are highly attractive, while many other people are possibilities. If someone highly attractive comes up to us and asks us out while telling us they think we are attractive, its likely to get a positive response. But if someone who is only a maybe comes up and comes on strong, it could leave us caught off guard, and maybe for some people could be a turn-off, or in the least, could make them want to think things thru a bit before they make a decision.

I dont know exactly what i would do in ur situation, but i would definitaly not B-line it straight to said girl as the first person i talk to next time u go to a meeting with her (unless she comes to u), as that might put out the idea that u have a bit of obsessive issues. But maybe when u guys do talk, just have normal convo for a couple times and she if she gives u her response willingly after a few meetings or so, then u have it. And if she doesnt, then u have shown her u arent obsessive, and then later u could try again with "So would u be interested in going to soandso cafe/restaurant this weekend?" etc. It would show ur continued interest, and if she is shifty, then give her ur email address in private (maybe write it out beforehand) and tell her she could write u an email with any details she might like. Its easier to let someone down thru the email than it is to their face, especially when ur near a group setting.

Or i could be totally wrong, and she might need u to ask her about next time u see her (if she doesnt mention her response before the meeting is over) so that she knows u really are serious about being interested in her.

Either way, ull find out ur answers in time.