I really don't know where to begin, there has been so much. I apologize for the length, I just don't have anyone to talk to and I really feel alone all day.
I was married, to a minister for 2.5 years; he had two children from a previous marriage, I had one, and we eventually had one together, a boy.
Everything was great until a year and a half later when this woman came into our lives, who was married with 2 kids of her own; her and my husband immediately clicked; he started begging her to quit her church and come to ours; she eventually did and even started singing next to him at church. The flirting began. It was very hurtful and led to rumors of affair.
Eventually, this woman left her husband; this is when my husband started treating me like I didn't exist. For three months this went on until he completely lost it and falsely accused me of cheating. He acted like a complete lunatic. He told me that he "suspected" for months. I was so hurt and humiliated. We only had one car and when I wasn't with him, I was at home with the kids while cleaning, cooking, and taking care of our infant son.
After the second day, he eventually said that "God" talks to him and led him to believe this, that I had cheated. My husband even lied and said that he had proof, pictures and whatnot. He even tried to make me think that I "black out and take off with guys." I kept asking him, "How do you have pictures of something I didn't do?" Four days later he kicked me out of our home, with both my sons, one being his own. I had nowhere to go so I had no choice but to stay in this filthy abandoned house next door. I lived there with my kids as a squatter for four months. He occasionally dropped in to accuse me of even more non-existent cheating. He eventually started complaining about having to buy me and my boys groceries; he said I had to get a job. I had no car, no place to live; the car we had was in my name and he had it. Every time I had to go somewhere, I had to walk to town with my kids; a few miles there and back. He eventually gave me divorce papers two weeks later.
He said he was sending the papers to where we got married-Las Vegas- and that the "beauty" part of it was that we would be divorced in a week. I couldn't believe what was happening. I didn't see any of this coming. I didn't want a divorce, I loved my husband and I kept praying hard every day that God would show him that I didn't cheat.
It wasn't long before people I knew were saying that they were seeing my husband on dates with the woman from church. I refused to believe it. Just a few months later, two days after my birthday, I received the worst text message of my life. It was from my husband and it said, "Hey, I got hitched; I wanted you to hear it from me before anyone else." This just made everything that much worse. If this wasn't enough. He called me up a month after that and claimed he wasn't the father of our son. He said he took a home DNA test and got negative results. No matter how much I begged him that it wasn't accurate, he said the test was 100 percent accurate and that I was lying. He hasn't seen our son since he turned 2; he will be 3 next month and has forgotten about his father. If this wasn't enough, he told me that he would take another test if I paid for it; after saving, I finally paid for one to be done; he refused to take it. He said that "God" had shown him who the "real father" of our son was; a man who just died of cancer that he was visiting until he died.
He kicked me out on Aug. 29, 2014; it has now been a year and a few months of pure hell. So much damage in so little time. Because he left me with two kids and no job, I'm stuck on government assistance. I'm broke all the time until I finish school and can get something. Because I'm on government assistance, it is mandatory to seize child support from the father. I filed in October; before then, I hadn't heard from my ex-husband since July. When he found out, he was furious, and started e-mailing me saying that he was going to seek full custody so that our son can visit his "real father's" family. With all the commotion about child support, I'm trying to get a court ordered DNA test done, but they won't do it because we were married. I currently just found out that we are still legally married; that you're supposed to file divorce in the state you live in, which would be California; so my minister husband has TWO wives.
I need prayer badly. I've been praying since the day this has happened and it has all gotten worse. It has affected my sleep, my appetite; I'm horribly depressed. I feel that he took a huge piece of me with him. And he has done nothing but be cruel and inconsiderate. My stress is through the roof. I never thought in a million years that that man could do these things to me. It's just me and my two kids now; I have no one. I got out of the abandoned house in January of this year, but I am stuck living with my uncle and his girlfriend. Their house is so gross that me and my kids only live in two rooms to stay out of theirs. This has been the biggest nightmare of my life. I'm about to give up hope and I feel like I'm going insane. I started e-mailing a man by the name of 'Prophet Kingsley Christian'; everything he said was so inspiring and I believed him that it would all get better, but then he said it would only happen if I sent him $700 so he can have his 'prayer warriors' pray for me. I'm lost. I don't know why God let this happen to me; I don't know why He hasn't done anything. Does he hear me? Is he allowing me to suffer for past sins? The short time I was with my husband was the happiest I ever was in my life, and now I'm miserable again; worse off than before I met my husband. I'm hurt and humiliated. I don't feel I'll ever recover emotionally or psychologically from this. My husband told all of his church members that I "had an affair" so they would stop questioning his fidelity as to why he dropped me out of nowhere and ended up with his rumored affair. His words when referring to all of this is, "Isn't funny how God always brings things to light?" I'm so confused. I don't know if we were under bad spiritual attack or if it was all an act to get rid of me so he could be with her, I just don't know.
Pls pray for me that God brings me justice; that I get that paternity test granted to me; and that I find a job quickly after I graduate school with my B.S. I have 3 more semesters left.
I apologize for the length. Believe it or not, there's a lot more, I just didn't want to go on any longer.
Thank you all for listening...
I was married, to a minister for 2.5 years; he had two children from a previous marriage, I had one, and we eventually had one together, a boy.
Everything was great until a year and a half later when this woman came into our lives, who was married with 2 kids of her own; her and my husband immediately clicked; he started begging her to quit her church and come to ours; she eventually did and even started singing next to him at church. The flirting began. It was very hurtful and led to rumors of affair.
Eventually, this woman left her husband; this is when my husband started treating me like I didn't exist. For three months this went on until he completely lost it and falsely accused me of cheating. He acted like a complete lunatic. He told me that he "suspected" for months. I was so hurt and humiliated. We only had one car and when I wasn't with him, I was at home with the kids while cleaning, cooking, and taking care of our infant son.
After the second day, he eventually said that "God" talks to him and led him to believe this, that I had cheated. My husband even lied and said that he had proof, pictures and whatnot. He even tried to make me think that I "black out and take off with guys." I kept asking him, "How do you have pictures of something I didn't do?" Four days later he kicked me out of our home, with both my sons, one being his own. I had nowhere to go so I had no choice but to stay in this filthy abandoned house next door. I lived there with my kids as a squatter for four months. He occasionally dropped in to accuse me of even more non-existent cheating. He eventually started complaining about having to buy me and my boys groceries; he said I had to get a job. I had no car, no place to live; the car we had was in my name and he had it. Every time I had to go somewhere, I had to walk to town with my kids; a few miles there and back. He eventually gave me divorce papers two weeks later.
He said he was sending the papers to where we got married-Las Vegas- and that the "beauty" part of it was that we would be divorced in a week. I couldn't believe what was happening. I didn't see any of this coming. I didn't want a divorce, I loved my husband and I kept praying hard every day that God would show him that I didn't cheat.
It wasn't long before people I knew were saying that they were seeing my husband on dates with the woman from church. I refused to believe it. Just a few months later, two days after my birthday, I received the worst text message of my life. It was from my husband and it said, "Hey, I got hitched; I wanted you to hear it from me before anyone else." This just made everything that much worse. If this wasn't enough. He called me up a month after that and claimed he wasn't the father of our son. He said he took a home DNA test and got negative results. No matter how much I begged him that it wasn't accurate, he said the test was 100 percent accurate and that I was lying. He hasn't seen our son since he turned 2; he will be 3 next month and has forgotten about his father. If this wasn't enough, he told me that he would take another test if I paid for it; after saving, I finally paid for one to be done; he refused to take it. He said that "God" had shown him who the "real father" of our son was; a man who just died of cancer that he was visiting until he died.
He kicked me out on Aug. 29, 2014; it has now been a year and a few months of pure hell. So much damage in so little time. Because he left me with two kids and no job, I'm stuck on government assistance. I'm broke all the time until I finish school and can get something. Because I'm on government assistance, it is mandatory to seize child support from the father. I filed in October; before then, I hadn't heard from my ex-husband since July. When he found out, he was furious, and started e-mailing me saying that he was going to seek full custody so that our son can visit his "real father's" family. With all the commotion about child support, I'm trying to get a court ordered DNA test done, but they won't do it because we were married. I currently just found out that we are still legally married; that you're supposed to file divorce in the state you live in, which would be California; so my minister husband has TWO wives.
I need prayer badly. I've been praying since the day this has happened and it has all gotten worse. It has affected my sleep, my appetite; I'm horribly depressed. I feel that he took a huge piece of me with him. And he has done nothing but be cruel and inconsiderate. My stress is through the roof. I never thought in a million years that that man could do these things to me. It's just me and my two kids now; I have no one. I got out of the abandoned house in January of this year, but I am stuck living with my uncle and his girlfriend. Their house is so gross that me and my kids only live in two rooms to stay out of theirs. This has been the biggest nightmare of my life. I'm about to give up hope and I feel like I'm going insane. I started e-mailing a man by the name of 'Prophet Kingsley Christian'; everything he said was so inspiring and I believed him that it would all get better, but then he said it would only happen if I sent him $700 so he can have his 'prayer warriors' pray for me. I'm lost. I don't know why God let this happen to me; I don't know why He hasn't done anything. Does he hear me? Is he allowing me to suffer for past sins? The short time I was with my husband was the happiest I ever was in my life, and now I'm miserable again; worse off than before I met my husband. I'm hurt and humiliated. I don't feel I'll ever recover emotionally or psychologically from this. My husband told all of his church members that I "had an affair" so they would stop questioning his fidelity as to why he dropped me out of nowhere and ended up with his rumored affair. His words when referring to all of this is, "Isn't funny how God always brings things to light?" I'm so confused. I don't know if we were under bad spiritual attack or if it was all an act to get rid of me so he could be with her, I just don't know.
Pls pray for me that God brings me justice; that I get that paternity test granted to me; and that I find a job quickly after I graduate school with my B.S. I have 3 more semesters left.
I apologize for the length. Believe it or not, there's a lot more, I just didn't want to go on any longer.
Thank you all for listening...
