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I need Christian advice

DangerousType

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I've been having an issue for a long time now that I need really good and sound advice on. I want someone to tell me what they think Jesus might think of my situation. This is a petty topic but it affects people and society immensly and i'm sure everyone is tired of hearing, thinking, talking about it and making it a big deal. The issue is physical beauty and how much it means in our society and how much it means in heaven. I am going to sound like a complainer and whiner to some people, but i know others undestand because they've experienced this. My sister is a beautiful girl, and i think i am as well, but other people don't. And everytime my sister is with me, since we were teens, we're now in our lates 20's, people either make comments that she's prettier or if they want to be nice they'll say we look nothing alike. and waiters and waitresses, believe it or not, treat her a lot nicer than they treat me. it has hurt me so much. i can't even tell all the experiences i've been through with this but take my word for it. Society is ignorant to people that are less attractive - i will say again in my opinion i'm beautiful. but i can tell others don't and the way i'm treated is not right. it's very hurtful and i feel empty inside. i never acted like i thought i was beautiful until i realized that people were thinking and saying i wasn't. i feel like i'm an underdog and need to flaunt myself around now so i can appear that i don't give a crap what people think although its created so much anger, sadness, hopelessness and emptiness inside me. I wonder if i keep hanging on to this anger i will go to hell. I feel like i don't want a wall up but i need it. i don't want to claim i'm beautiful because it sounds wrong but i need to let people know, what they think is not what i think. How do i deal with the way people treat me? Guys are mean, women are mean and i feel horrible. Please someone give me advice. I love Jesus i want to be kind but i always get insulted and i'm done with it.
 

mark avery

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Its very simple really, the devil is shallow and works through more or less everyone at least at some stage in their lives, you are being pushed by him through the ignorance or blind ways of those that even attempt to acknowledge beauty in their midst, and then judge....

It is also tho, a back handed blessing, so turn it around, and every time that situation happens, realise Jesus allows also, which again also does mean our Lord is saying your are beautiful....

Fare journey..
 
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Dangerous Type, my situation is same as yours, my younger sister garnered more positive attention than I as we were growing up. I was always very much aware of this and experienced societal discrimination much as you did. However, God taught me through my parents and family that I am special in my own way. I love my sister very much because she is beautiful inside and never once made me feel inferior to her. This is the lesson that God would have us learn. Dangerous Type, do not judge yourself through the eyes of other but as God sees you. You will then be free of the resentments and jealousy that are of evil. By the way, how did you come up with your public name? :confused:
 
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DangerousType

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i love that song by the Cars its one of my fave songs. i loooove my sister also she is beautiful inside as well and my mother always loved us equally and my boyfriend loves me very much. So God has shown me that he loves me through these people. Thank you for your comment.
 
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