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Hello,
I am going through something very tough. I am 30 years old and I have been dating a guy for almost a year and we fell into fornication. As a result I ended up pregnant, I just found out and I know that once I tell my family especially my mom will not support me and completely turn their back on me. We had already been talking about marriage and we still plan to do so. I know I failed God and I sinned and as a result this happened. I want to be happy about the news because I’ve always wanted to be a mother but I know I’m gonna have to do this without my family which hurts. Will God ever forgive me for what I have done? Will my child have to pay for my mistake?
 

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Hello,
I am going through something very tough. I am 30 years old and I have been dating a guy for almost a year and we fell into fornication. As a result I ended up pregnant, I just found out and I know that once I tell my family especially my mom will not support me and completely turn their back on me. We had already been talking about marriage and we still plan to do so. I know I failed God and I sinned and as a result this happened. I want to be happy about the news because I’ve always wanted to be a mother but I know I’m gonna have to do this without my family which hurts. Will God ever forgive me for what I have done? Will my child have to pay for my mistake?
I am hoping you and the father marry immediately.
 
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Will God ever forgive me for what I have done? Will my child have to pay for my mistake?
Yes to question one and no to question 2.

God forgave when Jesus died on the cross.
His promise to us is that He will not hold our sins against us.
Romans 4:8 Blessed is the man to whom the Lord will not impute sin.
2 Corinthians 5:19 To wit, that God was in Christ, reconciling the world unto himself, not imputing their trespasses unto them;
 
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If you sincerely repent, you will be forgiven.

Will your child have to pay for your sin in what way? As in, will God punish your child for your sin? No! But if you don't marry the father, your child will likely be impacted from being born out of wedlock and having a single mother. Society has taught us this.

As to your family turning their backs on you for this sin, if they would judge you and withhold forgiveness, they will answer to God and be judged by the same measure. And if they were to do this, they are terrible, toxic people that you are better off without, anyways.

Repent. Marry. Live, love, and be at peace and have a happy life, and be a good mother and wife.
 
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Hello,
I am going through something very tough. I am 30 years old and I have been dating a guy for almost a year and we fell into fornication. As a result I ended up pregnant, I just found out and I know that once I tell my family especially my mom will not support me and completely turn their back on me. We had already been talking about marriage and we still plan to do so. I know I failed God and I sinned and as a result this happened. I want to be happy about the news because I’ve always wanted to be a mother but I know I’m gonna have to do this without my family which hurts. Will God ever forgive me for what I have done? Will my child have to pay for my mistake?
God will forgive you of the fornication if you repent of your fornication, but there will be temporary consequences for the sin regardless (case and point, your present suffering). Whether we perceive it or not, our sins are always accompanied by consequences in this life, even if forgiven by God. You can mitigate your child's suffering to some degree. For instance, strive to be a godly example to the child as a loving follower of Jesus.
 
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Hello,
I am going through something very tough. I am 30 years old and I have been dating a guy for almost a year and we fell into fornication. As a result I ended up pregnant, I just found out and I know that once I tell my family especially my mom will not support me and completely turn their back on me. We had already been talking about marriage and we still plan to do so. I know I failed God and I sinned and as a result this happened. I want to be happy about the news because I’ve always wanted to be a mother but I know I’m gonna have to do this without my family which hurts. Will God ever forgive me for what I have done? Will my child have to pay for my mistake?

God will forgive you for it, he just blessed you with a kid! How wonderful is that! :D
Will your child pay for your mistake? Hmm...
No at least he shouldnt!
How on earth could it be his/ her fault anyway?

Dont think about abortion please! Have it and cherish it. Im sure God bless you for your entire life if you keep it. God gives you a child as a gift not some sort of a punishment.

Confess it and move on with your life. If your family have stone hearts then its their sin not yours.

Congrats on being a mama and best of luck!
Isnt God good ? :)
 
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Will God ever forgive me for what I have done? Will my child have to pay for my mistake?


Pray, repent and be forgiven.

Raise your child to know the Love and the Fear of the Lord.

M-Bob
 
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yes you are forgiven after asking for forgiveness with sincere heart

you're family needs to love and forgive just like god otherwise they are sinning and hurting an innocent babe
 
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If you sincerely repent, you will be forgiven.

Will your child have to pay for your sin in what way? As in, will God punish your child for your sin? No! But if you don't marry the father, your child will likely be impacted from being born out of wedlock and having a single mother. Society has taught us this.

As to your family turning their backs on you for this sin, if they would judge you and withhold forgiveness, they will answer to God and be judged by the same measure. And if they were to do this, they are terrible, toxic people that you are better off without, anyways.

Repent. Marry. Live, love, and be at peace and have a happy life, and be a good mother and wife.
Thank you so much for your words. Very encouraging in this tough time for me.
 
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yes you are forgiven after asking for forgiveness with sincere heart

you're family needs to love and forgive just like god otherwise they are sinning and hurting an innocent babe
I hope they would understand that. But I guess somethings need to be left to God. Maybe one day they will realize the pain they caused me.
 
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God will forgive you for it, he just blessed you with a kid! How wonderful is that! :D
Will your child pay for your mistake? Hmm...
No at least he shouldnt!
How on earth could it be his/ her fault anyway?

Dont think about abortion please! Have it and cherish it. Im sure God bless you for your entire life if you keep it. God gives you a child as a gift not some sort of a punishment.

Confess it and move on with your life. If your family have stone hearts then its their sin not yours.

Congrats on being a mama and best of luck!
Isnt God good ? :)
Yes God is good. Thank you first time I heard congrats since I found out. Beats hearing you were disobedient, you should have waited for God to give you someone he wanted you to be with, what are you going to do now, hopefully he doesn’t leave tu raising a child in your own and that’s all he wanted to get you pregnant great going you’re such a screw up. May God bless you for your kind words.
 
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I hope they would understand that. But I guess somethings need to be left to God. Maybe one day they will realize the pain they caused me.
remember the woman who was about to be stoned, and remember that one needs to let go of one who has repented and move on just as jesus did with this woman.

times will be tough at times no doubt, but hopefully they will come to see the precious little baby as so worth their love, as well as forgiving you.

holding you accountable for a past sin for all of your life-that is their own sin right there.

they can forgive you for being a mother, for holding life inside of your womb-this is a blessing from god!
 
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Yes God is good. Thank you first time I heard congrats since I found out. Beats hearing you were disobedient, you should have waited for God to give you someone he wanted you to be with, what are you going to do now, hopefully he doesn’t leave tu raising a child in your own and that’s all he wanted to get you pregnant great going you’re such a screw up. May God bless you for your kind words.

Whats done is done. A child is never a punishment from God, but a blessing no one actually deserves. See yourself as blessed and remember that the Lord never gives us more than we can handle.
Trust the Lord and it will be fine :)

God have entrusted you with a soul, isnt that great?!
The Lord is good and this child is a sign of his power to turn a sin into a huge blessing.
 
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Thank you! I was feeling so bad because even though I wanted to be happy about the news I couldn’t cause I was so overwhelmed by shame but reading all these responses makes me remember that a child is always a blessing of God and maybe this is what he wanted for me and I should embrace it even if I don’t have anyone on my side
 
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God is on your side! Christ followers will be as well. Look for them and start building up a support system right now of positive people who will be there to encourage and uplift you.

check out community support groups for single moms, online support groups, ask your ob for any info on groups or classes and start going and networking with the other moms to be
 
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Hello,
I am going through something very tough. I am 30 years old and I have been dating a guy for almost a year and we fell into fornication. As a result I ended up pregnant, I just found out and I know that once I tell my family especially my mom will not support me and completely turn their back on me. We had already been talking about marriage and we still plan to do so. I know I failed God and I sinned and as a result this happened. I want to be happy about the news because I’ve always wanted to be a mother but I know I’m gonna have to do this without my family which hurts. Will God ever forgive me for what I have done? Will my child have to pay for my mistake?
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Hello,
I am going through something very tough. I am 30 years old and I have been dating a guy for almost a year and we fell into fornication. As a result I ended up pregnant, I just found out and I know that once I tell my family especially my mom will not support me and completely turn their back on me. We had already been talking about marriage and we still plan to do so. I know I failed God and I sinned and as a result this happened. I want to be happy about the news because I’ve always wanted to be a mother but I know I’m gonna have to do this without my family which hurts. Will God ever forgive me for what I have done? Will my child have to pay for my mistake?
God will forgive you.
 
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