I might be overthinking this about a priest.

[AlexB23]

I had a strange experience with a priest who I otherwise enjoy for confession. One time I confessed to him (sorry if this seems too personal) that I thought I may have committed a form of "M" (a sexual sin if you know what I mean) but that I wasn't sure if it was full-blown "M," and immediately he asked me "Did you have an org@$m?" And I'm like...does that even matter? I said No, but I wanted to ask him why did it matter.

Well, they're not SUPPOSED to, but it doesn't mean they don't.

The priest was probably jerking off under his robes for all we know. Gross...

 

[Lady Bug]

The priest was probably jerking off under his robes for all we know. Gross...

So you think it was odd for him to ask the org@$m question? It wasn't "important" for ascertaining the mortality of the sin? I feel dumb asking this, sorry.

 

[AlexB23]

So you think it was odd for him to ask the org@$m question? It wasn't "important" for ascertaining the mortality of the sin?

It is totally wrong for the priest to ask that, and is totally wrong. He must have gotten a little bit of a big plantain under his cloak, cos he probably had a fantasy (some people are perverted).


A plantain is a type of banana, for those who do not have plantains at the grocery store.

 

[Lady Bug]

It is totally wrong for the priest to ask that, and is totally wrong. He must have gotten a little bit of a big plantain under his cloak, cos he probably had a fantasy (some people are perverted). Also, the R word is not good to say, my friend.


A plantain is a type of banana, for those who do not have plantains at the grocery store.
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I edited my comment, so if you could possibly edit your quote of my comment, that would be nice, thanks.

This makes me wonder about my priest though. I think there's a side to these priests that the public doesn't see, and only displays to select individuals, as far as I'm concerned.

 

[AlexB23]

I edited my comment, so if you could possibly edit your quote of my comment, that would be nice, thanks.

This makes me wonder about my priest though. I think there's a side to these priests that the public doesn't see, and only displays to select individuals, as far as I'm concerned.

I just edited it. Hey, only a small percentage of priests are pervy though. About 4% of priests were accused of abuse from 1950-2022: Creepy Priest Percentage

 

[chevyontheriver]

I had a strange experience with a priest who I otherwise enjoy for confession. One time I confessed to him (sorry if this seems too personal) that I thought I may have committed a form of "M" (a sexual sin if you know what I mean) but that I wasn't sure if it was full-blown "M," and immediately he asked me "Did you have an org@$m?" And I'm like...does that even matter? I said No, but I wanted to ask him why did it matter.

That 'might' have been a relevant question.

Well, they're not SUPPOSED to, but it doesn't mean they don't.

Exactly.

 

[AlexB23]

That 'might' have been a relevant question.

Exactly.

Well, here is a study of creepy priests. It might be useful for @Lady Bug as well.

https://scholarcommons.scu.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?referer=&httpsredir=1&article=1183&context=psych

Article summary:

This article by Thomas G. Plante and Arianna Aldridge examines the psychological profiles of twenty-one Roman Catholic clergy who have faced credible allegations of sexual misconduct. The majority of the participants were ordained priests, with the remainder consisting of religious brothers and men in training before taking their final vows. Participants' ages ranged from 27 to 79 years old, with an average age of 57.76 years. Half of them reported dealing with significant sexual identity stressors related to their sexual orientation. Additionally, approximately half of the participants reported experiencing major family stressors, such as serious illness, witnessing violent marital conflicts, or living in poverty.

To assess the psychological profiles of these individuals, the authors used the Minnesota Multiphasic Personality Inventory-2 (MMPI-2), a widely used and extensively researched psychological self-report measure. The MMPI-2 consists of 567 true-false questions covering various aspects of an individual's emotional, interpersonal, and cognitive functioning. The results showed that the accused clergy exhibited distinct psychological patterns compared to national norms. Key findings indicate that the clergy in question displayed defensiveness, mistrust towards others, unusual thinking patterns, withdrawal, restraint of aggressive feelings, impatience, and reduced concern for others. Notably, they showed lower levels of addiction and antisocial behaviors compared to the normative samples. However, some indicators of depression, anxiety, obsessional thinking, anger, and type A behavior were observed within normal ranges.


Despite the significant findings, the authors caution that methodological limitations should be taken into account when interpreting the results. These limitations include the relatively small sample size, potential biases introduced by the evaluative context, the use of selective MMPI-2 variables, and the absence of comprehensive historical information or other psychological testing measures. Nonetheless, the study offers valuable insights into the psychological characteristics of Catholic clergy facing sexual misconduct allegations. Further investigation addressing the mentioned limitations could lead to improved understanding of this unique population, contributing to effective prevention strategies, treatments, and screening processes.

 

[Michie]

Reading this thread makes me realize how tough it would be to be a priest.

 

[Lady Bug]

Reading this thread makes me realize how tough it would be to be a priest.

Why?

 

[Michie]

Why?

Read the comments in the thread. There is a lot of projection on priests anymore. There are good priests out there regardless of the headlines. They just do not make the news.

 

[Lady Bug]

Read the comments in the thread. There is a lot of projection on priests anymore. There are good priests out there regardless of the headlines. They just do not make the news.

Oh I see. I wasn't trying to project, was I?

I also think that priests in general are unfairly attacked. Most are chill and can have a pleasant conversation with you.

 

[AlexB23]

Oh I see. I wasn't trying to project, was I?

I also think that priests in general are unfairly attacked. Most are chill and can have a pleasant conversation with you.

Agreed. All the priests that I have met did not give creepy vibes, and actually spoke out against creeps.

 

[Michie]

Oh I see. I wasn't trying to project, was I?

I also think that priests in general are unfairly attacked. Most are chill and can have a pleasant conversation with you.

Lady Bug, it’s not about you but comments I read that I could of done without.

 

[Michie]

It is totally wrong for the priest to ask that, and is totally wrong. He must have gotten a little bit of a big plantain under his cloak, cos he probably had a fantasy (some people are perverted).


A plantain is a type of banana, for those who do not have plantains at the grocery store.
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Please stop.

 

[AlexB23]

Please stop.

Yeah, I am sorry. Just trying to protect people from the 4% of creeps. But hey, 96% of priests are good people.

 

[Lady Bug]

Lady Bug, it’s not about you but comments I read that I could of done without.

Oh I see. I apologize for anything I might have contributed. It's just that it pains me when I see a priest acting weird to me in particular when the rest of the congregation doesn't seem to notice the same things. However, it's not my intention to make this thread worse. Heck - my original intention was to talk about what was in my original post, lol.

 

[Michie]

Yeah, I am sorry. Just trying to protect people from the 4% of creeps. But hey, 96% of priests are good people.

Confession is a good thing. Let’s not instill fear and project on what’s going on under a priest’s robe while they are hearing confessions.

 

[AlexB23]

Confession is a good thing. Let’s not instill fear and project on what’s going on under a priest’s robe while they are hearing confessions.

Agreed. I am sorry for doing that. As a young guy in his 20s, my mind goes into the gutter sometimes, and also think worst case scenarios. I like confession also, and need to go again, but have to find a time to walk to the church to do it (church is only 1/2 mile away or less).

 

[JesusFollowerForever]

You need to go back to confession to confess making up sins to confess. At 8 or 9 it may not be in the mortal sin category, but on the other hand it looks like that one event may have been just the sort of thing that torpedoed your Catholic faith. Even if it was not a mortal sin, you are well overdue for confession. Presuming you are older than nine years old currently.

you do not understand, the teachers at this catholic school told us we had to confess at least a sin, it cannot be possible we had none, well I assure you I had none! I was an innocent child loving everyone and happy! since when confessing our sins to GOD himself is of less value than confessing to a priest, a man?

the Lord told us how to pray;

The Lord's Prayer​

Mat 6:5 And when thou prayest, thou shalt not be as the hypocrites are: for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and in the corners of the streets, that they may be seen of men. Verily I say unto you, They have their reward.
Mat 6:6 But thou, when thou prayest, enter into thy closet, and when thou hast shut thy door, pray to thy Father which is in secret; and thy Father which seeth in secret shall reward thee openly.
Mat 6:7 But when ye pray, use not vain repetitions, as the heathen do: for they think that they shall be heard for their much speaking.
Mat 6:8 Be not ye therefore like unto them: for your Father knoweth what things ye have need of, before ye ask him.
Mat 6:9 After this manner therefore pray ye: Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name.
Mat 6:10 Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven.
Mat 6:11 Give us this day our daily bread.
Mat 6:12 And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors.
Mat 6:13 And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil: For thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory, for ever. Amen.
Mat 6:14 For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you:
Mat 6:15 But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.

What is the penance the priests give you, a few hail Mary and the lords prayer, in repetition?

Look at Mat 6:7 But when ye pray, use not vain repetitions, as the heathen do: for they think that they shall be heard for their much speaking.

 

[JesusFollowerForever]

I had a priest who would ask very explicit questions. It was like a dirty phone call. And I think he told other priests what I said because when I was confessing to a different priest he already knew what I was talking about and said I shouldn't repeat myself (even though this was the first time I confessed to him). Anyway, I quit confessing with both of them and went to a totally different church for confession.

They are Not supposed to do that but I know they do... sad and sinful.