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I have been on this Christian faith journey (half-heartedly) for like 12 years now. I am still struggling with lust. Currently I feel weighed down by my problems, by my sins, by my past and by the hopeless & meaningless life I am living. I believe in Christ, but I am very wounded in my soul and heart and my relationship with Him is very dysfunctional because I have OCD with blasphemous thoughts that started last year. Last year was terrible for me and many spiritual things happened however I've lost the ability to interpret them, I think I have a darkened understanding. Nothing in my life seems to make any sense whatsoever. Only a few years back I was a young man full of ambitions and grand visions, yet seemingly I was punished for this by life, God, or evil spirits? And my own mistakes broke me completely. I also fear because the girl of my dreams will probably never be mine because of the things that happened last year. I am working with two Christians for my full deliverance and healing. One of them, a priest, told me he thinks I was cursed and he prescribed what I need to do to break the curse and be delivered. I've had spiritual visions that would indicate this as well. The doctors told me I have schizophrenia and I have been hospitalized 7 times as well as severe self-harm. I also have bodily problems that do not have any healing or resolution (I've tried literally every doctor), and there is no progress at all in my life, just unemployment and doctor's visits. What I need is a breakthrough in all areas in my life: spiritual healing, bodily healing, mental healing, relationship healing, deliverance, financial breakthrough, etc. But why did God make these things so unattainable for me? It's like it's far out of reach. Sometimes I think my enemies did this to me (those who hate me without reason) because it's like my life is too bad if you compare it to just the average Joe. I have committed very many sexual sins in the past too (but I confessed almost all of them), in my despair and in the meaninglessness of my life I gave myself to different women. I am sick of this life and of all of my problems that I cannot seem to resolve. I have become double-minded too. If the problem really is a malfunctioning brain chemistry, why must I suffer with this for the rest of my life, with no remedy for this condition except for death, even when I pray for healing? Why can't I be healed like Jesus healed the sick people in the Gospels? There is a lot of history here too. I go to the Catholic Church but it's like I don't feel the Holy Spirit there. I am sick of being the person who I am, it's like I should have become another person but something just threw a wrench in my own (or God's) plans for me.
 
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You need some sort of support group / male cell group / accountability and possibly therapy (online or in-person) to treat possible addiction. If your RC church has insufficient facilities in that regard, try another church in Colombo - there are more Charismatic churches there as well. PM me for info if necessary (I've got contacts there).
 
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I'm not in the US but thank you for your suggestion. I would love to visit a Charismatic church, I want to experience the presence of the Holy Ghost. In the Catholic Church I normally do not feel anything.
 
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I'm not in the US but thank you for your suggestion. I would love to visit a Charismatic church, I want to experience the presence of the Holy Ghost. In the Catholic Church I normally do not feel anything.
Given your profile I presumed you live in Colombo Sri Lanka, and that's what I'm referring to - there are Charismatic churches there; if you want to have more info, PM me.
 
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I'll assume you are from Sri Lanka which I think is a tough spiritual place. God is larger though than any place and I know too that it is His will to bring you along to conform more and more with Christ. Getting there though is really not easy for anyone and those with sins in the family and nation, that lack many Christians and opportunities makes this even harder. Harder is not impossible though. Also, if things are harder you can expect more from God. This is evidenced by Isaiah 59:19 ...When the enemy shall come in like a flood, the Spirit of the LORD shall lift up a standard against him."
I would suggest you continue to seek help as possible. Also, continue your study in the bible and always pray that God opens up the word of God to your heart so that you can hear and be good ground to let it grow out in your life.
I pray too that you can expect more victory in every issue that you have. I say that based on Proverbs 4:18 "But the path of the just is as the shining light, that shineth more and more unto the perfect day." Just is often translated as righteous. Please understand that such righteous is not from our works but from the blood of Jesus, a gift that you have. A gift that is totally independent of your former sins, current or even future works. So please continue to have hope and begin to grow even more in faith that your breakthroughs are on their way, that help is on the way, and that God is not going to just leave you an orphan but provide you with a Shepherd that can watch over your soul and help it.
I will say too that some breakthroughs are major and instant, others can be small and gradual. Leave that with God, but yet expect that He is working on your behalf to make you whole. Salvation is wholeness and whom the son sets free if free indeed. Don't be under condemnation but rejoice now that by faith there is no barrier between you and God because of what Jesus did for you. God bless you brother. Feel free to message me anytime if you like.
 
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Why do you assume I am in Sri Lanka??? Sure I can message you.
 
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Yes but why are my prayers for healing unanswered? If God could heal me I could start walking in the Spirit.
 
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If a person who lost a leg in a car accident becomes a Christian, he is not going to grow a new leg. Becoming a Christian allows the Holy Spirit to work in us to make us better people as long as we do not quench his work by walking in the flesh. The two biggest problems one faces are either not actually being a Christian or not wanting to change.

You can hear in the testimony of some people that the repeatedly "gave their life to Christ" as children only to find years later a point when they actually surrendered (trusted) in the gospel. Assuming that one is trusting in Christ, one can quit cold turkey some fleshly indulgence or one can chip away at it. The chipping away is usually a process of seeing the particular activity in the cold light of truth so that its allure is diminished.
 
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Why do you assume I am in Sri Lanka??? Sure I can message you.
Your profile says colombo and that is the capital of Sri Lanka. Of course likely there are other worldwide cities named that. I suppose it only matters if the spiritual climate is unique to that nation. Some teach that each geographical region may have demonic influences that try to persist through history.
 
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If we truly love God, then we will obey "Every word" that proceeds out of his mouth (Matthew 4:4). Baptism is one of those words. In order to be baptized, certain events must take place: You must repent, give up a lifestyle where sin has dominion, (ruler ship) over you. Sin according to 1 John 3:4, Whosoever committeth sin transgresseth also the law: for sin is the transgression (breaking) of the law. You must be taught "The Word", before you can adhere to God's commandments (judgments\statues). These laws are found in the Holy Bible; beginning with Genesis and ending with Revelation. You must believe what the bible says and finally, you must confess that Jesus is Lord. Once this has been accomplished, you are qualified to be baptized in the name of Jesus.

"Therefore let all the house of Israel know assuredly, that God hath made that same Jesus, whom ye have crucified, both Lord and Christ. Now when they heard this, they were pricked in their heart, and said unto Peter and to the rest of the apostles, men and brethren, what shall we do? Then Peter said unto them, "repent and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins, and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy Ghost." (Acts 2:38). “Know ye not, that so many of us as were baptized into Jesus Christ were baptized into his death? Therefore we are buried with him by baptism into death: that like as Christ was raised up from the dead by the glory of the Father, even so we also should walk in newness of life. knowing this, that our old man is crucified with him, that the body of sin might be destroyed, that henceforth we should not serve sin.” Romans 6:3-4,

Throughout the bible we find that in order to receive eternal salvation we must keep God's commandments to the end. If we make a mistake we must not give up, but I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus (Philippians 3:13-14). The last chapter in the whole bible reminds us of this one last time. "Blessed are they that do his commandments that they may have right to the tree of life." (Revelation 22:14). After this we find only seven more verses in the bible, and none of them does away with God's commandments.

The commandments of God are not hard to keep (I John 5:3) and furthermore, they teach us love in the highest degree. If you love Jesus you will keep his commandments (St. John 14:15). You will not displease the Lord by: Worshipping other gods, having graven images, taking his name in vain, breaking his Sabbath day (which is Saturday not Sunday), or dishonoring your parents. On the other hand, if you love your neighbor as yourself you will not kill him, commit adultery with his spouse, steal from him, falsely accuse him, or covet anything of his. Stop committing fornication.

This is true love, and if obeyed how much better would our world be? This is why Jesus said that the two greatest commandments are loving the Lord with all your heart, soul, and mind; and loving your neighbor as yourself (Matthew 22:35-40). These two commandments are the foundation of the entire law. Many reject the law, but it is holy, and the commandment holy, and just, and good (Romans 7:12) even today.
 
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You’ve been carrying so much and I can hear the exhaustion in your words. It’s okay to be tired. It's okay to admit you don't have it all figured out. Honestly, I don’t think God asks us to have perfect clarity or perfect faith… just honesty, and even that, He holds gently.

You mentioned feeling broken, double-minded, even cursed. I don’t have all the answers, but I do believe this: God doesn’t abandon the brokenhearted. He came near because of our pain—not to avoid it. And I don’t think healing is something He withholds like a prize for getting it “right.” Sometimes, healing looks different than we expected, and it arrives slowly, in layers, with the help of doctors and prayer, friendship and faith, medicine and miracles.

You’re still here. That means there’s still a story being written, even if the middle chapters are hard to bear.

It’s okay if your journey has scars. That doesn’t disqualify you from grace.
You don’t have to “become another person” to be loved.
You are already held.

Praying for a breakthrough in all the places you mentioned—and for peace in the meantime, especially in the parts that feel most hopeless.

Magdalena
 
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