I just don't know what to do...

[newlifecowgirl]

I am lost. I have been married a little over a year and a half, I love my husband, I really truly do. He is a good provider, spiritual leader to me and loves me unconditionally. My problem is I have sexual fantasies that I am pretty sure are against what God wants in a marriage. I am very drawn to bondage,<staff edit>. Just being tied up. I don't fantasize about other men, just my husband. But I am very drawn to relinquishing control to him <staff edit>. I don't know what to do, I don't fantasize overly much. We have talked about this a bit between us, he doesn't want to participate in anything that is against God, and I don't either. I don't know how to help myself I know it is somewhat sick.

 

[espo]

If its with your husband, why do you think its a sin ?

 

[Johnnz]

Can you look back and see some events in your life that may be behind your current thoughts?

John
NZ

 

[iambren]

No need to keep guilting yourself. I don't see why you can't play a little with it; be a little adventurous.

This probably comes from a deep place within you. A good therapist would be in order to walk you through it.

 

[Rev.Ross]

Dear NLCG,
I do not think you are sinning. If this is just with your husband. It is alright. Cuddling and really good kissing can be just as sexy as what you have mentioned. Good foreplay can enhance the [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] for both of you.
Blessings, Rev.Ross