I have two big problems...

[HeatRamosHidden]

I"m bi. I've written this somewhere here before. Furthermore, I'm obsessed with sex. I think about it all the time. I'm still a virgin, hopefully I will stay one. Could you please help talk me through this or do something helpful?

 

[PetraFan007]

Realize it's a sin. Begin to hate it with everything in you. But don't try to give it up on your own. Give it to God. Plead with God to set you free. Then watch him intervien. This is what I did to give up masturbation.

 

[Johnnz]

Maybe you are not bi. Maybe you are not obsessed with sex. Maybe you have other issues which are making it hard for you to integrate your sexuality into your life more healthily.

John
NZ

 

[he_is_risen!!]

Pray and be patient. It took some time for me to get the help that I needed to start fighting sex-related thoughts and desires. I am stilll fighting but once you really set your heart and mind to it, the Lord will folow through. Stand by His Word and what is right and He will help you [BIBLE]Psalm 55:22[/BIBLE]. Don't stop fight or you will fail. satan will attack you, but you can't give up hope because once you do, you loose the battle. I almost did and it would have destroyed me. If you have given up, remember that if you choose to start to fight again then it's not over.

 

[KindGuardian]

Well, it's hard to help if that's all you tell us. There are so many other circumstances. Being obsessed with sex, that's a major problem with most people today. Don't believe that's part of being a guy, because your sex doesn't excuse you from any sins. To lower the amount you think about sex you have to develop good habits to replace your current habits. Warning: old habits die hard. Little things can help out, like looking away from a person that looks attractive to you, looking away from things on tv or the internet that may be attractive to you and make you lust. Make rules for your computer usage. Like: don't use the computer after 10:30, and during the day look at the computer with your door open and try to only use your computer with other people around. Make it a habit to think about other people as a person. So many times we can lust over people and forgot that they're humans with feelings and a life; to think that you are ruining something that should be reserved for a future spouse makes it harder to lust over a stranger. For battles of thought, memorize scripture that is important to you. Whenever you start thinking about lustful things; quote scripture in your mind to replace worldly things and sin with Godly thoughts.... errrr anything else? When you use good habits to reduce your sexual thoughts, it becomes much easier to deal with your sexual attractions and say no to homosexual attractions and realize the wonderful sexual design that God created for purely a man and a woman. Last of all, accountability. Some one you trust who's a Christian. Tell them your problem. Start small though, tell them your problem with porn. Odds are if they're a young male, they have the same struggle. Fight the sin together. It makes things easier. If you feel you can trust the person, share your heart about your homosexual feelings also. If your friend is really close and you can trust them, this will do amazing things to help. It is written in Ecclesiastes 4:10,12: "If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up! Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strings is not quickly broken." This step is one of the most important. Last is prayer. Self explanatory. Pray for wisdom everyday. Use accountability to replace fake intimacy provided by sexual thoughts and masturbation with true intimacy through Christian friends and real love from other people who care about you.

 

[Annoula]

hm...i don't understand how you can be a bi and still a virgin.

just because you may fantasise about same sex it doesn't mean that you are bi.

bisexual, gay and everything related to sex is so very popular, and they make us doubt our own selves sometimes.

one needs to have good understanding of themselves in order to say that he/she is this or that.

that's just my humble opinion of course.

from a spiritual point of view, i would say that sex draws us to the matter.
the matter is one of our natures, the other is the spiritual.

the matter is good but it should not overwhelm the spirit.

sex is natural so don't try to supress it. it's there for a good reason. try to control it but don't pressure yourself a lot.

further on don't neglect your spiritual needs. the spirit is our real self.

you can pm me if you want.

take care

 

[headedhome]

Your not bi brother, your a man born with a sin nature and this is the sin that your self, the world, and the enemy have tried to sell you on. Take it from one who fell for the very same lie once upon a time. Spare yourself a lot of pain and confusion. Do not focus on sin or what you think you might be missing. Focus on The God of The Universe, The Creator of all, the one that died for you. Draw close to Jesus through prayer, His written word, and good sound fellowship with other believers. As the saying goes, "draw close to God and He will draw close to you". In reality He's with you always, if you believe on the name of Jesus Christ, the Jesus of the bible. Stay strong brother, it is a strong temptation you face, but they all are. Each person has his own strenghts and weaknesses and the enemy knows them. Allow God's strength to be perfected in your weakness. You can be vistorious over this, by the grace of God, receive it.

 

[TheSilentHero]

See, My Friend...Us Guys have physical desires, while girls have more emotional desires...Its normal...Whats not normal is that God didn't create anyone to naturally be Bi, gay, lesbian. etc... He created us to be with opposite sex, so that we may have sex as one flesh , and one body... By Being married of course... So, if you want to please God, and be his true son, See that Liking Females is the right way, and That being Bi can only be a way of satan, Not God...

God Bless You my Friend

 

[zmattz3]

yea man i def feel you there. I've struggled with bi/gay thoughts for quite some time, porn, and actualyl delving into sex as well. honestly you have to hate it from your guts, that's pretty much all there is too it. masturbation is like that too. its a battle we all face. just know that you're not the only guy to lust for sex after other men.

you can email me with your struggles or prayers (anyone)

 

[Cristiano]

HeatRamosHidden,
First, if sex is on your mind all the time, find what sets you off. Do you watch too much TV where you are seeing hot chicks/dudes and where sexual encounters are a dime a dozen? Are you spending your time with God, praying and reading the Bible (this is where I struggle)? Are you helping others on forums or reading a book on spiritual guidance? Occupying your time is key. Chances are, you have too much free time on your hands. Start exercising and listening to some encouraging music, meet friends for lunch, something!

If I had to define myself in sexuality terms, I'd be gay because I am really attracted to men and only a little to women. I am still a virgin as well but very social and have lots of good friends who respect that about me. I don't define myself, however, by who I am attracted to because then I am defining myself by the flesh instead of by the spirit. Remember, being attracted to someone is not sin. It's what you do with those thoughts/temptations that matter. Don't beat yourself up because you are attracted to guys as well. Consider yourself lucky that you have real attractions to women and don't run the risk of being single your whole life by not being able to act on male-only attractions.

Just stay in the spirit and he will guide you. Remember, we are all imperfect, so don't let this get you down. Define yourself by your spirit and don't worry so much about attractions. Read some of my other posts by finding them in my profile. Feel free to contact me. Peace and God bless

I"m bi. I've written this somewhere here before. Furthermore, I'm obsessed with sex. I think about it all the time. I'm still a virgin, hopefully I will stay one. Could you please help talk me through this or do something helpful?

 

[aric714]

I"m bi.

How do you even know and how are you accepting it. These feelings that your having now may just be part of faze and hormones are notorious to playing with your head right along with Satan. I think the whole sex thing isn't the only problem you have.

 

[artjack]

look after yourself, dont feel guilty, the problem is most likly not of your own doing, you may have issues you need to talk over with a councilar perhalps. at least that was the case with me & it helped. I was struggeling with it alone untill I had a mental breakdown at 30,I wish now I was honest with people around me before it happened because they would help me & I possible would not have had the breakdown at all but i know talking to people & gaining trust is not easy maybe because of past experiences but you should find someone who will help you. maybe your siblings or best friend.I found out I was not bi at all, I only had homosexual tendencies and am dealing with that now. stay away from alcahol, it is not the answer my friend. it is time to make some choises for yourself & start living your life before it drives you crazy. good luck

 

[onlooker]

my advice:
go to www.settingcaptivesfree.com
take the course. please.
I will keep you in my prayers.

 

[chijioke]

My brother, occupy your thoughts with Godly thoughts, walk in the spirit and you will not fulfill the desires of the flesh. The bible asks us to think pure thoughts, noble thoughts.....Phil 4:8.

In addition, I wish to remind you that your bodies are members of Christ.......................1 Cornth 6:15-19. Meanwhile take note of 1 Cornth 10: 13. it shall be well with you