I have a problem and i want to get better

[Far Side Of the Moon]

My anxiety and depression are acting up again. Though I'm getting a job all I can think of are the worst...and that triggers my anxiety...

I just want live.

I have frequent nightmares, I don't sleep sometimes because of them and I'm tired of being hopeless and just having negative intrusive thoughts circle around my head.

I don't think on was ever this bad.

All this stems from being a late bloomer in life and feeling like I have no value or worth... And thinking these thoughts so long finally caught up with me.

Please list practical ways to recover from depression please. Not only that but to accept myself without a degree, still living at home ect... I want to make progress especially with my mind and thoughts ...

I want to be kind to myself.

Please help.

 

[Galatea]

The best thing is to remember who you are in Christ: precious beyond belief. When you have a negative thought about yourself, counter it with the thought "Jesus died for me. He loves me, so much."

You have to make new tapes. Right now, your tapes are bad. They tell you nothing good. So, make new tapes, with positive thoughts about your place in Christ.

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

The best thing is to remember who you are in Christ: precious beyond belief. When you have a negative thought about yourself, counter it with the thought "Jesus died for me. He loves me, so much."

You have to make new tapes. Right now, your tapes are bad. They tell you nothing good. So, make new tapes, with positive thoughts about your place in Christ.

Yeah. I hate I did this to myself. I'm having a hard time trusting God to right now though

 

[Galatea]

It's okay, you didn't do it to yourself in a vacuum. How you were raised and your circumstances contribute to the tapes you make.

Remember God loves you, even when you can't feel it. He is nigh to those with a broken heart.

 

[timewerx]

Secrets to happiness and contentment:

- Lower your expectations
- Stop using Facebook.

 

[friend of]

Hey sorry to hear about all that, Far Side. Intrusive thoughts are not fun but just remember it's not your fault you're having them, so don't blame yourself. It's kinda like when songs get stuck in our heads and we can't get them out. Getting frustrated makes it worse. At least you recognize a need to be kinder to yourself. That's a good position to be in at least.

Yeah. I hate I did this to myself. I'm having a hard time trusting God to right now though

If you had to choose, would it be easier to trust yourself or trust God right now? John 6:37

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

It's okay, you didn't do it to yourself in a vacuum. How you were raised and your circumstances contribute to the tapes you make.

Remember God loves you, even when you can't feel it. He is nigh to those with a broken heart.

Yeah... But I'm 25 now... I need to get rid of those tapes. I want to be happy.

 

[Galatea]

Yeah... But I'm 25 now... I need to get rid of those tapes. I want to be happy.

The way to get rid of the old tapes is to make new ones. For example, if you feel like you are an unkind person, and the tape you play in your head is "I am unkind, I am a cruel person and I hurt people." Any time that tape comes on, play a new tape. Tell yourself "Jesus lives in me, and everytime I listen to His leading, I am kind and I am good to people."
This is a new tape. Kind of a prayer, in a way. If you play a bad tape, then pray. Ask God to help you make new tapes.

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

Thank you@Galatea

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

Hey sorry to hear about all that, Far Side. Intrusive thoughts are not fun but just remember it's not your fault you're having them, so don't blame yourself. It's kinda like when songs get stuck in our heads and we can't get them out. Getting frustrated makes it worse. At least you recognize a need to be kinder to yourself. That's a good position to be in at least.



If you had to choose, would it be easier to trust yourself or trust God right now? John 6:37

Me. I'm not suicidal or off my rocker.

 

[miknik5]

Yeah... But I'm 25 now... I need to get rid of those tapes. I want to be happy.

Do you have a good relationship with your mother? Can you talk with her about your worries?

 

[miknik5]

My anxiety and depression are acting up again. Though I'm getting a job all I can think of are the worst...and that triggers my anxiety...

I just want live.

I have frequent nightmares, I don't sleep sometimes because of them and I'm tired of being hopeless and just having negative intrusive thoughts circle around my head.

I don't think on was ever this bad.

All this stems from being a late bloomer in life and feeling like I have no value or worth... And thinking these thoughts so long finally caught up with me.

Please list practical ways to recover from depression please. Not only that but to accept myself without a degree, still living at home ect... I want to make progress especially with my mind and thoughts ...

I want to be kind to myself.

Please help.

My son is a "late bloomer" in this world also

He is starting to express his worries to me

I'm taking your ".late bloomer" terminology to mean you aren't doing what everyone (it seems) in your generation is doing?

 

[miknik5]

Why do we have to compare ourselves to everyone else and think that because everyone else is doing "A" or "B" and we're not, that something is wrong with us

How can we cone to know and accept ourselves and stop putting pressure on ourselves to be someone else

Thinking that who we are is not good enough

Be who YOU are
And trust that who YOU are is exactly who you are supposed to be

Do no apologize for yourself
HE knows you
Don't rush the process
Rest in HIS goodness towards you

Philippians 4 is a lifesaver

 

[High Fidelity]

The only way to really move on from it is to start moving forward. You've identified two sources of dismay in your life and both are fixable. Neither fix is immediate, but there's certainly something to be taken from knowing you're at least on the right track and working towards satisfying both of those ends.

Perhaps speak to a careers advice service or a careers adviser at your local college/university. They may help you identify some areas you're interested in that you could pursue academically and/or professionally.

I say this from experience. Sitting around ruminating over how bad your situation is part of the process, but don't give it any more time than it deserves otherwise you'll do yourself more harm than good. Once you start doing, you'll start seeing the fruits of your labour and you'll start seeing the value in what you're doing and what it will afford you later down this path you're taking.

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

Why do we have to compare ourselves to everyone else and think that because everyone else is doing "A" or "B" and we're not, that something is wrong with us

How can we cone to know and accept ourselves and stop putting pressure on ourselves to be someone else

Thinking that who we are is not good enough

Be who YOU are
And trust that who YOU are is exactly who you are supposed to be

Do no apologize for yourself
HE knows you
Don't rush the process
Rest in HIS goodness towards you

Philippians 4 is a lifesaver

Yeah, I started making a list of things that make me anxious and trip my anxiety and having x,y&z at age x is mainly it .....if anything its one of my core negative beliefs.

I'm glad I'm such an introspective person because I can see,lfind and fix my root issues.

I am enough right now. With or with a degree or job( I'm still working towards those of course! But I don't put pressure and weight on outside things like that)

I want to like me for who I am now.

Learning how to redefine yourself helps. I like listening to Lizzie Velasquez helps alot.

 

[Solomons Porch]

Praying for you Farside
You are loved

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

Praying for you Farside
You are loved

I'm already doing the work and feel relieved now. I know ill have set backs but I'm gonna beat this thing

 

[miknik5]

Yeah, I started making a list of things that make me anxious and trip my anxiety and having x,y&z at age x is mainly it .....if anything its one of my core negative beliefs.

I'm glad I'm such an introspective person because I can see,lfind and fix my root issues.

I am enough right now. With or with a degree or job( I'm still working towards those of course! But I don't put pressure and weight on outside things like that)

I want to like me for who I am now.

Learning how to redefine yourself helps. I like listening to Lizzie Velasquez helps alot.

How about the Lord's Prayer daily?

HE said that in this world we would have trouble.
But daily bread (HIS GRACE daily) sufficient

How about asking HIM daily for HIS BREAD?

How about casting all your cares on HIM and resting in and trusting in HIM?

How about trusting that HE is at work

Another prayer that might help you if just to look at it and understand is the Serenity Prayer

There are things that are in our control and we are responsible to do and continue to do. Do those things

The things that are outside our control, leave to HIM trusting that HE is at work

We want to see immediate results
But don't give up praying and trusting in HIM that all things will work out for good

We sometimes do way too much
Instead of just giving out care to HIM and walking by faith

 

[Solomons Porch]

I'm already doing the work and feel relieved now. I know ill have set backs but I'm gonna beat this thing

ATTA GIRL

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

The only way to really move on from it is to start moving forward. You've identified two sources of dismay in your life and both are fixable. Neither fix is immediate, but there's certainly something to be taken from knowing you're at least on the right track and working towards satisfying both of those ends.

Perhaps speak to a careers advice service or a careers adviser at your local college/university. They may help you identify some areas you're interested in that you could pursue academically and/or professionally.

I say this from experience. Sitting around ruminating over how bad your situation is part of the process, but don't give it any more time than it deserves otherwise you'll do yourself more harm than good. Once you start doing, you'll start seeing the fruits of your labour and you'll start seeing the value in what you're doing and what it will afford you later down this path you're taking.

I'm doing that already. I know what career I want to head into, class starts tommorow for me.