I can't believe it.

[Gwen'sMom]

Well, I guess this is the day that our marriage is over.
We have been married since 2001. Everything seemed perfect. But things have changed so much with my husband that I just don't like him anymore. We have been down this road before but I want things over with. He is vindictive, always has to be right and is greedy.
We were involved in a very sinful activity which he loved to no extent. I pretty much went along with it just to keep things happy, but since we became parents I could no longer be involved with this activity. He is so angry about this. He is also angry about my love for Jesus which I have really been clinging to lately. He has called me a "church freak".
He has never been physically abusive but he uses his "moods" to be mean.
We won't ever have savings and due to his sales job, it's either feast or famine.
We just purchasd a home a couple of months ago too but it will be too expensive for me to handle on my own so we will be selling.
I just needed to write my story so I could see it and hopefully get some encouragement from others. I know Jesus will take care of us and I have to accept what he wants. I guess I'm looking for strength.
Thanks

 

[dayknee]

Im very sorry for what you are going through..The Lord is faithful though.

I am also glad that whatever sinful thing you two were doing together that you chose to stop..You and the wealfare of you child is so much more important..
I wish I could offer something more..but you seem to realize that you are in a tough situation and you seem to know what you need to do.
Divorce is just plain painful..it tears the family unit apart and it hurts..a huge reason
God hates it. I hope you find peace.

God Bless You

 

[HuntingMan]

Well, I guess this is the day that our marriage is over.
We have been married since 2001. Everything seemed perfect. But things have changed so much with my husband that I just don't like him anymore. We have been down this road before but I want things over with. He is vindictive, always has to be right and is greedy.
We were involved in a very sinful activity which he loved to no extent. I pretty much went along with it just to keep things happy, but since we became parents I could no longer be involved with this activity. He is so angry about this. He is also angry about my love for Jesus which I have really been clinging to lately. He has called me a "church freak".
He has never been physically abusive but he uses his "moods" to be mean.
We won't ever have savings and due to his sales job, it's either feast or famine.
We just purchasd a home a couple of months ago too but it will be too expensive for me to handle on my own so we will be selling.
I just needed to write my story so I could see it and hopefully get some encouragement from others. I know Jesus will take care of us and I have to accept what he wants. I guess I'm looking for strength.
Thanks

Sounds like my aunt years ago.
She became a believer and her husband then absolutely refused to have any part of it and was very nasty to her about church. He worked often enough that they had things sometimes and sometimes they were scrapping the barrel for anything they could get.
He was physically abusive tho and did cheat on her often, so I guess her case was more extreme, but they did finally divorce after he threatened to kill her if she didnt sign the divorce papers.

She remarried some time later to a man who is unbelievable and everyone just loves to death. The kind of guy who thinks about everyone above himself and gives till he is just unable to give anymore. He's very attentive to her and works hard to provide for her and is just the most wonderful person Ive ever met till I met my wife Laura.

No matter how bleak things look now sister, they always change. Keep your heart towards God and ask Him to help you as you wander down the paths you do and to give you peace in your heart about all the negative things that come about in life.
You may end up finding yourself in a situation where God brings someone into your life who gives you more love than you can handle in 10 lifetimes.
Of course, you may find that you are so in love with Him that no human husband will ever do again....we just never know.
But you can't go wrong with Jesus....He's the best husband ever

We'll be praying for you

 

[Gwen'sMom]

Yes, dayknee, I am so very happy and greatful that I no longer have to continue with this sinful ways just to keep the peace. I remember when this situation first came up a couple of years ago. I was at my wits end thinking that I could never live without him. I know that Jesus has opened my eyes and has shown me that I have the strength to get through it. I know some days will be dark and lonely but with my wonderful daughter and the Lord protecting me I will be just fine.

HuntingMan, thanks for the story, right now I couldn't imagine another relationship but who knows who will cross my path in the future. It's whatever God wants for me I have to accept. I love it! "Jesus, the best husband ever"!

Thanks

 

[captiveheart]

When I read the posts above, I just sensed the working of God. We never know what He has planned for us but we know that it follows down a path of fellowship with Him to true riches, peace and love so true we simply can't comprehend.

May God lead you and guide you into all that He has for you. I'm praying for you Gwen'sMom!

 

[Autumnleaf]

If you were married and things were going one way and then you became a Christian and things changed, I think your husband is justified in feeling cheated. It would be like if he came home one day and expected you to be okay wearing a burka because he decided to convert to Islam. Try to be understanding of his feelings.

 

[Tom & Kimberly]

My prayers are with you. Remember, God is in Control. Trust in the Lord with ALL your heart and lean not to your own understanding . . .

Tom

 

[Gwen'sMom]

If you were married and things were going one way and then you became a Christian and things changed, I think your husband is justified in feeling cheated. It would be like if he came home one day and expected you to be okay wearing a burka because he decided to convert to Islam. Try to be understanding of his feelings.

Ya, I don't know what to say.. but I can't deny my feelings.

 

[TexasSky]

I am sorry that things are happening this way.
Have you tried counseling?

As Autmnleaf pointed out, you've made changes in your marriage that your spouse seems to feel are caused by outside influences. I'm not saying they are, as I don't think of Christ as an "outsider", but non-believers will. A counselor might help you and your spouse understand the views of the other better.

If it is still obvious the marriage will not work, the counselor can help you both adjust to the separation with less hurt and less anger.

 

[SweetBella]

Well, I guess this is the day that our marriage is over.
We have been married since 2001. Everything seemed perfect. But things have changed so much with my husband that I just don't like him anymore. We have been down this road before but I want things over with. He is vindictive, always has to be right and is greedy.
We were involved in a very sinful activity which he loved to no extent. I pretty much went along with it just to keep things happy, but since we became parents I could no longer be involved with this activity. He is so angry about this. He is also angry about my love for Jesus which I have really been clinging to lately. He has called me a "church freak".
He has never been physically abusive but he uses his "moods" to be mean.
We won't ever have savings and due to his sales job, it's either feast or famine.
We just purchasd a home a couple of months ago too but it will be too expensive for me to handle on my own so we will be selling.
I just needed to write my story so I could see it and hopefully get some encouragement from others. I know Jesus will take care of us and I have to accept what he wants. I guess I'm looking for strength.
Thanks

im interested to know where you are now over a year later.. please give an update. thank you!