I am struggling

[Seeking the Truth]

I am young and still a virgin. I am struggling coz my hormone level might be high. I think about sex too much. I never had any kind of sex. I think sexual thoughts over my neighbor who is married I need help, dunno if you can help. Why do I do this? Is it normal?

 

[madison1101]

When you say young, you don't specify your age. That would help.

Fill your mind with scriptures. Get a hobby. Do volunteer work. Stay busy. Idle hands are the devil's workshop.

 

[Seeking the Truth]

I am under 21 years of age. Enough said no more questions asked. just kidding. I am relutanct to tell others my real age coz of past experiences on the net.

 

[Johnnz]

Hormones have started all this for you - quite natural and healthy.

Sure, people do have sexual feelings and thoughts. Many younger people have lots of them. What is important is to recognise that they are natural and God given, and have a large chemical component.

What you do have to guard against is allowing sexual thoughts and impulses to lead to inapproriate sexual behaviour, or to have too big an influence. The advice about having other interests is sound.

John
NZ

 

[ascribe2thelord]

I am young and still a virgin. I am struggling coz my hormone level might be high. I think about sex too much. I never had any kind of sex. I think sexual thoughts over my neighbor who is married. I need help, dunno if you can help. Why do I do this? Is it normal?

Quickly, find someone else to think sexual thoughts about!!! Then try to work on getting rid of those thoughts. It's normal, but being normal doesn't make you right.

 

[D-Lisch]

I guess I'm younger than you; but I hope my advice still helps. This is pretty normal. Most people do think about sex to some extent; however, there is a line to draw... I doubt that thinking about your married neighbor is good, and I doubt even more that fantasizing about anyone is a holy act... It's lustful and therefore sinful... Try not to think about it as much; pray; keep your mind off of sex; hoping this helps

-Derek

 

[Seeking the Truth]

Thank you Johnnz I wasn't sure if it was Godly to think about sex. I won't behavior in a sexual way towards anyone. Even though I have these thoughts I try to think about something else I thought it was a sin or lust to think this way. Thank you for your advice.

 

[I'ddie4him]

Hi seeking,
The thoughts you have and the things you feel are perfectly normal. I can say with all confidence that us guys go thru the same thing from the time we hit 12 or 13 til we eventually get married. It's a tough road and it can be really hard to abstain, But, You can do it with prayer and a good friend that is willing to listen when you feel weak.

 

[LilRitt04]

I am 18, and I struggle with the same thing and it is normal. Everyone married or not married go through raging hormones. I go through them more so because I have had sexual relations and its so hard trying to abstain from them. The best thing I can tell you is stay strong, dont give into temptation, as soon as you give in, the evil circle starts and it is a whirlwind of emotions and pain, and hurt that you cant even begin to describe. Wait until you are married...it will be so much more enjoyable. Best of Luck

~*JeNn*~

 

[Seeking the Truth]

Quickly, find someone else to think sexual thoughts about!!! Then try to work on getting rid of those thoughts. It's normal, but being normal doesn't make you right.

I am confused Do you mean that I am suppose to get my mind of the married person and think about someone else? That is hard because I don't like anyone else. I think alot of people of the opposite sex are good looking but I don't those thoughts toward them.

 

[Glorianna]

I am young and still a virgin. I am struggling coz my hormone level might be high. I think about sex too much. I never had any kind of sex. I think sexual thoughts over my neighbor who is married I need help, dunno if you can help. Why do I do this? Is it normal?

Yeah, I find myself having problems with this at times too. Especially now that I'm engaged and will hopefully be getting married in October (as long as my fiance visa goes through). But you know what? It's normal. God gave us our sex drives. But just be careful what you do with how you feel. Don't use the sex drive God has blessed you with to sin. I'll be praying for you.

 

[Seeking the Truth]

Thank you everyone. When I get those thoughts, I sing unto the Lord. I defeat it by singing and rebuking such sinful thinking. As for my neighbor, I don't see my neighbor in that way. I know it is wrong so I've refrained myself from seeing my neighbor.

 

[TruthSetsYouFree]

Hi there!

I just thought I would say that the enemy wants to tempt you to think about things you shouldn't. Having a bad thought "enter" your mind is not a sin (it's called temptation - the enemy puts stuff into our minds to tempt us to sin), but to welcome it into your mind and dwell upon it is a sin. Lust is a sin (Matthew 5:28). If the enemy puts a bad thought into your mind, simply reject it and find something else to think about (Philippians 4:8)! James 4:7 says to, "Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you." Be sure to be spending time with God each day, and then just resist the devil and he will flee from you! It's a two-way thing, draw near to God, and resist the enemy.

If you seem to experience compulsive bad thoughts (they just don't stop coming, and you can't seem to get rid of them... they are too strong and won't leave you alone), then I would look a little deeper. It could be an iniquity (a weakness) that was passed down from your ancestors, if they had a problem in this area too. Iniquities can be broken though! If you think this is the case, please let me know by posting a message here within a couple days so I can give you a better understanding of how this works.

In Christ,
Bobby

 

[Glorianna]

Thanks for sharing TruthSetsYouFree.

 

[Seeking the Truth]

Hi there!

I just thought I would say that the enemy wants to tempt you to think about things you shouldn't. Having a bad thought "enter" your mind is not a sin (it's called temptation - the enemy puts stuff into our minds to tempt us to sin), but to welcome it into your mind and dwell upon it is a sin. Lust is a sin (Matthew 5:28). If the enemy puts a bad thought into your mind, simply reject it and find something else to think about (Philippians 4:8)! James 4:7 says to, "Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you." Be sure to be spending time with God each day, and then just resist the devil and he will flee from you! It's a two-way thing, draw near to God, and resist the enemy.

If you seem to experience compulsive bad thoughts (they just don't stop coming, and you can't seem to get rid of them... they are too strong and won't leave you alone), then I would look a little deeper. It could be an iniquity (a weakness) that was passed down from your ancestors, if they had a problem in this area too. Iniquities can be broken though! If you think this is the case, please let me know by posting a message here within a couple days so I can give you a better understanding of how this works.

In Christ,
Bobby

Thank you. I am weak and I need guidance and counseling. I feel too embarrassed to admit that I am a sinner. I need help I sent you a pm. I dont know what to do anymore.

 

[Colossians3]

For anyone, especially someone who is stuggling with lust, you must read Not Even a Hint by Joshua Harris. You can find it at nearly any Christian bookstore, plus eBay and other websites. The cover looks like my avatar. I think this book would be perfect for you, bro. It defines what is and is not sinful, so you don't have to always feel guilty. Also, it offers help with how to avoid lust and sinful desires. It's truly an awe-inspiring book, and I recommend it to everybody, struggling or not. If you'd like to read it, bud, just let me know and I'll help you locate a copy of it.

Also, if you'd simply like to talk to me about it, feel free to PM me. I also have MSN Messenger, Yahoo Messenger, and AIM, if you'd rather talk on one of those. I know exactly what you're going through, though, and I would really like to help. I really hate lust, because I love purity. If I could, I would - in an instant - eliminate lust from the world forever. Since I cannot, however, telling people about this book is the best I can do.

 

[Colossians3]

Noooo! I just made a long post, but it didn't show up!

Long story short:

1) Read Not Even a Hint by Joshua Harris.
2) PM me if you'd like to talk about it. I also have AIM, Yahoo, and MSN Messengers. I'd really like to help you, Mark.