i am struggling with taking care of my mother

[Ritz]

I think having your local church prayer group in ones corner is a plus.I called them this week myself as my son has been home sick for days.When he's unable to attend special education classes;then my life comes to a halt too.respite care workers in this area are not properly screened so we parents have found out.Until that changes and things are proven to be secure-respite is out of the question.

 

[prvnfaith]

my prayer for you is that the Holy Spirit will provide you with the will strength wisdom and understanding to do this for the woman who brought you into this world. May the Grace of God be upon you now and in the near future. God Bless Shel

 

[If Not For Grace]

If she hadn't become burdensome, no one would still be calling on my assist. So, what is frustrating me is the sudden need of me. No one changed when I was in need of them. I was okay with that. It was just a habit not to lean on them. But, the reverse is suddenly my fault. I find this all so odd.

I find your honesty so refreshing. (Both my parents are elderly and I am an only child--My Mom is VERY easy to Love and my Dad is much harder) Sometimes I too have a full plate w/this type situation.

Everybody says forgive and we already know what we "should" do.. That is so easy when you had good loving families or you were not the one "neglected" for lack of a better term. I believe your assessment of the situation is very accurate and you obviously have come a long way in your healing process. I sense NO bitterness in you at all and thru all this you mention your love and appreciation of your family. We all don't get good parents, siblings and as you say, it is what it is.

It sound like those calling on you for all this support are just overwhelmed and are perhaps placing unreasonable expectations on you due to their on frustration. I know it sounds trite but forgive them FOR THEY KNOW NOT WHAT THEY DO. Pray for them that they may gain the same strength you demonstrate, thru a smoother path than the one you had.

Take care of yourself is good advice. But I assure you that for every kindness you show your parent(s) during this time--- in spite of how they treated you will cause you NO REGRETS. If possible suffer a little inconvenience and judgement you can explain your feelings (IF you feel a need to) later to those calling on you, perhaps then they may be capable of understanding.

My prayers for you and all these others at this difficult time.

 

[mare61]

I know the challange of taking care of a bedridden family member personally. For over a year, my sons and I changed bedpans, then diapers, bathed, and feed our loved one. Now that God has taken him home, we look back and wonder how in the world we got through it. But, truely, we know. It was NOT in our own strength, we would never have been able to stand on our own. God must have had His hand on us, lifted us up when we felt that we couldn't take another step. My prayer for you is that God will reveal to you His perfect plan for you and your patient and give you His perfect peace. Blessings, Mare

 

[mom_one]

I spent several yrs taking care of elderly people & both my parents too ,my father became ill & I lived away & came back to help mother care for him,then after my father passed away I took care of my mother for about 12 yrs, there were times when it was hard ,it was tiring at times but I don't regret anything I did to help ,my mother was in & out of the hospital a lot,my biggest problem was worrying & not getting enough rest,but I started resting whenever I could but at the time I was worried about mothers health ,not mine, my mother passed away 5 yrs ago I misss her so much & wish she were still here but I'm sure she is much happier where she is with the Lord. I loved both my parents & miss them both so much but one day I will see them again.

 

[ReenieK]

i am currently taking care of my mother who is terminally ill.it is an everyday job.is there anybody out there who can give me some advice?it would be greatly appreciated.

Are you caring for her in her home or yours? I did it in my home for almost 7 yrs. My mum got a UTI and was in the hospital, now in rehab, and I've told her I may not be able to take her back home, due to my own health...she's very sad and so am I.

 

[marie777]

I feel for all of you. I take care of my adult daughter. She has a mental problem and there are many times that I feel so alone. At the same time so blessed. I have devoted my life to caring for her as long as I am able.

If anyone would like to talk....I'm here. If they want to contact me sooner, my email can be recieved by sending me a private message.

God is our strength, and He oftens uses us to help one another. God bless, Marie

 

[BibleSender]

My prayers are with you taking care of your Mother. My Mother passed away this past March.

The Lord made it possible for me to spend almost 2 years taking care of her which was nothing compared to what she has done for me.

I Thank God for the time I was able to spend with her and for all the great memories.

God bless you!

P.S. There was one time I was really feeling depressed and I was praying and I told God it seemed like everyone had desserted me and that he was the only one that I had left and the Lord said to me "If you really believe that you have me what more do you need"? Thank God for the Holy Spirit!

 

[smiledaily]

I took care of my late husband, he had cancer, until his passing, now God is taking care of him. Praying for you all. God bless you.