I don't think anyone wants them dead and gone, but a personal choice whether to read and believe her writings or not. You should not have your entire faith in a church questioned because you do not agree that someone does not deserve the title of prophet. Saul gave prophecies, however, we would not consider him a prophet. I do not believe that she was a prophet, however, that should not preclude me from being a SDA or looked down upon as not having the full truth.
I do not believe this issue will be addressed at judgement.
There will be no quizes on her writings, thoughts, or questions about if I lived my life by her commentary. There are so many things for us as SDA to be focusing on other than this mortal woman. Whether you see here as a prophet, bible commentator, or completely ignore her is not a issue that will separate you from God or affect your salvation.