He is from German ancestry - Jewish and I am Catholic with Latin ancestry. We have been married for seven years and even though since we started dating I knew he was a colder person than I am, we fell in love and got married.
Recently he decided to start his own company, I am a SAHM, and he is working about 10 hours a day, most of the day from home. He is always on his computer, since 8am as soon as he wakes up, and to 11pm when he goes to sleep. I try to get a positive outlook and think that he is here, working hard and not sitting in a bar drinking beer. But lately a problem has been on the rise, he only talks about his business and his company, and most the time when I try to talk to him he tells me: shhh, I am busy, get out of my room, shut up, keep quiet, I want silence, etc. No matter if it is business hours, Saturday or Sunday while we are with the kids at the park, sometimes he talks but it is mostly just on Saturdays. It hurts me a lot, and I have told him, but he says he is just a cold German man and I can not change who he is.
I do not know what to do. He wont pay for marriage counseling and I am 100% financially dependent on him. I do not think this is a reason for divorce, but I also do not want to spend my life living with a person that does not talk to me.
Recently he decided to start his own company, I am a SAHM, and he is working about 10 hours a day, most of the day from home. He is always on his computer, since 8am as soon as he wakes up, and to 11pm when he goes to sleep. I try to get a positive outlook and think that he is here, working hard and not sitting in a bar drinking beer. But lately a problem has been on the rise, he only talks about his business and his company, and most the time when I try to talk to him he tells me: shhh, I am busy, get out of my room, shut up, keep quiet, I want silence, etc. No matter if it is business hours, Saturday or Sunday while we are with the kids at the park, sometimes he talks but it is mostly just on Saturdays. It hurts me a lot, and I have told him, but he says he is just a cold German man and I can not change who he is.
I do not know what to do. He wont pay for marriage counseling and I am 100% financially dependent on him. I do not think this is a reason for divorce, but I also do not want to spend my life living with a person that does not talk to me.