Lately I have been hurt by my wife. She cheated on me a little over a month ago while I was away from home. I am in the military and stationed over seas. I sent her home 2 days ago and every day that goes by gets harder and harder without her. She still emails me telling me how much she cares about me, but she needed to go back to the states to get her head right. I read the bible alot and I know that I would like to move on, but I feel like im hanging on to something that isnt there. I hurt all over and im struggling just to keep my head right. I keep thinking to myself I will never find a woman that will love me for who I am and I will never be happy and I feel like that is maybe why im holding on. I dont know what to do, and every day is a challenge to me. I cant help but keep checking my email to see if she has sent me anything. I have a couple of friends here, but none really close to me. I joined this forum to meet some good people with good advise. I am in the mindset of a single person again, I just have problems pushing forward. Thank you for taking the time to read this.
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I wish I could say something that would take the pain away, but I don't know any such words. One thing I do know is that you shouldn't let her actions and choices change how you see your future. She chose to cheat on you, you didn't drive her to it, and there are plenty of women around who don't cheat. I do hope you manage to patch things up, but only you and her, and God of course, know if that is possible. Hang in there, and don't lose faith.
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I agree with you on that note. You really cant come up with anything that will, or can make it better. I have these feelings inside that I have never felt before.... Ive been betrayed, and I feel like i wasnt good enough for her. That feeling, no matter what anyone else tells me, will not go away.
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Don't think there is a pain quite so exquisite as that of being cheated on. The first time it happened to me sent me on a 2 year long drinking binge which i barely escaped with my life. Don't take that road. It doesn't help. It just prolongs the agony.
Ultimately I only was able to get past it by looking at myself and where I could have done better. Then I needed to forgive her and actually approached her in person made an amend with her for the things I had done. From that day on I never again had a problem with it.
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Brother,
My wife cheated on and left me after 10 years of marriage. It ripped my heart out and I was angry at God. She also took my 4 year old daughter and moved in with her boyfriend. There was nothing anyone could say to help me. I found the only thing that helped was time and prayer. I felt so worthless as a man and father. It was a year of pain and doubt. My pastor told me that only time could heal the pain and it took about a year. Just take it one day at a time and hang tough.
My wife cheated on and left me after 10 years of marriage. It ripped my heart out and I was angry at God. She also took my 4 year old daughter and moved in with her boyfriend. There was nothing anyone could say to help me. I found the only thing that helped was time and prayer. I felt so worthless as a man and father. It was a year of pain and doubt. My pastor told me that only time could heal the pain and it took about a year. Just take it one day at a time and hang tough.
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I know your pain all too well. It is hard because I know what is going through your mind as it goes through my mind everyday. But have faith because God will have to break you before he can build you stronger. If you feel your faith is being tested, take pride in knowing that our Lord and Savior is the only one that can hold you up and empower you in this time of struggle. Hold on bro to Christ because he promises better things for you.
You were meant to see these events unfold before you because your faith to Christ has opened your eyes to it. If you ever need to chat at all you can PM me and I will give you my MSN screen name.
God Bless,
-Ed
You were meant to see these events unfold before you because your faith to Christ has opened your eyes to it. If you ever need to chat at all you can PM me and I will give you my MSN screen name.
God Bless,
-Ed
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My mom cheated on my dad and my ex-step-dad... so I've seen it from a different veiw point...I watched both my dad and my ex step-dad recover from it by time. My dad actually became a better man afterwards he learned to love those he cared about more and he stopped drinking. My ex-stepdad I don't hear from much because he is now doing what he loves to do and thats drive an 18-wheeler all over the country.
I know your hurting badly. I know it feels like you've been ripped into pieces but just give it time... over time you'll heal. Seek God... he's the only one who can help you.
Sarah
I know your hurting badly. I know it feels like you've been ripped into pieces but just give it time... over time you'll heal. Seek God... he's the only one who can help you.
Sarah
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I agree with what has been said. Go to God about it. Stay in prayer. Start reading and meditating on the Scripture. I know you don't feel like it.. but force yourself to spend time in Scripture. Scripture wll renew your mind and give your strength and new perspective.
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She broke your marriage - Do Not let her poison your relationship with God! Our Father is the only one who can lead us through troubles. I SO agree with reading scripture! God has given us guidance for all things - pray that He leads you to the passages that help you heal and grow in Christ. God Bless You!
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