Hugging

[Luther073082]

I'm a huge hugger! I love to hug just about everyone and the only reason I hold back is cause it scares some people. I am afraid sometimes that people see me as too "touchy feely". Probably because I belive placing your arm around someone's shoulders is a good way to say "Nice to meet you."

Like with dancing because almost no one there has any sort of real personal space I just almost always hug about every girl I dance with after we are done. Its like I'll give her a hug and we thank eachother for the dance and as I walk her off the floor I'm like "Oh yeah what was your name" . . . The funny thing is though I'm not the only one as she often doesn't know mine either.

Dancing with someone is a great way to form a bond between you. And often your bonds with your friends are strengthened by dancing. In fact if I see old dancing friends, we usually make it a point if appropriate to dance at least once to re-new the bond.

I do not belive that my bond with my dance partner would be nearly the same if we where just friends and not partners as well.

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

these poll results bum me out.

Cause I want to hug everyone, and based on the sample data, they don't want to be hugged.

wow.

just wow.

not sure how I'm going to be able to get out of bed tomorrow morning.

 

[ido]

these poll results bum me out.

Cause I want to hug everyone, and based on the sample data, they don't want to be hugged.

wow.

just wow.

not sure how I'm going to be able to get out of bed tomorrow morning.

Awwww....



How's that work for ya?

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

Awwww....



How's that work for ya?

better!



now to findthe three chicks that voted for hug everyone!

/giggidy giggidy giggidy.

 

[emmanemena]

I do not initiate a hug with anyone (my family aren't big huggers) but will my SO. I will return a hug, reasonably happily, from anyone though. I even prefer a peck on the cheek to a hug, I guess its because the person touches you less.

 

[This_Beautiful_Grace]

I like hugs. These days I mostly only hug close family and friends. I still like hugging others though, and have even enjoyed hugging strangers in the past too, hehe. With reason, I've cut down on how much I hug guys though to be honest. I'll hug the closer friends when greeting them/seeing them off, but otherwise I tend not to give too many other hugs away to guys these days.

I love those incredibly friendly and nice people that hug you goodbye even when they've only just met you for the first time.

 

[Keri]

better!



now to findthe three chicks that voted for hug everyone!

/giggidy giggidy giggidy.

Ok Quagmire.

 

[Apollo Celestio]

I never initiate them, well, maybe with the Girlfriend. I voted none.

 

[HotToast]

WOW, I set up the poll and come back after 24 hours with all these replies. It's great. Thank you everyone for replying, sorry if I don't personally respond to your post.

WOW I am actually really suprised by the results. I thought that there would be more girls who like to hug everyone, and more guys who wouldn't want to hug anyone. It just goes to show you how wrong stereotypes are!

I hug my family and very rarely a close friend, if I haven't seen them in a while or they go for the hug first then I will but I don't normally initiate it. I'm leaning more towards I would only hug my significant other, plus my family.

I guess that is pretty much how I am, and that's why I voted for that one. I don't actually hug my friends all that often, but my family all the time.

They can also make you feel uncomfortable

Although, I've never known a guy to turn down a hug from an attractive lady
unless his wife/GF was standing right next to him

*lol*

I tend to avoid it whenever possible, although I put up with it when my close family does it. I naturally flinch away when someone hugs me, which puts us both in a kind of awkward situation.

Of course, this mentality tends to leave me starved for human contact, but it's not on my top list of things to get over.

I tend to flinch too when people I don't know very well hug me. When I started my new job the people I worked with noticed this when one of them went to hug me so they were like, okay we won't hug you.

Where is the "Everyone if drunk" option and the "close freinds/family (not all family)" option?

JM

To the first half of the question; because I think that most people on this forum aren't big drinkers and would perhaps find that option to be a bit illfitting for CF. To the second half of you question; there is it says close friends and family. It doesn't say all family. Or perhaps my grammar is really bad, but I meant close family.

No option for hugging trees?

Coach

Well actually I thought about, but I thought that I would keep my poll light and fluffy, yet serious as opposed to my normal witty comments

 

[rifle5k]

rifle5k, if I remember right your not in a country that's very huggy. It's kind of wierd, I've done it with those I was close to saying goodbye to them, otherwise bows were most preferred or handshakes.

Yeah I've never hugged Japanese person before...hmm thats be my goal.

 

[Laurie919]

I have to wonder if you are that way about hugs how “cold” are you going to be about other things?

 

[Luther073082]

Too many people with too much personal space. . .

Don't ever go to the Chapel of the ressurection for Wednesday or Sunday evening services if you don't like hugging everyone. You have been warned!



Come-on give me a hug and share God's amazing love!

 

[sampa]

these poll results bum me out.
Cause I want to hug everyone, and based on the sample data, they don't want to be hugged.
..........

SpicyMcHaggis, Remember CF isn't the majority. If you look back at the briggs survey, most people turn out to be introverted that post here. NOt saying there's a connection totally, but it's a possibility. Usually like people attract like people.
If you wanna hug, go ahead, but don't squeeze too tight. I might break

Yeah I've never hugged Japanese person before...hmm thats be my goal.

rifle5k, good luck, tell me how it goes when you do. I think a homestay family might be a good opportunity. Girls might also, don't think you'll ever get it out of a guy unless he's christian.

I have to wonder if you are that way about hugs how “cold” are you going to be about other things?

Laurie, I'm not sure it's cold, just different people have different ways of expressing affection. Sometimes it's family upbringing and hard to open those personal boundary spaces when your used to a certain way.

And if your thinking about relationships, it's possible the river may run deeper than you think in their heart but they have trouble expressing it. But yeah, human touch is something that is most likely needed by all, I think they've done studies on babies that prooved this.

 

[HotToast]

I have to wonder if you are that way about hugs how “cold” are you going to be about other things?

I'm not quite sure how to respond to this. While I don't normally mind if my threads get hijacked, do you think that you could start another thread, if you don't wish to show respect to people who don't like hugging? Although I did notice that you already posted exactly the same thing in Gardener's thread. I think perhaps Sampa adressed your post much better than I can:

Laurie, I'm not sure it's cold, just different people have different ways of expressing affection. Sometimes it's family upbringing and hard to open those personal boundary spaces when your used to a certain way.

And if your thinking about relationships, it's possible the river may run deeper than you think in their heart but they have trouble expressing it. But yeah, human touch is something that is most likely needed by all, I think they've done studies on babies that prooved this.

 

[yourinnervoice]

 

[HotToast]

The look on that guy's face made me laugh...*lol*

 

[Luther073082]

Group Hug!

 

[sampa]

haha I'm cracking up.

 

[BeautifulChange]

hugging is the standardgreeting for my friends and family along with a kiss on the cheek.

 

[JonMiller]

I have to wonder if you are that way about hugs how “cold” are you going to be about other things?

Some of us have low experience, I know that was the case with me. And is the case as far as with girls I like (versus a quick hug of a freind).

I can understand being less interested in people of low experience, but you shouldn't really judge them to be cold.

JM