How would you feel

[BjBarnett]

thank you all for your replys keep them coming if you got any additional things you would like to add

 

[aReformedPatriot]

The man is suppose to be the spiritual leader of the home. If the husband and wife have different faiths where the doctrine is really different as in Catholic/Baptist how is the husband going to help her grow in her faith and beliefs? IMO a husband and wife should be of the same faith/doctrinal beliefs. Marriage can be hard enough without having "bigger issues" to constantly deal with.

Thats a very good point.

 

[Gwenyfur]

I think we as Christians can be glad that Karma is a horse hockey belief otherwise some of us would be getting our butts handed to us by our kids someday...LOL

I agree in a perfect world a kid would listen to the parent. And in some cases it does happen that a kid will listen to their parent. These kids usually get their lunch money stolen and are candidates for super wedgies, but they are around

God has blessed me with one such daughter. She's 16 and respectful, obedient and has her feet firmly grounded in her faith.
She's rarely picked on at school. Yes, she's a band geek, and tall and thin...but she's a beauty...and it's a beauty that radiates from way deeper than the looks God blessed her with.

And yes, when she's otu with her friends she takes her Bible with her. (She agrees that any temptation she faces is easier to face with Matthew Mark Luke and John with her )

 

[Gold Dragon]

I think it is important that the husband and wife share similar doctrinal views and it sounds like they do in this situation since the wife appears to be on the road to becoming Catholic.

If the parents are very conservative Baptists, they won't like it, but hopefully they'll see that it is more important for the new family to be on the same page than it is for them to be on the same page as their daughter. "Leave and cleave".

My parents would have been upset if I married a Catholic. I wouldn't be as concerned if my children did. Although I am not very representative of Baptists.

 

[aReformedPatriot]

Although I am not very representative of Baptists.

I would have never guessed had you not just said that

How are you today GD?

 

[Gold Dragon]

I would have never guessed had you not just said that

How are you today GD?

Doing well, thanks.

I should add that my wife would probably have some problems with our kids marrying Catholics. That would be an interesting hypothetical discussion for us to have.

 

[BjBarnett]

maybe you could have her post her thoughts on here Gold Dragon

 

[aReformedPatriot]

maybe you could have her post her thoughts on here Gold Dragon

So Crystal is on CF I gather? What is her CF name?

 

[BjBarnett]

So Crystal is on CF I gather? What is her CF name?

her CF name is crystalbrooke.

 

[Lutherrunner]

thank you all for your replys keep them coming if you got any additional things you would like to add

you could just both be Lutherans........

 

[BjBarnett]

you could just both be Lutherans........

haha I once heard someone jokingly say if a Catholic and a Baptist were combined you would get a Luthern lol... so maybe our kids will be Luthern

 

[aReformedPatriot]

haha I once heard someone jokingly say if a Catholic and a Baptist were combined you would get a Luthern lol... so maybe our kids will be Luthern

ya know.... in strange way, this makes perfect sense

 

[CrystalBrooke]

well its nice to see that some of you would let you're children marry a Catholic. Him being Catholic isnt what bothers my mom and step-dad, its the children they're worried about. Mom has told me point blank ''you're not raising my grandkids Catholic''...and of course im sitting there thinking...hmmm..not your kids..not your deciscion...of course im scared to death of my mom so i didnt say it like that...i just told her that they were my kids and left it at that lol but i wonder, why would you bother telling your kids that they CAN NOT marry a Catholic, or CAN NOT raise your grandkids Catholic..bc you do realize that when they get of age (18), and move out, you cant do anything about it. and i read an earlier post that seems to imply that Ben is why im converting...i assure you all that is not the case...infact, ive argued with him about Catholicism til i learned about it, and i felt that it was the right place for me...Ben did not influence me.

 

[FaithWeaver]

In my personal opinion I would have had a hard time marrying into a different faith or religion. That is just how I was raised. You know, a house divided can not stand and all that stuff. It may or may not cause a problem in the future, especially if any children are involved.

If God put the two of you together, then it WILL work. You need to seek God's will and make sure that the marrige is of him.

I'm sure that you are a wonderful guy. If you love her and she is okay with it, then don't worry about what any of her family or anyone else thinks. It only takes 3 to make a marriage work; man, woman, and God.

God Bless you Guys

 

[ZiSunka]

well its nice to see that some of you would let you're children marry a Catholic. Him being Catholic isnt what bothers my mom and step-dad, its the children they're worried about. Mom has told me point blank ''you're not raising my grandkids Catholic''...and of course im sitting there thinking...hmmm..not your kids..not your deciscion...of course im scared to death of my mom so i didnt say it like that...i just told her that they were my kids and left it at that lol but i wonder, why would you bother telling your kids that they CAN NOT marry a Catholic, or CAN NOT raise your grandkids Catholic..bc you do realize that when they get of age (18), and move out, you cant do anything about it. and i read an earlier post that seems to imply that Ben is why im converting...i assure you all that is not the case...infact, ive argued with him about Catholicism til i learned about it, and i felt that it was the right place for me...Ben did not influence me.

Wait a minute! Sweetie! You are 16 years old. You should still be obeying your parents and you are in no way ready to convert to another religion so you can get married! I can't blame your parents for being alarmed about the whole situation! My heart sank when I saw your age, because you have a lot of life to be living before you are ready for marriage. If my 16 year old daughter was dating a 19 year old, I would have problems with it, too, and if my 16 year old was planning a wedding, I would put an end to the relationship immediately.

I think if your parents are only concerned with you converting to a different religion and not that you are 16 and getting married, they may not be coming down on you hard enough.

I just can't believe it. 16 is way too young to even be thinking about getting married, let alone joining her boyfriend's church so she can marry him!

 

[GreenEyedLady]

Ben is why im converting...i assure you all that is not the case...infact, ive argued with him about Catholicism til i learned about it, and i felt that it was the right place for me...Ben did not influence me.

This is very very hard to believe!
Stick with your parents honey. They know you much better than you know yourself.
GEL

 

[Gold Dragon]

I gotta agree with lambslove. I'm more concerned about your ages than I am about the difference in Christian tradition. Wow, that is a lot to think about at 16. If you are really going through with this, I think family support is something you guys will really need.

 

[Gwenyfur]

I have a 16 year old daughter. No matter what the guy's religion, there's *no* way I would even permit him to come into my home or near my daughter again if he proposed marriage. It's completely irresponsible in disrespectful to propose something as life altering, and such a life long covenant with God especially when it's children of your age. I haven't a clue what either of your parents are thinking to allow such conversations and plans.

 

[BjBarnett]

I gotta agree with lambslove. I'm more concerned about your ages than I am about the difference in Christian tradition. Wow, that is a lot to think about at 16. If you are really going through with this, I think family support is something you guys will really need.

haha we will probably get married when crystal is about 18 or so. in our culture and area it is not uncommon for people to marry when one of them is still in high school. but we likly wont do that. so the age thing isnt really that big of a deal to either of our parents.

You should still be obeying your parents and you are in no way ready to convert to another religion so you can get married!

shes not converting so she can get married. shes converting because she feels its right to be Catholic.

 

[ZiSunka]

shes not converting so she can get married. shes converting because she feels its right to be Catholic.

She might be telling you that, but I don't believe a word of it. She's converting because she is in love with you and you won't marry her unless she converts. It happens ALLLLLLL the time with young women, they'll do anything, say anything to keep the man they love.