How/when do u "get over it"?

[ChristInAction]

does anyone have some hints or ways to 'get over it'?
Im just so tired of the pain and everything, i just wanna forget about it.
please help.. if anyone can?

 

[Criada]

I don't think you ever 'get over it', sweetie.... but you can work through it, and it does become easier... less enormous... with the passage of time.

Talking to someone who understands really helps... I don't know your situation, but if you can talk to a councillor, it can help you to find ways of moving forward.
If you need a listening ear, PM me.... but try to talk to someone in 'real life' if you can.

 

[Johnnz]

You work through issues rather than 'get over it'. That is a process in which wise counsel can be really helpful. There are no one shop, quick fix remedies for abuse.

John
NZ

 

[sethad]

does anyone have some hints or ways to 'get over it'?
Im just so tired of the pain and everything, i just wanna forget about it.
please help.. if anyone can?

I don't think you do just "get over it". It happened, it doesn't just disappear. You deal with it, live with it, and life goes on.

That may sound kind of depressing, but you need to master what happened to you instead of repressing it.

 

[Bamboo_Chicken]

Like the others have said Ally...it's not something you can get over just like that . Does anyone else know and believe what happened to you Hun?

~ Steffi

 

[ChristInAction]

Like the others have said Ally...it's not something you can get over just like that . Does anyone else know and believe what happened to you Hun?

~ Steffi

i wish i could.
a girl a use to be close to knows..
dont really talk to her anymore

 

[Criada]

Is there anyone else you can talk to, sweetie? It really does help.

 

[ChristInAction]

Is there anyone else you can talk to, sweetie? It really does help.

no, not really.
i dont like to talk about it anyway.

 

[Johnnz]

You won't want to talk about something so horrible. But, with the right person it can be very helpful. The anonymity of using a PM with someone has helped many get started. Why not try that with someone who has offered?

John
NZ

 

[Criada]

Of course you don't, sweetie... It's horrible and painful and makes you feel awful.
But if you can bring yourself to talk, it does, somehow, make it smaller.... more copable-with... maybe not straight away, but eventually.
But no-one is going to make you do anything you aren't comfortable with.
We're her for you if you need someone,k?
And praying for you..... sometimes shouting at God helps, you know... and He's big enough to take it.

 

[kmesp86]

I was abused as a child and Jesus set me free from the pain, the horrible memories, the trauma, EVERYTHING. You have to cast everything on the Lord. EVERY LAST THING. You have to cast it off. If it takes the Holy Spirit coming in and prying it off of you with a spiritual crowbar you, then so be it.

It displeases God for us to be living defeat lives, harboring and giving provision to pain and depression. He wants us to be living the life of victory. He will take that pain away from you and destroy it. He will cast all memories into a sea of forgetfulness. But you have to claim that victory that he has already won for you. You have to have faith that He would do what He said. He uses our confession. I wish you all the best in your recovery.

Always remember that God is forever faithful, will never forsake you, and that nothing is impossible for Him or for those that believe.

 

[ForAMomentIWillFly]

(hug) I am so sorry you have endured such trauma.

Repression works for only so long, and while the momentary relief may seem just that, relief, the repercussion of repressing such tremendous emotional agony WILL come back with a bite. Confide in those you trust, hold close to God, and pray that He will heal you. After many years of praying, I am still waiting for God to heal me, but I hope everyday that one day, it will come.

 

[Vradan]

Call your clinic, or your health care provider. Say you would like to see a mental health specialist. Make an appointment. That is the first step. You don't have to tell themwhat the appointment is for. Once you go to your appointment, everything takes off from there.

 

[Ariel]

does anyone have some hints or ways to 'get over it'?
Im just so tired of the pain and everything, i just wanna forget about it.
please help.. if anyone can?

CIA

No, you never get over it, but you can heal so that it no longer hurts so much. You can come to a point where although you still remember everything that happened, it no longer effects you so much emotionally. You don't panic or feel fear anymore--maybe just a deep sadness, but even that is no longer prominent.

I discovered for myself that dragons SHRINK when you face them. When you pull the ugly things that happened out of the closet and face them, they become less powerful. Especially if you have someone's help, it is possible to look at things for what they are, and put the labels on them that they deserve--and yes, even to get angry at what happened, and then, finally to forgive, give it to God and let it go.

The Lord is our healer. He is so good. He loves you so much, He will help you.

A good first step is to find someone safe you can talk to. By safe I mean someone who will not betray your confidence, and also who is mature enough to offer you some guidance. Such counselors are jewels, they can really help.

I am praying for you.

 

[JudyB1169]

You never get over it. The scars are there. But, you know what? The scars are a wonderful reminder that you are a SURVIVOR and you can move ahead with your life with God's help. And,yes, it is EXTREMELY painful to talk about for so many reasons. Somehow saying the words out loud makes it seem so real. But, even if I never speak of it, it's there and it is real. So, talk to God and He will show you the path to healing. I have only shared details with one person. Speaking with someone who went through it, is usually the best option, if at all possible. They understand like no one(except God) can!

 

[jeffyd1994]

The closest I've come is knowing that no one can be trusted but God. No human at least, to me.

 

[Carolyn H]

Jeffy D,
I have mistrusted people...and it is exhausting. It is frightening to trust...isn't it? Wounded people act that way... we have been hurt really bad and we don't want to open ourselves to that kind of hurt again.

I think I am learning to cautiously trust again. God is a God of relationships, and he made us with the same needs. We need to have relationships with others.

I will be praying for you! God has it all in His hands. I have found that prayer helps a lot!

 

[Ariel]

It is possible to trust again. I have done it. But there is also the other thing God asked me to do: build walls.

The Lord showed me my heart once, it was like a city broken down and without walls. No wonder it had been so easy for people to abuse me. He showed me that I needed to cut contact with the abusers who were still sending incoming materiel my way. I needed a period of time to be built up and regain confidence. Then, when my walls were built I once again interacted with those people. But it was different. I have never allowed them inside my walls again--I've allowed others, but not them.

Trust is possible, but discernment is necessary, and so are walls.

 

[notofthisworld033]

I know you posted your question back in May, but I am curious as to how far you have came, or haven't came, since then? I am still searching for the answer to that same question as you...