no, not my opinions but info from parenting experts, adoption experts, trauma experts, a well know parenting expert that came to our church as well as Christian speakers who work with children daily
not my opinions but facts and info learned from experts
don't just listen but take notes and use info learned
if I just valued my own opinion, wouldn't have done all the workshops and programs
if you want to risk inflicting emotional and physical stress and break bonds between your children and you then spank away and ignore all the positive discipline methods out there that actually work
I read the article. I wrote a long review on the first article you gave me and read the other one you gave. But my guess is you haven't read on the articles that show that much of the research that article you gave is questionable. Two of the articles I gave show that the data that the anti-spanking crowd uses is very questionable.my guess is you didn't watch the video on the Case Against Spanking
the effects show up years later
my guess is your children are not teens yet
may be years to notice the effects of spanking
my last post
While I understand your idea, I would submit that one can be completely devoid of emotion, completely in control of their own actions, and still be abusive.Of course you don't want to abuse anyone. You spank enough just so that there is pain. Overdoing it is abuse and that happens when people spank out of anger. You calm down before you ever spank a child.
While I understand your idea, I would submit that one can be completely devoid of emotion, completely in control of their own actions, and still be abusive.
The spankings I got in kindergarten thru 2nd grade were exactly that. Dad and his belt. He knew how to take me just to the edge of unconsciousness but not go over that line. And I was not allowed to cry or react. If I did, I got it again. And again until I could get thru it with no emotional reaction like screaming or crying.
Hi everyone,
New member here. Just want to get some ideas on the best, most proper biblical way to spank a child.
1. What is the best implement to use? Hand, wooden spoon, etc.
2. Should it be done over clothing, underwear, or bare bottom?
3. How many strokes should be given? When should you stop? I know that the Bible doesn’t allow more that 40 strokes, but this is for adult criminals.
4. How do you deal with a child who hits, kicks, and screams bloody murder to try and get away?
5. Should a prayer be said before and after administering the spanking? If so, what are some good prayers for this?
According to the studies that supports spanking it is a two swat spank by parents who are well intentioned. So yes that means you do not beat your child or do anything out of anger. When I spank my children I do so out of love and the desire of wanting them to make better life decisions. So after I am done spanking I talk to them and let them speak so they can learn from it. Many parents who do it wrong do so out of anger or beat the child which is not spanking but abuse.
God was not wrong when He instructed Solomon.Some of us see causing "brokenness" in our children as abuse. Having experienced that kind of physical abuse as a child, I don't understand it as loving, or something to be grateful for.
Maybe, Andy, you were lucky; but if you don't understand others the best thing to do is ask more about their experiences and listen, rather than tell them how wrong they are.
That is not what God instructs.Never ever any reason to hit a child.
That is not what God instructs.