My concern is that I may be too strict on her? It seems that many if not all of her friends are allowed to do much more than I allow her to do.I am just so concerned for her safety and innocence.I know I cant shelter her from life.But, I would just like to know What other CHRISTIAN parents think.Here are a few rules we have,
Never allowed to stay overnight at friends houses.(although we always welcome her friends to stay over)
No internet except for school work.
No going to the mall without an adult
No boyfriends
Limited secular music and television.
Any thoughts would be appreciated as I do not have any christian friends with teenagers all of my friends have young children.As I do also have two boys ages 5 and 7
God Bless,
Sarahleo
You know, for a while I thought that I was strict, and to my 13 year old daughter, I am. But, as parents, we only have a very short time to train up a child in the way they must go.
I have noted we have similar rules in our home:
We do allow sleepovers, but we first get to know their parents, as well as the child. NO sleepovers at boys houses though. Girls only, and we must know the parents.
No internet, unless we are home, and for a very limited time. Our computer is in a very busy room, that way (and our kids know and dread this), we can, at anytime check to see what they are doing. We also require them to tell us what sites they are visiting. If we catch them at a site they did not mention, they lose computer privleges. Same goes for chatting on IM without our knowledge.
No boyfriends. NO boys visiting our home without a parent here. No boys on the phone unless a parent is here. ANd she must speak to them in a room with an adult (or at least where we can hear). She can also not go to a male friends house without a sibling. And that too, is just directly to the house and back.
Limited secular music and TV. My wife and I like to check lyrics to songs to see if they are appropriate. My 13 year old just loves that...not. We get the , "but there's no swearing" argument. Ahh, but we give her the "sexual content" reply. I am suprised at the amount of music out there today that talks about sex (or eludes to it heavily), you may as well pop an adult video and let them watch it, because some of the song lyrics I have seen are just too raw.
There is so much stuff the enemy likes to use to lure our children from Christ, and it is our responsibilty as parents to guide them away from the darkness of our world (not protect them from the world, but make them aware of it), and keep them in Christ's light.
So, in all those words, I agree with you. Great rules!