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Normalizing what? How do you make a sexual attraction that affects less than 5% of the male population mainstream? Tom, if terminology is important, than it is important to recognize that abuse and attraction are not the same thing, particularly when two-thirds of abusers do not have an attraction to children. Pedophilia is not abusive. Child sexual abuse is. One is the topic of this thread, the other is not.
Hi, I don't think you are wrong in what you are saying. This is an emotive issue however, and one of the reasons for that is the kind of damage that sexual abuse at an early age can wreak in a person's life. That in itself justifies tight controls on how it is talked about. Words do have power. Before going into farming I worked in social care. In that field there's a heavy emphasis on PC language, and this weakens the perception of things that are wrong and damaging as being as wrong and damaging.
I'm not sure what to think or feel about it really. It must be an absolute nightmare for someone to feel they are attracted to children in that way. Given, for example, the history of the medicalisation of mental health issues - without getting into that whole debate - I do have what I think is some justified skepticism about any definite conclusions coming out of research in this area. That said, I had quite a few gay colleagues in the UK and I don't doubt that they felt that way from a young age, I mean I can't convince myself that it was a conscious choice for them to feel that attraction, so I understand that it is deep rooted, as many issues are.
All I can say is that if I knew someone personally who was a Christian and struggled with this, but didn't act on it, then I would consider them my brother - and no more of a sinner than me - but I think I'd find it difficult. But initial difficulty in developing a friendship can lead to a deeper friendship in the longer run.
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