How Not To Get Baby To Sleep

[heart of peace]

My commentary was in relation to the actual study that the article is based, Christdefinesme. Did you read the actual study? I posted a link to it. I prefer to base my conclusions from the primary source rather than secondary sources. It is the researcher in me, what can I say?

Maladaptive is a subjective term - who is to say what constitutes poor adaption techniques? A Western minded professional has an extremely differing opinion from a more Eastern minded professional and so on. I also pointed out that the study was not applicable to all parents who utilize cosleeping although at first reading it may appear this way. The cosleeping commentary is directed towards those parents who began cosleeping as a reaction to poor sleeping habits in their infant whereas there was solo sleeping ocurring prior to that point. Therefore, the results of the study are in no way relevant to those parents who have coslept with their infants from day one as the choice to cosleep was not a reactive one.

The study is written in academic terms, so it requires one's brain to be acutely focused in order to make sense of all the jargon...lol What you stated is one aspect to the study and that is fairly easy to agree with as it is common sense that good habits are easier to maintain if taught from the beginning rather than trying to undo bad habits and turn them into good ones.

I hope that clears things up for you as you used the scratching head emoticon.

 

[Christdefinesme]

My commentary was in relation to the actual study that the article is based, Christdefinesme. Did you read the actual study? ........
I hope that clears things up for you as you used the scratching head emoticon.

Huh.......
I am not sure where the misunderstanding lies, but my post wasn't directed at you or anyone else, I was just answering the OP.
I was scratching my head because I wasn't sure there was a "side" to take with the article (and that could just be me not getting it ). I don't really have any argument for anyone who has posted here.
Hope this clears things up.

 

[heart of peace]

Ok then

 

[sparassidae]

Okay, so this article doesn't seem to adress our family at all- we coslept from the start, not out of reaction to sleep problems. But here's my 2 cents anyway

While I agree in principle with the 'start good habits early' I guess those 'good habits' are quite subjective (as MsDahl was saying). So if you want your toddlers sleeping solo, then start the baby sleeping solo. If you are happy to night feed your toddler, then night feed your baby.

Of course what they didn't address is the different personalities of babies. As Jgonz said, we have wildly different sleeping habits with our children, yet they were all parented exactly the same at night- fed when needed, cosleeping until needed. Some are happy to sleep alone, some aren't. Some fall asleep quickly, others don't.

I have actually found that the 'falling asleep quickly' is more related to age- they go through certain stages of not wanting (or being able) to fall asleep easily, then grow out of it.

And for the record, even our 'poor sleeper' (by western society's definition) still sleeps 11-12 hours a night. Just not in one straight stretch and not in his own bed

 

[gracepaints]

Most of me wonders how much better all our children would sleep if we could just stop worrying about it all the time.

 

[jgonz]

Gracepaints, I think you've hit the nail on the head. The more I worried (in the past) about how much sleep _I_ or _any_ of my kids was getting, the less we seemed to get. When I just gave up and went with the flow, everyone was more relaxed and slept more~ or at least was more rested.